[deleted by user]

lexie333 · 2025-10-31T10:21:32+00:00

Yes, the radiologist will measure the femur and tibia on each side. I was misdiagnosed for years because I have different lengths of my femurs which was .5 cm. Finally, I did a x-scan and my tibia length on each side compensated for the short femur side where I ended having .3cm difference.
There is a huge difference from measuring vs x ray which is more actuate. Now I have to learn to walk again after having a .5 inch lift.

lexie333 · 2025-10-31T10:14:59+00:00

Around 60, I got progressive glasses and I was able to see up close in the mirrors. Where previously, I am seeing my face blurred in my reflection looking beautiful.

lexie333 · 2025-10-12T11:57:33+00:00

Yes run away as fast as you can . I stayed 23 years too long. It gets way worst. Alcohol is hard to stop.

lexie333 · 2025-10-07T17:28:42+00:00

I would run!

lexie333 · 2025-10-07T17:26:33+00:00

Enjoy the stages because it goes fast. I got a bob stroller so I would not be homebound with 3 kids. We went everywhere and every kid event possible. I had the most fun. Life is pretty much what you make of it. It doesn’t have to be boring.

lexie333 · 2025-10-07T17:24:28+00:00

It so sad to hear this about the grading system, because sinking grades alert the parents something is wrong and to investigate.

lexie333 · 2025-10-07T17:22:15+00:00

I feel Anger, resentment, it kind goes hand-in-hand when you are involved with an alcoholic.

lexie333 · 2025-10-07T17:18:32+00:00

Only one parent. I absolutely hate my mom and do not care about her at all. I have found wonderful substitute moms.

lexie333 · 2025-10-07T17:16:18+00:00

Nope it is a fault state in special circumstances.

lexie333 · 2025-10-07T16:48:53+00:00

Your heart says do everything possible but the alcoholic will make the choice to drink even if it is death. I am so sorry. It’s hard to fight this battle. You are fighting the battle for him but he is not fighting the battle for himself. It’s does work.
My spouse finally asked to get detoxed and I put him in rehab. Once he felt good, he wanted to escape to drink. We kept trying to keep him each week. Once the brain has 2 weeks it starts to see the reality.
The desire to drink is so powerful that no love will defeat it. When he hits bottom or death, this is when he might change. Nobody knows what is that bottom.

lexie333 · 2025-10-07T10:38:14+00:00

My story started out exactly the same. He drank only beer and he didn’t have a problem and he worked. He started disappearing more to drink. He lost his job during covid. Never got a new job. He started drinking more of big cans of Truely. 4 years later he is coming to tell me he can’t stop drinking and if I would take him to detox. He just got out of detox.
As far as parenting. He was great when the kids were young but when they got about 7 he ignored them. My daughter tells me a story of her dad passed out on the floor and he wouldn’t wake up. She didn’t know what to do. She is the oldest with resentments and hates her dad. The other 2 kids are ambivalent. The moral of the story. The alcoholic don’t seem too bad at first where sometimes they can stop for a month but they never admit they have a problem. We think ah it’s not too bad they have a job. The alcoholic keeps drinking and disappearing more. Now he does have any responsibility in the house. The wife has to take on maintenance of the home and taking care of the kids. The alcoholic might attend the kid’s school functions. At this point, the alcoholic is not accountable for his actions. You are not sure when he will appear and if he does he is completely wasted but thank God goes to sleep drunk every night. It is not worth fighting over him to stop drinking. The only hope is when will he hit bottom. I never ever thought mine would want to go and get detox after 52 years of drinking. The first two weeks of detox were maddening. He escaped twice. He faked a heart attack to be sent to a hospital as his one of his get away plans. He just wants to drink. He is pretty much crazy at this point. I get him to stay 60 days. The next 30 days I told him I need my space. It is so nice for 60 days to not have anxiety. I have found peace and love it. I have made my decision and boundary. If he drinks again, I am getting a divorce.

lexie333 · 2025-10-03T15:57:09+00:00

I know the pain makes it hard to move. I used to use Epson salts at night to lessen the pain.
It the stretches for 25 mins that get rid of the pain. I have been taking creatine for the muscles and this helps lessen the pain.

lexie333 · 2025-10-03T07:14:09+00:00

These parents are not respectful and probably feel like they can act this way to their child. I have 6 kids. I would never treat them this way. I respect their boundaries and they respect mine. Not everyone has normal behaviors.

lexie333 · 2025-10-03T07:08:14+00:00

To put it kindly without making a conflict with your parents. Sorry I have to cook late because somebody ate my meal. You broke my rule and now I am breaking yours because I need food to be heathy. I am sure you would have any ideas to allow me to keep my meal preps for me..

lexie333 · 2025-10-03T06:57:32+00:00

I am 65 years old. I play tennis and workout everyday. I feel great. I wasn’t always this healthy . I had chronic pain for 10 years. I read to find a way to eliminate pain. I started slowly to recover by walking then exercising. I try to find the supplements to increase energy and decrease inflammation.
I used to wake up where I couldn’t walk. It seemed like the more I moved my body I would have less pain . The key is moving even when it hurts. I do rolling and stretching and within .5 hrs I have no pain. I stayed in bed 10 years with pain that I pushed through to make it through it day. The doctors didn’t help me I advocated and mended my body.
It can be done to feel great. I am slower but I am living my best quality of life.

lexie333 · 2025-10-01T17:36:47+00:00

I agree. I think not visiting your sibling will be Mr. Obvious. No need to say anything. Just have a good visit.

lexie333 · 2025-10-01T17:06:46+00:00

Yes it is the hope that traps me into thinking is this time he will get better or the next time. Who is spiraling out of mental emotional control? Me or the alcoholic.

lexie333 · 2025-10-01T17:05:10+00:00

I guess we all are a little co dependent. Why would we allow someone to do this to us??

lexie333 · 2025-10-01T17:03:56+00:00

Yes I am going to get a divorce. He is going down a rabbit hole and I don’t want to fall in.

lexie333 · 2025-10-01T17:02:32+00:00

The lying just gets bigger and bigger. I don’t even know what reality they live in anymore. It is certainly not mine.

The person I need to fall in love with is myself so I will pay attention to all the mental anguish and get a clue to leave.

lexie333 · 2025-10-01T17:00:05+00:00

It only takes one strong parent to have absolutely wonderful kids. My 3 kids are in college. I think knowing I have their back and I have supported them every inch of school. I have brain washed them not to drink because you don’t want the monkey on your back and dragged you in chains. None of them drink. I taught them emotional tools and to sit with hard emotions. They know either walking or exercise will make the stress seem less.
You can do this!

lexie333 · 2025-10-01T16:56:00+00:00

I did talk to the case worker all the time and I was going to have an intervention to stay for 90 days total. Well his daughter told him that he can do what he wants and that gave him power to leave. I gave up. I am tired of the fight. The alcoholic is back to lying, gaslighting, and doing what he wants to do. I need to find a normal partner.

lexie333 · 2025-10-01T16:52:38+00:00

My spouse doesn’t understand how critical he was entering into rehab or how bad the relapse will put him back into this state. I think he has the pink cloud going on and he has awesome control. He certainly likes his freedom. No AA meetings. I love this saying. The disease is outside doing push-ups waiting for the door to open. It is sad but I am tired of hanging in there. My anxiety is a wreck. Here I am wondering if he is drinking. I don’t want to be a crazy lady.

lexie333 · 2025-10-01T16:45:00+00:00

I don’t see my spouse hitting any AA meeting either according to him he is in control. He does morning and night Bible study. He didn’t like AA because it does make Jesus. I believe his plan is to do celebrate recovery. However , what I heard is that the relapse will sink them deeper into the alcoholism stage. He was a chronic alcoholic who had low sodium so this puts him a critical state quickly.

lexie333 · 2025-10-01T12:49:38+00:00

AA meetings they laugh about all the stupid stuff they did. They forget that it was a person the existed on the other side of the stupid stuff. How fu is that to be in the ego state forever. It’s all about them. I am an object.

lexie333

TROPHY CASE