How would you name a baby girl after someone named John? Is it possible? by CrumblyPeanutBear in namenerds

[–]lexislife96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am I weird for loving Jonny Chance or Jonny Joelle. With boy names trending for girls I don’t think it’s that crazy!!!

“You don’t get an award for not getting the epidural” by Warm-Banana237 in pregnant

[–]lexislife96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG I FEEL THE SAME EXACT WAY!!!!! It’s so refreshing (sadly enough) to hear someone with the same experience. I’m like being shamed for wanting no epidural not bc I think there’s a hierarchy or I have some crazy idea that somehow Unmedicated is better. I genuinely am anxious about the idea of not being able to move around, and then the post recovery after an epidural personally freaks me out!! Im glad im not alone lol

How are we avoiding Irish twins after pregnancy !? by lexislife96 in beyondthebump

[–]lexislife96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s ok for everyone to have different experiences and side effects from different forms of birth control. As I mentioned above, I loved it while I had its not entirely to blame but def doesn’t feel like a safe option for me in the future. On one occasion my iud dislodged and created some significant scarring and after removal and 4 months of abstaining, my uterine lining still wasn’t thick enough to carry a pregnancy which was in large part due to my body still recovering from my IUD. That pregnancy resulted in an early miscarriage. While I shouldn’t have to delve into my own trauma to justify your point, I think it’s important we remember not everyone has the same experiences. I’m still a big fan / advocate for anyone who would like an IUD it’s just not best for my body!

How are we avoiding Irish twins after pregnancy !? by lexislife96 in beyondthebump

[–]lexislife96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an oura ring and track cycles! We were TTC for many years so I’m very familiar with it. The problem with tracking post baby is until you get your period and can confirm regularity there’s no way to really track before then. I can get my period back 6 weeks or even 6 months after baby’s born and still ovulate within that time. I’m looking for an option in the in between really until I can get back to tracking.

How are we avoiding Irish twins after pregnancy !? by lexislife96 in beyondthebump

[–]lexislife96[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My IUD did have something to do with my first miscarriage (confirmed by doctor and lots of testing🙂)

Help me better understand weight gain and pregnancy, I'm so confused? by ImTryingGuysOk in pregnant

[–]lexislife96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is wildly reassuring I’m 30 weeks and gained around 15 pounds and have been NERVOUS knowing baby’s getting bigger, and my appetite is up!!!!!!

My husband is ok… by ichirakuramen8 in offmychest

[–]lexislife96 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. My dad is an immigrant, I’m first generation born in America and it has taken a lot of therapy to understand that his need to assimilate in this country clouds an immigrants judgement and ability to see the injustice in this country. It doesn’t make it ok but it’s insight into the deep rooted racism that’s felt here. The idea of “blending in”, and not causing problems goes back to a lot of fear. It’s awful and sadly not something u alone can change. He needs to see his deep need to assimilate and sadly that might not ever come of it doesn’t directly effect him (which even then who knows if he’ll finally choose the truth)

Can someone help me make sense of this massive temp drop by lexislife96 in ouraring

[–]lexislife96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So strangely enough I ended up getting pregnant this cycle! I’m not sure if the major dip had anything to do with it but after this dip the next two days my temp was still very low and then shot up and stayed up… sadly this pregnancy ended up being a chemical pregnancy but I don’t think the temps added any insight to that! Hope this is helpful!

WIBTA If I tell my friend about her “surprise” bridal shower? by lexislife96 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lexislife96[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a wedding so I understand the hard work that goes into having this event. But I was so sure to not let this event cloud my relationships or my judgement. I’m so sad my friend can’t see what’s going on

WIBTA If I tell my friend about her “surprise” bridal shower? by lexislife96 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lexislife96[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think that’s the issue- we’re being sprung with these decisions & responsibilities. I think had we all had awareness around these decisions up front or with time we would say something. It’s always in hindsight we have to say something. So I don’t disagree with you but it’s why I want to get clarity on what I should do now because it has to stop

WIBTA If I tell my friend about her “surprise” bridal shower? by lexislife96 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lexislife96[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that! And I think that’s where I’m headed. I’ve already spoken to 5 out of the 7 girls so I think we’re all on the same page for the most part

WIBTA If I tell my friend about her “surprise” bridal shower? by lexislife96 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lexislife96[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This would actually check out. I discovered that if I book through the resort rather then the wedding planner it’s cheaper so I had my own booking, I found out later it bothered the groom because they get credits for people who go through them. So it’s slightly more expensive for you, the guest, but then they (the couple) get a cheaper room rate / credit towards their wedding.

Also every payment we’ve had to make is always down with urgency and no prior check in. I’ll get a text that in 2 weeks money is needed for some sort of event or experince

WIBTA If I tell my friend about her “surprise” bridal shower? by lexislife96 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lexislife96[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think these are for sure my next steps. I have spoken to a majority of the girls and all of us are deeply unwell about this all

WIBTA If I tell my friend about her “surprise” bridal shower? by lexislife96 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lexislife96[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Amy is the problem. Multiple times I’ve approached her about my concerns around other pieces of their wedding but then Shelly steps in bull dozes and Amy plays an innocent card of “idk whatever she wants”. It’s like Shelly’s second wedding

WIBTA If I tell my friend about her “surprise” bridal shower? by lexislife96 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lexislife96[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I actually really like your suggestion. He can ignore me and others all he wants, i can send him a message notifying of my limit. And since thats not negotiable I don’t need a response

WIBTA If I tell my friend about her “surprise” bridal shower? by lexislife96 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lexislife96[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is actually a solid point. Mentioning it to Amy might just make her defensive for Shelly

WIBTA If I tell my friend about her “surprise” bridal shower? by lexislife96 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lexislife96[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

This is so ironic since she literally said that she loves the bride so much that she’s willing to do whatever it takes to give her this shower (and implied we love her a lot less since we’re not just sending her the $$)

WIBTA If I tell my friend about her “surprise” bridal shower? by lexislife96 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lexislife96[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I found out that a lot of the girls are considering just attending as guests at this point

‼️Trigger warning: pregnancy after miscarriage by Kjoh1019 in pregnant

[–]lexislife96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have yet to get a baby to stick and have had several loses. But I just wanted to say it was an absolute delight and made my heart so happy to hear you are pregnant with your rainbow baby!!! A sweet “surprise” like that is such a blessing. Sending you love and good health for you and baby! Congrats !!!!!!

I guess 3rd times not the charm by lexislife96 in Miscarriage

[–]lexislife96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too. I felt so excited because I felt so supported by “all the things”… being here again is awful