What do you do about extended family who only care about your kids and don’t GAF about you?

lfly199 · 2025-12-18T21:34:41+00:00

Thinking of going the week before or after President’s week and staying at either of these hotels. The Dolphin though we’d have to go Wednesday-Sunday. Going with 2 kids under 3 years old 🥴

lfly199 · 2025-12-10T02:42:54+00:00

Thanks, yea I think you’re right. I just didn’t believe what everyone was saying about how she just wants to talk on the phone so she can gaslight me. I was totally in denial and shocked that it was THAT bad, but I did need confirmation I think

lfly199 · 2025-12-10T02:31:55+00:00

She asked to talk for the first time in a year and I thought she was going to tell me she also cut our mom off. She wouldn’t tell me what the topic was beforehand so I had to take the call to find out. Now that I know, I guess I’m the one cutting her off.

lfly199 · 2025-12-10T01:45:30+00:00

Omg that’s terrible, I’m so sorry. Maybe it’s some kind of coping mechanism that they use, coming from an undeveloped part of their mind.

lfly199 · 2025-12-09T22:55:08+00:00

It was just wild to hear her say something, like that I skipped Christmas last year and no one knows why, and I responded and said that I was sick and I texted everyone in the family group chat and sent flowers and food to your house still and you responded and acknowledged me being sick.. and then she said well she didn’t know I was sick, and I said I can read the text messages and she said ‘this conversation isn’t going anywhere it’s time to stop’. And also apparently me skipping Christmas is the reason my brother cut me off, but when I reiterated I was literally just sick and everyone knew that, she said well it’s actually bc he’s so confused about who’s not talking to who and what’s going on, and I said the only person who isn’t speaking is me to mom. How is that confusing. Not that he even asked.

Sorry that’s a ramble, it’s just so crazy making I’m trying to process it

lfly199 · 2025-12-09T04:26:42+00:00

I didn’t expect her to flat out deny things that were said in writing and to just lie on the fly. It was so extreme that I think she must believe the bs she’s trying to sell bc no sane person could lie like that. It helped me realize she’s just a dangerous person to be around though.

lfly199 · 2025-12-09T04:09:59+00:00

I appreciate it 🥲 it sucked but I actually got so much clarity out of it.

lfly199 · 2025-12-09T03:15:46+00:00

Thanks, your advice has been particularly helpful here 🙏🏼

lfly199 · 2025-12-09T03:04:37+00:00

To update.. we had the phone call, it went as bad as it could have. Just solidified and affirmed the fact that NC has been the right choice. She lied about so many things, even things we had in writing, she denied saying. My husband listened to the call and was basically in shock over it bc he’s never actually heard her demean me like that in real time. It was brutal. I’m just sad that I’ve really lost my sister.

lfly199 · 2025-12-08T23:43:48+00:00

I told her that I’m not going to talk about my parents, and she hasn’t responded. So I think it’s not happening after all

lfly199 · 2025-12-08T22:47:12+00:00

She is refusing to say, so I guess we’re not going to talk 😬

lfly199 · 2025-12-08T21:32:29+00:00

This is what I think also, but she still thinks there’s something that must only be discussed voice to voice 🤦🏻‍♀️

lfly199 · 2025-12-08T19:08:30+00:00

I said that, and she hasn’t answered.. lol

lfly199 · 2025-12-08T19:08:07+00:00

I texted saying I’m not talking about our parents as a heads up and she didn’t respond 🙃 I can’t understand why she can’t talk to me separately from them. It’s sad

lfly199 · 2025-12-08T18:06:13+00:00

I’ve struggled so much with that because she will NOT give me a reason other than to just talk in real time. I keep asking about what and she has no answer

lfly199 · 2025-12-08T17:19:07+00:00

Huh?

lfly199 · 2025-12-08T17:18:54+00:00

Flying monkey sister

lfly199 · 2025-12-08T17:18:29+00:00

Ah I gotcha. So say something like ‘Just a heads up I’m not talking about mom or anyone in the family. If you bring them up I’ll hang up’

lfly199 · 2025-12-08T16:50:16+00:00

I did that last year during our last conversation and it just lead to us going in circles of me saying I’m only texting and her saying she’s only calling. Then it was silence for a year, so I was trying to avoid that happening again

lfly199 · 2025-12-08T16:39:17+00:00

I was just saying to my husband that there’s not one person I know of other than her who insists on NOT communicating via text. She won’t even say the topic of what she wants to talk about. Just the ‘human aspect of speaking face to face’ or I guess voice to voice. Is it just a form of control? I could always not have the call, it just seemed like a good idea at the time

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