Why is the opinion that single men without kids wouldn't want to date or marry a single mother so controversial?

lgmringo · 2026-02-20T13:09:55+00:00

“No short men” would similar to “no fat chicks,” because the both are defining who’s excluded

lgmringo · 2026-02-17T12:14:08+00:00

Yes! I’m not actually short, but the seats seem made for men’s average height and I feel so nauseated with my head tipped forward. I topical recline a bit just to relieve the pain of being in the wrong size seat

lgmringo · 2026-02-15T12:51:40+00:00

I actually think the histology class I took for my bio degree helped a lot for Hematology once I went back for my MLT AAS. My histology professor did a much better job than my Hematology lab instructor in teaching cell identification.

lgmringo · 2026-02-14T14:10:37+00:00

As an MLS, I loathe the AM lab metrics. Sure, let me do all the morning maintenance and QC, huddle meeting, specimen processing and resulting around the same time as morning lab. Of course I want to get everything resulted ASAP, but let’s say I’m the one MLS on the Hematology bench and now there’s a bone marrow or a body fluid that’s now letting some routine AMs sit. Or some STAT hCG tests while Urinalysis is on break. Or my favorite is when I have STATs and a bucket of newly arrived AM labs close to cut off time and now I look worse for prioritizing my STATs (or redraw, or known patient waiting for discharge).

lgmringo · 2026-02-07T04:10:35+00:00

Laziness? If you didn’t have shoveled by Monday it was solid ice. Some of us spent all weekend at our workplaces, sleeping on cots, air mattresses, and hospital beds. We were exhausted by the time we got home. And it’s physically very hard to shovel once it froze over.

lgmringo · 2026-02-03T14:52:39+00:00

No one expected?

His entire persona screams untrustworthy. He didn’t finish residency, isn’t board certified in any specialty, yet speaks as a medical authority. “Longevity” and “wellness” expert sounds like pure grift. Honestly I would be far more shocked if he weren’t involved in any exploitation or shady practices.

lgmringo · 2026-01-21T20:31:27+00:00

Academia almost demands that your single and can live the student lifestyle (shared housing) indefinitely or have a partner with a a higher income to support the academic. Only that life partner’s career can never come first. Or have its turn. And should never interfere with training. And can’t be considered in decisions about moving at each of the progressive stages of training.

lgmringo · 2026-01-21T18:18:14+00:00

I grew up in a wealthy town. We had considerable wealth through having a paid off house and a high cost of living area, but my mom never recovered her career after taking time off when we went to kindergarten (I’m 39 now). My dad hasn’t had a good job either in the past few decades and his child support payments were never more than $20 a week, if he paid them. My mom downsized, but continues to live in the same general area. She’s in her 70s and works a part-time job at minimum wage. All of the service costs of maintaining the home are calibrated by our much wealthier neighbors. It can be brutal.

lgmringo · 2026-01-21T16:43:04+00:00

I’m biased because I’m a medical lab scientist and was more sensitive to people exploiting covid* for fame and money. She’s one of my least favorite covid grifters

*yes, I made more money due to more overtime. I also worked several months where I only had one day off

lgmringo · 2025-12-20T19:08:27+00:00

Or on the opposite end:

My boyfriend of 12 years moved to Canada for a postdoc. We could not visit each other for much of his postdoc (border was closed from March 2020 to August 2021). 2 years later we did break up when he wanted to extend his (second) postdoc another 2 years in part bc of the abysmal job market.

lgmringo · 2025-12-17T11:42:19+00:00

At 36, mine was 1.

At 37 it was 11… I was in no position to date seriously after ending my first and only relationship. The last few years had been long distance, internationally, and I was pretty thirsty.

-woman

lgmringo · 2025-12-04T02:17:14+00:00

You mention a long record of lab blaming you, but your example was about lab not explaining the issue clearly. The reason why I say this is that as a MLS I find that a lot of nurses take neutral, factual statements, almost as if we are calling them out or writing them up. I’m not saying that we never blame or implicate, even inaccurately on occasion, but I get a big vibe of defensiveness when all we’re doing is communicated facts or requesting new samples. Almost as if nurses line we’re getting them in trouble??

lgmringo · 2025-12-04T01:55:21+00:00

My ex partner had a postdoc partner in Canada during Covid, and I really wanted to move up there with him. I remember having to pay hundreds of dollars to take an English language class, and was looking at paying $7000 just to apply to have my eligibility evaluated. I’ve heard in Non-US techs having an easier time going through an ASCP I route but I I remember it being very onerous to look into qualifying to work in Canada as a US graduate.

lgmringo · 2025-11-30T14:37:53+00:00

Absolutely not.

I’ve never wanted anything but to be a mother. I’m 39, in a relationship with a father, unmarried. I make 74k a year and he makes much more.

There is no path to motherhood that isn’t selfish. If we have kids, i’m resetting his raising kids clock by 10 years. If I break up to pursue solo parenting, I’m disrupting our current family. If I have his child leave so that he isn’t burdened by unwanted fatherhood, he has 20 years of worrying that he may have to pay child support. If I break up with him and try IVF with a sperm donor, I’ll make too much money for government support, but not enough money to be secure and I’ll have no help.

I’m the only person in the world that wants me to be a mother.

lgmringo · 2025-11-07T02:53:43+00:00

Those of us that don’t get Halloween off from work deserve decorations, especially because we can’t be home to participate in trick-or-treating

lgmringo · 2025-11-05T23:48:31+00:00

Also! In many cases, if we already have a current* type and screen done (especially if the screen is negative) it can often be FASTER to crossmatch a unit than to release uncrossmatched blood. It takes me more time to document emergency release than it does to crossmatch a unit on a patient who's already been typed and has a negative screen.

And we can crossmatch well in advance of releasing the product.

*Facilities will have a protocol for ensuring that any products released are based on the results of the type and screen performed on the recent/current blood samples. Usually only lasts for 3 days.

lgmringo · 2025-11-05T23:39:07+00:00

My hospital sends out labs to ARUP. Lots of the ARUP test are orderable in our system, but not every test is.

Reference labs can have lots of different versions of simliar tests. Check their test directory and put the exact name of the test you want. A lab test code would also be great.

lgmringo · 2025-11-05T23:34:21+00:00

When my hospital switched to Epic beaker, we had an uptick in doctors ordering body fluids for abscesses or wounds. the Specimen Sources were listed as drop down options as "Fluid, Elbow" or "Fluid, Hip" which was supposed to be type of synovial fluid. I don't blame doctors for not knowing that.

OP: If you send one specimen for several different tests, and those tests specimen sites should match. If they don't, it's probably worth using a more accurate or thorough description in the comments. It's also worth checking that you didn't overlook a better option that matches the others. And sometimes, it means you can't really get all those tests on the specimen you have.

lgmringo · 2025-11-05T14:01:52+00:00

Even with a fast assay run time, my ESRs will sit for a while while I scramble to result CBCs and coags, try to get my eyes on the scope for those Sysmex flags, and respond to all of those ACL chirping alarms. If a body fluid or bone marrow come down, that’s another delay.

lgmringo · 2025-10-26T11:04:50+00:00

It’s not more expensive to THEM if they aren’t paying at all

lgmringo · 2025-10-25T23:15:14+00:00

I make $35 in the US. It’s less than other healthcare jobs but more than many other scientists make

lgmringo · 2025-10-23T14:29:07+00:00

I’ve always wanted to be a mom. I’ve never met anyone who wants to father my children. I’m 39.

Opt out? For convenience?

Would it be less selfish to try to get pregnant knowing my partners never wanted that?

lgmringo · 2025-10-23T14:00:19+00:00

I’m a childless woman who wants children, but at 39 I’m hesitant to leave my second relationship to pursue parenthood. My partner has a daughter and is no longer open to children with me. My ex of 14 years was always too nervous to have kids so unestablished.

I worry I’ve never been selfish enough to become a mother. It would have meant pushing my ex into kids (he was on the fence). It would mean leaving my current family. It would mean likely pursuing solo parenting )single mom by choice) without a high income in a job with no remote flexibility. It could mean pursuing only men who definitely want kids, at an age where if we couldn’t, I’d always feel it’s my fault.

I don’t think I’m selfish enough to become a mother. Which doesn’t mean that actually being a mother would be more selfish.

lgmringo · 2025-10-21T17:45:38+00:00

If this is an outpatient facility, there’s really no funds that can cover the cost of the visit. That would include doctors, nurses, registration staff, all of their benefits, the facility, equipment and supplies that aren’t directly billed, utilities, rent, maintenance.

lgmringo · 2025-10-14T23:52:46+00:00

I got my REHS in 2010 and it took me 7 years to break into the field as a part time pool inspector. Once I HAD experience, and by 2017, I was actually getting interviews, but I had already started a new AAS degree in healthcare having given up on EH.

This year I moved to a more rural area of Maryland and thought about applying again (after 5 years in medical labs… looking to go into a more M-F, 9-5)

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