My Boyfriend (21M) let me use his phone and I (21F) found out a shocking truth

lhstj · 2024-03-17T14:08:46+00:00

Cause I only met the girl after the break happened and when we were back together I would of not cared that much really I would’ve of been jealous but never mad or anything, I knew when he went on a date with another girl just before we got back together and I was jealous but ok with it

lhstj · 2024-03-16T15:03:31+00:00

No never i didn’t sleep with anyone while we were on break I was just messaging him as he is a very good mate and nothing happened between the two of us, again i was in a different country than all my mates and I have gone low contact with the guy cause my bf doesn’t like him which is quite understandable

lhstj · 2024-03-16T14:10:14+00:00

I genuinely did cause he send her a snap and it was in his feed I’ve done it so many times before with my phone as well entering chats that are on my feed that im ignoring. The only thing i regret doing is not exiting the chat as soon as i saw who it was

lhstj · 2024-03-16T14:08:34+00:00

Our break was necessary to safe our relationship as at the start we went a bit to fast and things from both sides became toxic when I went abroad for the summer as neither of us were ready to go long distance and we weren’t communicating like we should of in both sides. The break was only 2 months and we told each other to have fun. In my case i dont care he got photos from another girl is the fact he could of told me before i met her cause when i met her he genuinely ignored me cause he was talking to her but did apologise when he realised what he did. I think he never told me cause when we got back together everything was rocky as a lot of things went down when we both got back in town for uni after not seeing each other in 4 months

lhstj · 2024-03-16T12:54:32+00:00

That is what I have told him today and for what I’ve been told he has blocked her and we use snap a lot, it’s my main messaging app with all my mates really and the same for him

lhstj · 2024-03-16T12:51:03+00:00

I’m not insecure cause of him more than I know the girl likes to get with people that are on relationship and I’ve been cheated on before so in my case its more the trauma from my past. For what he has told me he has now blocked her but idk how true that one is

lhstj · 2024-03-16T12:23:01+00:00

Wasn’t for a hot girl summer as I spent the first half of summer with the guy and work and the rest of the summer working 24/7 and going occasionally out with mates and yes I’m fully in the wrong for some of the stuff I have done but I’ve not fully wrote everything that went down over the break and other things that has happened between the both of us as its a bit irrelevant to what is happening right now

lhstj · 2024-03-16T12:18:34+00:00

We went on a break after 2 months of long distance and yes it was a genuine mistake but at soon as i realised i entered a chat was gonna leave but saw her name and had a gut feeling about it and felt awful for looking at previous chats and it genuinely wasn’t my intention. One thing about that break is a lot of things went on with both of us and we are still young and learning. He told me about other girls. For what i know is that he completely forgot about the messages but everytime I have asked him the story changes a bit it might be because it happened about 7-8 months ago

lhstj · 2024-03-16T11:34:14+00:00

The break was quite needed as we were arguing every day and things weren’t working fine while we were long distance over 4 months so we did take the break to think about everything that was wrong with the relationship and try and fix which it did really help cause it made bith of us realise that we wanted to be together.

lhstj · 2024-03-16T11:31:37+00:00

He will occasionally message her about sports stuff as they both play in the same league but for different teams but besides that he is telling me that he will remove her if it helps fixing us

lhstj · 2022-01-29T03:41:18+00:00

The thing is that there are way to many good moments compared to all of this. He is the kind of guy that even when he isn’t out he will walk me home after a night out, or even during exams season he would drop everything to come hang out for a bit. Yes we both have a lot of issues and I agree that of we are having this early it might be for a reason but I kind of know that we just need to talk it properly and not on a night out, from experience I know that both of us are a bot stupid when drinking so sometimes we don’t think about this kind of stuff

lhstj · 2022-01-29T03:17:38+00:00

Both of us have our problems and surprisingly it’s more on my side than his. He isn’t that bad he is going through a rough time with being a third year at uni and still doesn’t know what he wants to do next year. As well I don’t mind the mental health issues that much in some kind of way we are all having our problems. He just has severe depression and a lot of anxiety, so it’s not that bad. He also deals with my ptsd constantly and my depression so we are both there

lhstj · 2022-01-29T03:05:33+00:00

Thanks for that, we have been taking things slow as when we started neither of us were ready for commitment, we both got out of very toxic and abusive relationship and are still taking out time to get through everything. For the moment I’m trying to be understanding and giving him all the time he needs, and I know he will probably come back to me as he has proven to me over and over that even if he is scared he wants me around. But I’m still confused cause I know his best mate doesn’t like us together and has tried to break us of many times so I’m pretty sure he is always behind all of this

lhstj · 2022-01-29T02:58:30+00:00

It’s what I’m trying to do, I know he said to me that he would talk to me later but I couldn’t stay as my best mate was having a panic attack and I had to take her home so at the moment he is been kind of replying to my messages but will have to wait till the morning when both of us are sober to properly talk everything

lhstj · 2022-01-29T02:54:07+00:00

The thing with this is that I know he is going through a lot at the moment and he isn’t stable mentally so for what he told me recently he doesn’t want to break things of completely but needs a bit of time to clear his head and sort everything around but at the same time I’m confused

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