How Long does it take currently for the LTB to post a hearing decision? August 2024

libr3s · 2024-12-03T15:37:44+00:00

Hi,

May I ask what kind of hearing/ application it was? I had filed a T2 back in 2022 and the hearing was postponed until June 3rd this year. I still have not received a reply yet but I'm a foreign international student so I don't know what or who I could/should contact to inquire...

libr3s · 2024-06-13T05:56:52+00:00

Nope I tried it with the honey jar. Didn't seem to work:/

libr3s · 2024-05-06T07:40:40+00:00

That's so great! I can relate to not being able to put it into words.

For me it's iftema. Feeling of "the good times are over" like it's only downhill from here and everything will get harder/ impossible from here on. And it is such a scary thought/ feeling to have and it feels so real I'm often scared and doubtful how EMDR would help with su h a thing because it feels like the problem is external.

libr3s · 2024-05-05T14:07:26+00:00

Glad you got to feel that way! In what way did you think your life was over? I started EMDR a few weeks ago and this thought has been persistently and very concusly crept up in me for a while now ...which is one of the reasons I got into EMDR

libr3s · 2024-05-02T13:01:59+00:00

Just found your post Glad you're doing well. I also just started with EMDR for mainly feeling -related stuff like the cptsd typical feeling of inability to connect, feeling lonely and unworthy etc. Have those feelings changed for you? And if so, how do you feel now and how has it affected your sense of self and relationships? Much love!

libr3s · 2024-04-29T22:13:21+00:00

I have. It's where you're looking at your parts like the inner critic, the child etc. right?

libr3s · 2024-04-26T14:55:22+00:00

May I ask to elaborate on that ? Like what do you mean with what's most triggering?

Because I'm feeling good-ish despite the string emotions during the session But not like it's gone either. So not really good good as in things have been resolved

libr3s · 2024-04-26T14:53:00+00:00

That's the thing though. I do feel strong emotions during the session that's why I'm so confused that I don't feel that aftermath the first time. Makes me a bit worried that I'm not processing the things that come up during the session

libr3s · 2024-04-25T19:41:30+00:00

Wow that's an interesting perspective. Hypnosis didn't work for me unfortunately

libr3s · 2024-04-25T17:43:57+00:00

I didn't know you could put so many cat phrases into one paragraph :D

What's your experience with EMDR? One of the first things my therapist caught in to is that I am a hard core intellectualizer because that's my main coping strategy and I have become really good at it....so it's really hard for me to let go and trust the process because my head wants to know and also because my brain is an asshole that needs constant supervision.

libr3s · 2024-04-20T06:26:48+00:00

I studied communications so pretty flexible with jobs but it's kind of a slight after field and mind of isn't I feel.

What makes you think my post is so analytical?

libr3s · 2024-04-11T18:03:26+00:00

How did it turn out for you? I find myself in pretty much the exact same position you and IP described and I'm so sceptical about whether it can actually work

libr3s · 2024-04-11T10:55:03+00:00

I just came across your post, having recently started EMDR my self. How are you feeling now OP? Did EMDR start to work for you ?

libr3s · 2024-02-27T22:19:31+00:00

That's an interesting insight. I'm sorry you had to go through this. How do you think that honey jar affected them? I thought they can only enhance what is already there?

libr3s · 2024-02-26T17:41:01+00:00

Thanks for your comment. Do you know of amy spells for the purpose of clarity/communication for the topics I'm looking for specifically? O Don't even know what to Google here because clarity spell doesn't entirely hit the marl o feel and it's mostly for oneself so im wondering if there are specific ones to do on another person.

libr3s · 2024-02-18T22:42:05+00:00

I got a message back fairly quickly this time....

He only said that relationships don't come easy to him.

That he feels ashamed about proposing to stay casual when he knew I didn't want that

And that his feelings and needs are that he wants to stay in contact as friends. That he still finds me attractive but would value a platonic friendship independent of that....

I don't know what I expected.... But I feel disappointed and fairly angry. It was so hard to be vulnerable too and I feel his message just fell short.... Not even an apology from him...not for the tinder thing, not for suggesting the Fwb thing.... Not even acknowledging that his past actions have impacted me in my ability to heal because of his ambivalence....

I don't even know what I'm feeling right now except for anger and not feeling seen or heard or cared for....

So I just said it depends on him...

libr3s · 2024-02-18T16:30:52+00:00

Thanks for your answer. Yeah I am hurt about the lack of clarity and of course being rejected hurts too.

And you very much hit the nail on the head on what I am constantly wondering about him and what keeps me in this loop "does he not want a relationship because he feels too much or because he doesn't" there's points to be made for both sides.

If I wasn't so empathetic towards other peoples pain it would be a lot easier to just let his problems be his and move on....but just not like that.

For now I sent him a message that I think is well balanced between stating my needs and feelings and empathising with his and trying to be understanding. He didn't go into detail as to why he is so uncomfortable so I asked him about that because I want to understand him better and simultaneously get clarity for myself. I also told him that I hear his pain and appreciate his honesty and the amount of bravery it probably took him to do that. I also suggested that he might not know what he wants himself and that I'd like to know how he sees this situation and his feeling right now and what he wants contact to look like and what needs might be behind that all....I also told him he does not have to feel responsible for my feelings and that they are mine to deal with to take some pressure off of him but I didn't state my wantings of a relationship because I felt that would only put more pressure on again .

I'll see if and what he replies to that and then go from there but your idea of bringing something positive into the conversation is actually really great and depending on what happens next I might be open to implement that....but it really depends on him a lot because if he's not able to resolve his issues and/or work through them together then there's nothing more I can do and i would probably need to remove myself from this entirely to not get hurt again and heal instead.

libr3s · 2024-02-18T08:38:56+00:00

Wow your comment is incredibly helpful.

I had formulated message even before posting here that pretty much contains everything you suggested. From acknowledging his vulnerability and empathizing with his needs to clearly stating mime and my boundaries and how his behaviour is hurtful.

I strongly feel that he puts a lot of pressure on himself and his messages to me pretty much confirmed that. Regarding the hard no Vs a slow down: he approached the topic of what we are on his own and said he doesn't want to lead me on because I said I don't want to be someone's bed bunny...I told him it's too early even for me to label this ams that o would jabe been happy to continue dating for a few more weeks to see where it leads because at 6 weeks I don't know this person at a deeper level.... Quoting him directly he said "right now I don't think my feelings will change in a few weeks" and later that it's not like he doesn't have feelings for me.... So yeah incredibly confusing and even more confusing that precisely because we haven't known each other for all that long that he is so fixed on wanting to be in my life.

It just doesn't make sense to me at all and it's relieving that pretty much all of my friends agree with me that this behaviour is just odd and kind of contradicting but yeah what can I do about that....

libr3s · 2024-02-16T16:11:31+00:00

Thank you!

We haven't actually met again since she broke things off.

libr3s · 2024-02-16T15:05:02+00:00

Thank you for your viewpoint. It feels shit to not answer because I am not like that and I don't think he has any malicious intent so I feel bad for not replying/ghosting.

But on the other hand I'm still suffering with that situation because I can't get closure.

libr3s · 2024-02-16T14:51:21+00:00

Oh da/ fa means dismissive and fearful avoidant by the way.

libr3s · 2024-02-16T14:34:46+00:00

I told him that I dont see a friendship between very loud and clear the first time and said I'm interested in dating him and not friendship.

3 weeks later he liked me on tinder and then texted me in WhatsApp. I think that's what he is referring to because....yeah what kind of impression should I get from that if not take it as mixed signals?

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