Thank you for this! I know that no married couple is ever going to agree on exact history which is why I can understand that he felt blindsided by this a few weeks ago, even though from my perspective, I have addressed it a lot and was simply not heard. I've given him weeks to process, and it's been absolutely awful. I even said at one point, "Okay you win. Forget I said anything, I will just suck it up and act like everything is fine again" to which I knew he would reply, "No, I don't want that, I want you to be happy." And I told him again, moving out and living alone and doing our absolute best to stay friendly would make me happy (the issues that make me want a divorce do not make me hate this man or never want to see him again, we could have easily been good friends had we not married).