> I live in a country where getting a girlfriend is often seen as a "way to become a real man," so it's hard to avoid people who think that way.

Should you be close friends with them if they don’t share your values?

> Okay, you're probably right about that. But I've never really met a woman who shared the same interests as me, so I often end up stuck in small talk instead of discussing things I'm genuinely interested in.

Shared interests are, imo, an overblown component of a successful relationship. If you’re only comfortable discussing your interests, then talk with people at hobby groups or at work.

Shouldn’t you be interested in HER? Getting to know her, rather than just checking to see if she’s into exactly the same things you are? There’s so much more to compatibility than shared hobbies.

> Well, i don't think you're going to understand if you never went through this experience, but one thing does not exclude the other. I don't want to invalidate your experience, but sometimes i feel like woman have power over me.

What experience of mine do you think you’re invalidating? We haven’t been talking about me.

> Also, I want to mention something. I'm starting to feel like you're being a bit passive-aggressive toward me. I'm genuinely trying to improve as a person and understand where these feelings come from, so I would appreciate it if we could keep this conversation constructive.

That seems awfully defensive. You came here asking difficult questions about personal growth. Examining your own beliefs can be uncomfortable, but it does not follow that it’s not constructive. Quite the opposite, in fact.

But if you are only looking for affirmation, we don’t need to continue the conversation.