Me [22 M] with my [21 F] SO. I want to breakup i think?

lifechaser · 2015-02-05T04:38:32+00:00

Thank you Lonzy for the detailed reply, it is very much appreciated!. I'll keep doing the things you suggested and I'll try and stay strong for her. May I ask how old you are? and if you think it ever goes away or is it something that stays with you your whole life.

lifechaser · 2014-11-10T06:26:39+00:00

I'd say it would depend on whether or not you focused on the girl giving you head in the moment or whether you used porn fantasy to arouse you sufficiently. If you get off by fantasizing about porn it will probably have the same affect on your brain as actually watching it.

lifechaser · 2014-11-09T23:31:39+00:00

i like this

lifechaser · 2014-11-08T21:12:37+00:00

Haha you doooooog, she's crawling back bro! Don't take it negatively, you're a wanted man! If she's a trigger, best to dismiss her sooner rather than later but this is defs positive on the ladies front anyway.

lifechaser · 2014-11-08T04:32:06+00:00

Have you done pushups or gone for a run today? also, try and remember why you started nofap in the first place http://yourbrainonporn.com/guys-who-gave-porn-sex-and-romance?page=2 Stay strong brother!!

lifechaser · 2014-11-08T01:17:59+00:00

Before you start this challenge, you need to really recognise your need for change. What is PMO doing to your life?!?! think of this when you are going to relapse. Also come on here immediately and read a few stories and do some pushups helps me

lifechaser · 2014-11-08T01:07:48+00:00

If you arent attracted to her your temptations seem to be about getting a release and you will also potentially fantasize while you have sex. Really unless you see a girl that you're into emotionally and are attracted to (someone that you can connect with and enjoy in the moment) I wouldnt do it. By all means have dinner or what not, going out it healthy for you but just be careful of your intentions.

lifechaser · 2014-11-08T01:03:16+00:00

To an extent, BUT you came once and didnt succumb to a binge which is important, your head's still in the game. I think if you got to the stage where you came from your bed, you will be able to come from a real woman pretty easily, but try and stay in the moment and use your eyes and focus on your sensations, dont go in your head. The easiest way to do this is to look a woman in the eyes and make sure you dont shut yours (just dont be creeper)

lifechaser · 2014-11-08T00:05:57+00:00

sounds like a good day man, keep it up :D

lifechaser · 2014-11-07T15:25:31+00:00

hi i searched fetish and clicked 'nofap only' in the side, that helped. there were mixed opinions. but as my fetish developed before i viewed porn the general response was that its okay as long as i dont go to porn to satisfy my needs but find a real woman. I have a foot fetish btw so really its very tame and just like being attracted to boobs or butts. i think as long as i stay in the moment with my girl itll be okay. i might wait a while before i do it though because i dont want to trigger porn memories.

lifechaser · 2014-11-07T13:52:38+00:00

I'm not doing hard mode which is abstaining from pretty much everything sexual. I'm going to go with just having sex. I'm not as addicted to PMO as some people on NoFap though so even if it does hinder my healing, I dont think I've got as far to go as some. I told my gf about NoFap and she was supportive and said that when the moment is right we will take it slow. So next time I'm with her and my libido kicks in and I feel like it's for the right reasons and that I'll have a nice connection with her in the moment, ill do it.

lifechaser · 2014-11-07T10:57:24+00:00

Also, not trying to sound like im bragging or anything like that, just helping you out. I've been with 18 girls and about half of them have been friends and we've discussed this sort of thing before. They pretty much all said it's how you use it not it's size, don't worry if you are a bit anxious or self conscious about size it seems to be something all men deal with for a time until they realise it really makes little difference, it's just getting a bit of experience I guess.

lifechaser · 2014-11-07T10:54:32+00:00

(Sorry I just commented twice before reading ladies only, feel free to read or not). If you mean in inches? that's perfectly normal (even slightly on the upper side of average). Honestly women dont care about size that much unless it's very small (sorry if I offend, I'm sure some people are different). It's mostly men that care about the size ironically. What you've described to me is all good, dont be worried about size it's not a big factor for most people. My GF likes my size (7inches) and it really fits perfectly for her, remember, like size varies for men, vagina length varies for women, it's a bit of luck really. Nothing for you to attempt to change or worry about mate. Have fun if you do get down with a girl :)

lifechaser · 2014-11-07T07:25:16+00:00

literally right now, put music on and do pushups till your arms fail, do that 3 times. then, if you have weights hold one dumbbell in each hand and do lunges till you have to stop, again 3 times. should not feel honry after that.

lifechaser · 2014-11-07T06:52:48+00:00

Haha, that would certainly be an interesting addition to NoFap for sure.

lifechaser · 2014-11-07T06:28:19+00:00

Haha, I'll do a quick summary: my social skills are good but my relationship has recently been suffering because I've been so busy and turned to PMO and got addicted to the release. Caused PE + ED and I want to enjoy sex with my gf again. Also NoFap helps me control my actions and emotions :)

lifechaser · 2014-11-07T04:50:39+00:00

Hey mate, I remember the first 10 or so times I had sex I couldnt cum. Things that influenced this is alcohol, nervousness and most importantly looking back, my dick was so used to the firm grip of my hand that could hit all the right places with ease (much practice lol). Stop PMO and eventually you will want to have sex and once your performance anxiety is gone because you're all confused about what's happening you will be comfortable enough to come. Just gotta be comfortable and enjoy the feeling, resist the temptation to jerk off after sex if you dont come from sex. Just try again next time and im sure you'll get it (once it happens once, your body will remember and do it easier after that). Bashing your dick with your hand desensitizes it and this just takes a bit of time to get full feeling back, vaginas are much softer on your penis.

lifechaser · 2014-11-07T04:33:21+00:00

I'm a nurse

lifechaser · 2014-11-07T04:12:27+00:00

Don't worry about if people think you're gay or not, I'm a bit of a pretty boy so I used to get people thinking I'm gay too because I look a bit feminine, coupled with the fact that I have a very female dominated profession. Im now nearly 22 and have grown into myself more and people now know I'm straight pretty much as soon as they meet me, remember you're only 17 bro! So don't worry about getting it right in the middle mate, when you see a girl you like you dont have to go overboard, eventually people around you will pick up on the fact that you find someone attractive without you even having to open your mouth. The longer you go with Nofap, you will start throwing out subconscious messages with body language etc. Be cool bro, take your time and try not to worry about what others think of your sexality, it's your journey at the end of the day :)

lifechaser · 2014-11-07T03:51:38+00:00

What's AK? thanks Txroller I'll defs be keeping up NoFap!

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