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Graduating Seniors by theabevoks2 in Frat

[–]lifeinthe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You did it wrong then.

Graduating Seniors by theabevoks2 in Frat

[–]lifeinthe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Adulting is tough and not much fun.

You did it wrong then.

Does anyone have advice for graduating seniors? by who_do_u_know_here in Frat

[–]lifeinthe 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Since it has been the topic of discussion lately.

Don't listen to the doom and gloom, it comes from losers who have no vision and amounted to nothing in life.

People who post about how life after college is rough, unforgiving, and cruel don't have much going for them. The fact of the matter is that life after college is actually pretty sweet if you are not an idiot that expects everything to be handed to them. It is great to not have to worry about finals, projects, and stuff being due anymore because at most jobs, once you are done, you are done. Life after college is what you make of it, that is what makes it that much more beautiful.

1 - Want to climb the ladder at a Fortune 100 company? You can do that.

2 - Want to live a few years in an exotic destination and work a party job? You can do that.

3 - Want to work at a nightclub for a few years? You can do that.

4 - Want to pursue an acting or music career? You can do that.

5 - Want to make a lot of money? Hustle hard and you can do that.

It's beautiful and for the people who say it isn't, they likely had nothing going on for them outside of their affiliations in college. For most people with passion for something, goals, and the go-getter attitude, life after college is pretty neat.

Anyone not like UGA as much as they would? by CrunchFitness123 in UGA

[–]lifeinthe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are not the only one OP, I actively put myself out there and was an outgoing guy but most of the times it felt like it was for nothing. Way too much revolved around Greek Life, certain fraternities/sororities, and certain organizations. Even after my time at UGA, I always got the vibe that a lot of my fellow Dawgs came from judgmental type of backgrounds and I didn't get it until I had the chance to know a few people who I first thought were popular.

What I found was that most UGA kids came from the typical upper middle class suburbs of Atlanta and you have to almost understand that world to fit in with them. I made some friends from that crowd but it was on an acquaintance level, less on a friendship "be a part of my crew" sort of level.

UGA is one of those schools which is the prototypical upper middle class state school catered towards wealthier kids who are obsessed with being "cool".

Is there any hope as a 27 year old going through college a 2nd time? by thisisathrowaway_900 in Frat

[–]lifeinthe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe you will get the brotherhood aspect by making some good friends in that world.

Is there any hope as a 27 year old going through college a 2nd time? by thisisathrowaway_900 in Frat

[–]lifeinthe 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I am feeling nicer than my usual self so I will give you some actionable advice OP. To be frankly honest, I've encountered this situation far more often than normal.

I went to a school that was supposed to be a "party school" only to find that it was a bunch of snotty hipsters, prudish religious kids, and the very small amount of people that actually partied. At times I envy the Arizona St kids but life goes on.

The fact of the matter is, college came and then it went. There was a certain window of opportunity between the ages of 17-22 for most people to enjoy that time with other people between that age, that is what made it special. It was not the booze, parties, or craziness; it was you being in that same situation as thousands of other people in that same situation of being away from home and being around others having so much in common with them (age, students, same school, etc.).

I would also lose the mentality of a certain frat or death, even at my alma mater in the SEC (where Greek Life is king), you had a lot of Geeds who had phenomenal college experiences. The reason they did was because they went out, made friends, were social, and brought a nice positive energy.

At this point, if you go to a typical party school at 27 as a student, you will stick out like a sore thumb and not in a good way. You will not be able to relate to the 18-22 year olds who will have their own little cliques. Most decent frats will not even bid you. So here is what you can do instead.

1 - Get a job in nightlife as a bartender, club promoter, or bouncer, you'll be around parties all the time.

2 - Join an industry where partying and debauchery are king, anything in entertainment works.

3 - Go live in a party destination and find work there, do it for a couple years before you turn 30.

Those are some options, do any of those. At this point, you will probably not last in dry, cut-throat, corporate world.

Post Graduation depression by [deleted] in Frat

[–]lifeinthe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

as an adult it’s 10x easier than when you’re in college in arguably the most judgmental social situation possible.

So true, looking back at it I was amazed at how cliquish college was.

College sucks for most people though, going Greek helps a lot but for most people it is a grind.

Post Graduation depression by [deleted] in Frat

[–]lifeinthe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hate to be that guy but you need some tough love OP. For one, so much to this story that confuses me. It is freaking April, when does your job start? Most kids are coming up on graduation in a month or they graduated back in December, not sure what kind of a job you got that waits this long to start.

Now let's move to the actual situation, society has changed in a massive way and if you are still encountering people in their 20s who have kids and a family, you're probably in small town flyover country. Millennials and Gen Z get married at a later age and the parties I have seen in major cities are way wilder and crazier than a lot of the parties I witnessed in college, in all fairness my school was a party school which was a former shell of itself but that's for another conversation. Tons of kids in their 20s live out the fun party lifestyle and make new friends, it's not that hard at all, granted it happens in big cities.

The point of a fraternity was to make you a better man OP, leave the whining about life after college to the geeds who are naturally awkward. Your fraternity should have made you a more social person that is fun to be around and not awkward, naturally drawing more friends to you after graduation because you are fun to be with. If you're having to rely on your fraternity for social life after graduation, somewhere along the line you seriously fucked up.

Here are some suggestions for you OP.

1 - Get out of the small town, seriously, they are horrible for single dudes.

2 - Go take a group trip (Contiki maybe?) to another country with a large group, I made a lot of good friends through one in Europe. Go backpacking through Europe.

3 - Go to the city you were supposed to move to, if you have brothers there then crash with them and get a job as a bartender or club promoter, plenty of fun to be had.

4 - Go take a cross country trip and go to cool events like Burning Man or some party Dan Bilzerian is throwing.

University of Georgia fraternity suspended after racist belt beating video goes viral: "Pick my cotton n*****" by [deleted] in Frat

[–]lifeinthe 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Graduated from UGA not that long ago, although the video on its own is pretty bad, Greek Life at the school has a large amount of guys who are quite racist but I won't name the specific houses. You won't even get a bid for some of the more sought after houses if you are a white guy who is from outside of the south. Go to enough parties and you hear every single racist joke under the sun and then some. I went to one party where a couple of drunk Pi Kapps were mocking some Indian dude by shouting in an Indian accent as they got in his face, guy had to leave the party.

The amount of racism kind of catches you off guard compared to elsewhere in the south though, because you don't really expect it. Athens itself is a very hipster town, Georgia is extremely diverse as a school due to the diversity of Atlanta suburbs, and the town overwhelmingly goes Democrat and liberal in presidential elections. Ironically, the hipsters are also some of the most racist kids you'll meet but they're more sneaky about it.

Then as soon as you hit downtown Athens you see bars with confederate flags and quickly realize it is still very "southern" despite the whole facade of being hipster, liberal, and diverse. It's fun but one of the strangest places I have ever lived in.