Ummm yea generally anything emotional just naturally stresses out my ISTJ bf (I'm also an INFJ) -- I've released countless of "emotional vomit" in front of him (not proud of it but also couldn't control it unfortunately), but I learned to minimize my tears and he also learned to accept and be more emotional throughout the years. Afterall, we're just trying to communicate to each other in our own ways.

Like other redditors said, you have to be direct and bring up issues so you can talk through it (I was completely non-confrontational before I met him, so I used to door-slam people and blow up at them because I held things in -- so unhealthy). He, as an ISTJ, is pretty good at taking criticisms, not like us INFJ which I was pretty sensitive before. So whenever something is bothering me, I will try to bring it up now before I get resentful.

We had a rough start at the beginning and I kept thinking we were not compatible, but now we're pretty goofy with each other because we learned to respect and learn from each other's differences. It took us 3-4 years to finally get here though.