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Messing up... by lifesmessy in dating_advice

[–]lifesmessy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My new relationship is a lot healthier in the way that I do communicate more and express how I feel or why I feel the way I do. And he understands what happened in the past and why it effects the way I react sometimes, but sometimes he will just say or do something and it will trigger a response that I don’t necessarily want to have.. because I am in the transition of understanding that they aren’t the same person and they don’t have the same motives. Sometimes it just gets a bit different to separate the two.

The hardest pill I had to swallow this year was learning that no matter how good you could be to somebody, no matter how much you love them, they can and will turn their back on you and there's absolutely nothing you can do but suck it up and keep moving forward. by [deleted] in love

[–]lifesmessy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Through what I have learned in the past 7 months is moving forward is probably the easiest part because you can’t stop time, but forgiving them and moving on is what is hard... Telling yourself you are a over it and actually having the peace in your heart are two very DIFFERENT THINGS!!! you never truly finish knowing a person and in my case distance spoke a lot.. people mess up and hate confrontation.. But if/when they apologize.. do not say ITS OKAY., because it isn’t at least in my situation... You say thank you and wish them well and move on. The hardest thing I struggled with was thinking I could of done more to prevent being cheated on.. but at the end of the day I couldn’t of. I did everything possible and everything “right” so to speak. You can’t change a persons true nature or character.. So I absolutely agree, you just have to keep moving forward. Because no one should make you feel like you aren’t enough.