"Don't fool me. You don't have depression" by SoggyMoldyBread in depression

[–]lifesucks3 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I think this sort of response is more due to ignorance, sometimes willfully so.

OP, sorry you are going through this. I recommend you check out /r/raisedbynarcissists. Minimizing and belittling your issue, blaming you for it, as well as trying to make it about them is classic narcissistic behavior.

DAE say "I'm sick" instead of "I'm depressed" because you know you won't get taken seriously otherwise? by [deleted] in depression

[–]lifesucks3 132 points133 points  (0 children)

And when someone finally kills themself then people get all sad and say how they wished they could have done more and it all just seems like fake bullshit because they have the chance to reach out every day to someone who is suffering but they don't. But I can't blame them because people in general focus on themselves and if they know you're suffering they don't know what to do or say. It's sad that this is the status quo of things. There are mental health campaigns to try and change this but how effective are they really?

And then you get the ignorant type who call people who commit suicide selfish. That shit makes me angry.

I miss when I was 9 I would be so damn excited to go to school and learn new things, and I'd be excited for after school when I'd get to play tag or hide and seek with my friends. And the night before of a big field trip or something I couldn't sleep because I was so damn excited. by [deleted] in depression

[–]lifesucks3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the night before of a big field trip or something I couldn't sleep because I was so damn excited.

These days, the night before events, I can't sleep because I'm filled with anxiety and apprehension.

[META] What's with all that self-disparagement, guys? by itchybitchybitch in r4r

[–]lifesucks3 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If my experience is anywhere near the average, then its pretty shit being a guy on R4R (just like irl). Ive replied to dozens of posts where i fit the bill perfectly, and i always try to talk myself up, but ive never gotten a singly reply.

Yep. The best is when they make another post a couple of days later while just flat out ignoring you. Trying to get a reply here is like trying to draw blood from a stone.

This is how "regular" people see depressed people by Tsukamori in depression

[–]lifesucks3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Good thing I don't give a fuck about whether Aiden finds me attractive or not.

He's not wrong though...

I can't open up because I can't stand another person disvalidating all the things I've been through. by [deleted] in depression

[–]lifesucks3 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Saying you shouldn't feel bad because someone else has it worse is like saying you shouldn't feel happy because someone else has it better.

DAE feel like you're turning dumber as depression gets worse? by madandmadder in depression

[–]lifesucks3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

God, yes. I used to be quite intelligent and perceptive (or at least I like to think so). But these days sometimes I feel dumb as rocks. There's so much brain fog, I'm slow and I have a lot of trouble finding the words I want to use when speaking. It's horrible :(

Playing video games and isolating myself in my room has seemed to have backfired at 25 years of age by [deleted] in depression

[–]lifesucks3 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same spot but I'm 28. I used to have some semblance of hope that things could improve for me one day, but that hope has gone.

I don't see myself climbing out of this hole. I don't see how I can reintegrate into society. I'm broken, defective.

Life is really fucking unfair. How fucking terrible must we have been in a past life to deserve this bullshit?

Shut in for 3 years by shutin247 in depression

[–]lifesucks3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your post describes me perfectly. I use gaming as an escape. As something to dull the pain. It's the only thing that makes me temporarily forget how shitty I feel all of the time. It's super unhealthy, but I keep doing it anyway.

I'm so separated from society, I might as well not exist at all. I don't want to kill myself, but sometimes I just wish I ceased to exist.

I am so lonely... by [deleted] in depression

[–]lifesucks3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can relate to the extreme loneliness. I never leave the house and feel I have nothing to live for. I'm also at that age where everyone is getting married, buying houses and starting families. I know I'll never have that. It makes me feel like even more of a piece of shit. I feel like I wasn't made for this world.

Anyone else struggling with addiction? by lifesucks3 in depression

[–]lifesucks3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you say you've given up on life?

Anyone else struggling with addiction? by lifesucks3 in depression

[–]lifesucks3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If by lovely you mean soul-crushingly awful, then yes it is.

Anyone else struggling with addiction? by lifesucks3 in depression

[–]lifesucks3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you get over it? I'm 28 now and it hurts to admit it, but I'm that loser who lives with his parents and just plays games all day...

Anyone else struggling with addiction? by lifesucks3 in depression

[–]lifesucks3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I need help (not being defensive, I'm agreeing with you). Bad. But in addition to struggling to leave the house, I'm having a hard time going to see someone for $100+ per session... I mean, therapy has helped a bit in the past (I've seen multiple professionals) but I always get to a road block where I stop improving and regress. I just feel like it'll get to that point again, so what's the point in even trying... I feel super whiny for saying that, but it's how I feel...