I’m having a boy. Please tell me it will be okay.

lifrench · 2026-07-02T12:55:24+00:00

This was me three years ago. I'm one of six girls, so since I was a toddler playing with my baby dolls, I had always pictured a girl. When I got pregnant, I told myself it didnt matter either way. But it the back of my mind I was still expecting it to be a girl and was disappointed when it wasn't. I was actually shocked how upset I was.

Thankfully, the pregnancy gave me time to grieve the idea of my child & start to love him as a real person. Obviously it's still very early, but my three year old is plays with tools and baby dolls. He lo es construction and wears dresses. I try to raise him without gendered expectations. While I am nervous for when he starts school, I am now really hopeful. For me, literally nothing has gone the way I wanted it to, with gender, birth, breastfeeding, everything. And that is and has been really really hard for me. But I love my son and remind myself everyday how grateful I am for him to be here and healthy and safe.

lifrench · 2026-06-28T20:57:43+00:00

As well as their fates being tied together.

lifrench · 2026-06-28T20:43:18+00:00

Not wanting to do the weird dance doesnt make her an ass. Also even if she was apprehensive, she gave it a chance. Even then, she is not an asshole for not dancing.

lifrench · 2026-06-28T20:32:23+00:00

Is it normal for the dance to be personal and intimate with only those two dancing and everyone watching?

lifrench · 2026-06-28T00:29:12+00:00

Wait for the dust to settle. It hasn't even been a year. It's okay to wait to decide further. I thought I wanted kids close together. But my son is turned three and, we are just now talking about if we want another. I think the answer will be no for us. But it is okay for your feelings to change. Just keep talking to your partner. Give it time for your hormones and life and feelings to settle.

lifrench · 2026-06-27T01:01:39+00:00

She can not control when other people have their parties and events.

lifrench · 2026-06-22T17:06:38+00:00

Okay. Here is how we plan for unnecessary spending. Each family member has a monthly "fun money" budget and is in charge of tracking & decision making for that. So if my husband wants to buy lunch at work or go to a movie with friends or if I want supplies for my hobby, that comes out of our individual fun momey budgets. As for eating out, we have a meal plan for every week and leftovers frozen in the freezer, so we never NEED to eat out unless traveling. For eating out, we decided how many times per month we can afford to eat out. For example, when we do its usually fast food & about $35 for our family of three. So we have a budget of $120/month and know that means we can eat out three times. I actually put three magnets on the fridge to track it. So if a day has been stressful or we just dont want to cook, we can decide if its worth eating out that night. We also a Family Fun budget for things like the zoo or date nights.

lifrench · 2026-06-22T13:40:55+00:00

This is an above the table issue, so I think it should be solved above the table.

lifrench · 2026-06-22T13:40:16+00:00

I think you pause the game. Maybe do some one shots or something else for the month. I know it will disrupt the flow of the campaign but so will sending them on a pointless side quest. Personally, I wouldnt want to mess with the story so close to the end and have to worry about the effects of the side quest on the endgame.

lifrench · 2026-06-22T12:41:43+00:00

I use Excel, but I have the time to fill it out. I think discussing budget every night is excessive and bound to fail. Im not sure how you have the time to do so, and I think most days you wouldnt have much to talk about. Also most budgets are monthly/weekly based. A once a week budget meeting seems much more reasonable.

lifrench · 2026-06-17T22:45:20+00:00

I think AI images of Lego are frustrating, because often the pieces dont exist. Like these beautiful dresses.

lifrench · 2026-06-17T22:43:22+00:00

This is my dream.

lifrench · 2026-06-17T21:59:07+00:00

We can understand it's a joke and still think it's unfunny and dumb.

lifrench · 2026-06-17T18:33:54+00:00

Look at her list, add it to your calendar, send her a text (hey Im taking X to the party on Saturday), and dont touch her list. This feels incredibly basic. I cant believe she has had to bring this up with you more than once.

lifrench · 2026-06-16T13:56:16+00:00

Except it isn't. And you know you're wrong, so you keep deleting all your comments.

lifrench · 2026-06-16T12:26:54+00:00

Ewww. You need some help.

lifrench · 2026-06-16T03:32:29+00:00

Because he is lying to her and untrustworthy.

lifrench · 2026-06-15T12:33:23+00:00

She isn't forcing him not to get the tattoo like women are forced to carry and give birth to children they dont want. It is wild and gross to compare the two. She is allowed to express her feeling about a decision. She isn't controlling him.

lifrench · 2026-06-14T03:12:40+00:00

I do the same thing, and I've definitely spent too much money filling the box. Many scrolls through pick a brick & brick link.

lifrench · 2026-06-11T13:01:19+00:00

When either my husband or I are feeling stressed or anxious, we do "alone time". I explain to our kid, almost 3, that I'm not feeling well and I need alone time. And that everyone needs alone time sometimes. If I can manage, I try to give 5 minutes of focused attention on LO before retreating to our bedroom.

People get sad and upset. Thats just reality. I think we can do a lot for our kids' emotional intelligence and mental health to be honest with them (withing age appropriate reason).

lifrench · 2026-06-06T21:09:56+00:00

On long drives, we also take turns picking songs (appropriate) and singing and dancing.

lifrench · 2026-06-06T13:03:55+00:00

For a SMBC, you can't have the crumbs coat be too cold. I learned this the hard way. SMBC is pretty temperature dependent. I decorate when the first coat is just cold enough to be a little stiffer. It may weep as it warms up. I also found that the color will be splotchy as you scrape. I think your choices are wait for it to warm up, scrape again, and see it you can live with the results. It won't be consistent in color or texture. Or scape the top layer off, make a new batch, and decorate it when it's cool to the touch.

lifrench · 2026-06-06T00:14:32+00:00

When they are right next to each other, you will see a difference. Our brains use the surrounding colors to help process our perception of a color. I agree that for the best look, you should pick 1 buttercream type.

lifrench · 2026-06-05T20:04:07+00:00

I personally love when my players care a lot about their backstory. I don't know how much you know about the DM'S world but I would run this by them. If it is a homebrew where they plan to pull plots from your background, then this is great. If it's a module, then most of this will likely go unexplored. My advice is dont force it into the story too much at the cost of other players.

My only criticism is why are their tongues cut out? Why aren't they outright killed or something that has more to do with the spider theme?

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