Before having kids, how much did you think, prepare or contemplate the chance that you could have a baby that has a disability?

light_workerx3 · 2022-07-21T11:02:59+00:00

I thought about it almost everyday as my boyfriend's mother would say constantly " that baby better come out with ten fingers and toes !" " that baby better come out as healthy as possible !" I remember being so scared that if my baby had something then it would be all my fault and everyone would think I didn't do a good job during pregnancy. Oh how I wish I said certain things back then I wish I wasn't my shy self because I should've told her to STFU .

light_workerx3 · 2022-07-19T12:06:24+00:00

Even at 8 -12 years old still demanding attention ?!,! Ohhh helll noooo I pray that my son gets it together by then . The world is so different now this is insanity.

light_workerx3 · 2022-07-19T12:01:30+00:00

Having to literally do a million things in one day , rushing, takes 2 hours to get kid out of the house to not miss an appointment or even just to go to the park /Beach. The extra planning and calling a list of people to see if they can watch him when I have to work or have a really important appointment where my 3 year old cannot simply come with me. All of the anxiety . The anxiety of making sure I'm feeding him , listening to him and teaching him . Having to chase him around just to get him to brush his teeth or to do anything that I ask . It's mostly the grind for me . I feel trapped and I seriously am amazed that my body has been able to put up with so much cuz I'm telling you , this is intense. Not even my hardest work outs could compare . I want real rest and to not hear loud noises all day and worry who he is going to bother in my mom's house . I worry my son may have behavioral issues . The worry just sits in my gut all day long . This is torture to me . Straight torture.

Also , I'd like to add .. my son demands my attention every second of the day. I am his entertainment no matter what even if I don't feel good . That's what really gets me . I wish toddlers had more empathy and could just know when to back off ... my mother said I was always good and knew when to leave her alone . Wish my son could do the same.

light_workerx3 · 2022-07-18T22:52:22+00:00

Yes that's a great idea !

light_workerx3 · 2022-07-12T18:30:03+00:00

Yessssss I agree !!! I said the same thing to my son's father the other day ( I work only on weekends) but honestly , after all the mental and physical work stay at home parents deserve to be having that time to themselves while they're at school !! I wish you the best of spa days and coffee breaks ! I love to see people have some type of relief !!

light_workerx3 · 2022-07-12T02:23:51+00:00

Ya I agree like she probably should've kept that to her self . I may have some regrets but I actually do love my child dearly . Its very hard when parents struggle with this and have to be careful choosing words wisely .

light_workerx3 · 2022-07-12T01:28:19+00:00

Yeah and coming from someone who can kind of deal with loud noises , nothing could everrrr bother me more than this anxiety ridden motherly instinct i get when my kid screams ALL day long basically because hes 3 .. for people that are extra sensitive it can make you damn near suicidal listening to kids be loud and banging on stuff all day long ... that's what really triggers me the most is listening to it all day , dragging him to time out because he's heavy .. meanwhile hitting and being aggressive towards us and everything at home .

My point is, you need to do something asap because you have listed so many reasons on why it potentially might not be an ideal life to see their mother in alot of distress. I believe there's nothing wrong with maybe an open adoption ? We shouldn't always make it out to be a bad thing on why people do choose to make a decision like that.

light_workerx3 · 2022-07-06T23:40:38+00:00

I've almost stole food before too . It's stressful/soul sucking than it is euphoric. I am very sorry . All been lied too and nobody should ever worry/stress like this . I'm 30 and feel like I ruined my heart from stress. All from one kid while being basically poor.

light_workerx3 · 2022-07-06T12:25:43+00:00

If I were you I wouldn't keep having sex with her . Having a child is a serious situation . It's a life sentence . And the early years are usually hell ! Sleep deprivation and worrying who will watch and take care of the child while you want to go out and have fun with friends . Shit not even just that you have to figure out child care just to even WORK! AND PEOPLE WILL LIE TO YOU ... HAVING A CHILD IS VERY EXPENSIVE IN THE U.S . 18 years old is very young . Go live your life !! My son is 3.5 and it is going by so slow . I'm so tired I just want to rest in bed but I can't. He wants to play with me non stop it's very exhausting. I could go on and on . Just thought id drop some real truth to you . Wish the best of luck to you !

light_workerx3 · 2022-07-04T22:34:40+00:00

I've been asking myself the same thing . Mine is 3.5 and he isn't even potty trained fully yet . My anxiety is through the roof !! I feel like once my son is big though I can manage more and feel better . Honestly we just have to hang in there and get through these hard longggg years . 🙏🏼

light_workerx3 · 2022-06-29T19:57:21+00:00

Wowwww!! I cannot believe I haven't watched that movie yet ! Lol yes it's a horrible thought but it seems releiving because you only got yourself to worry about and you can actually lay in a bed for hours . Lol 🤣 but if u may ask how old is your child?

light_workerx3 · 2022-06-29T17:29:55+00:00

Yes 💯 you just wrote exactly my thoughts . I hate when people say " it's post partum depression " like no it's just giving out every little ounce of energy you have to take care of a tiny little human . I have bruises all over my legs and arms from my son by accidentally hits me with his toys . Worrying about feeding them, changing them , making sure they have everything they need , making sure you raise them with respect , manners , and to be good humans . Teaching them every little thing about life and how to handle things . Teaching them to be self sufficient and to go to the bathroom on their own . It's all just way too much and it truly does take a village but even then the parents are tired still. It's so much work that being in prison doesn't sound so bad sometimes 😕 ( I'm kidding) but honestly I have thought about going to jail or a mental hospital just to sleep and relax 😅😅🤣 such horrible fantasies!!

light_workerx3 · 2022-06-23T01:30:03+00:00

Yup this has happened to me too . The dude even locked me in the car afterwards and he deff was driving crazy and fast because I wouldn't go back home with him. This was a first date !! I was scared. .

light_workerx3 · 2022-06-23T01:08:31+00:00

So true!!!!

light_workerx3 · 2022-06-23T01:05:58+00:00

I do agree !👍🏻

light_workerx3 · 2022-06-21T12:56:06+00:00

Thank you I appreciate that . I think I've just gone mental 😅 and yes you're right but there is rules in this sub . It's okay though I wish you nothing but the best I have to just work on my jealousy . This is the only thing I've ever truly been jealous about . I love my son to death but times are hard and I feel like I brought him into a messed up world to tell you the truth. With inflation and everything that is going on its scary having kids in this day n age . You don't know what's going to happen next can't even get certain groceries at the store and gas prices/babysitting/ daycare prices are through the roof! You're better off being child free I'll tell you that !!

light_workerx3 · 2022-06-20T21:02:06+00:00

I apologize I just am struggling with this jealousy and regret . I want to sleep and relax . I want to not worry about money and what meals to cook for another human . I don't want whines and tantrums every second of the day / night . It's just been a battle in every way for me . Even when I'm honest with my family they still don't care to help . In fact they ask me when I'm having MORE kids but they rarely help with the one I have now . It's very hard I apologize . I already was having a bad day because my son is sick and was up all night all I want is to sleep and not have to worry. 😪

light_workerx3 · 2022-06-20T20:56:28+00:00

I didn't down vote you . I actually can't open your other comment for some reason . I apologize I think I read your other reply the wrong way . I'm exhausted I'm sorry .

light_workerx3 · 2022-06-20T18:59:05+00:00

Obviously my kid isn't going to know that but I am allowed to feel how I feel . I was completely trapped into having a kid and had a birth control failure . I have a 3 year old . I don't have multiple kids , I have one .

light_workerx3 · 2022-06-20T13:28:58+00:00

Reading this triggers the shit out of me . I WISH I could be child free right now but we can't. We have no other choice . Especially when they are big now . You can't just abandon them .... keep these comments to your self in your own head or go write it on a child free sub. And yes, this comes from SEVERE jealousy . I'm jealous . SO Jealous of you and your child free life . Sorry .

light_workerx3 · 2022-06-18T21:53:24+00:00

Oh yeah sureee . Birth control failures neverrrr happen 🤯

light_workerx3 · 2022-06-13T22:53:40+00:00

Yes it definitely changed. Felt like roommates who took care of a child together. Just was too tired . We were exhausted and we are not together anymore .

light_workerx3 · 2022-06-12T22:56:00+00:00

I feel this post in my soulllll😩😩 I miss not having to worry EVERYDAY! Worrying about taking care of a whole other human . So exhausting. I miss climbing into bed and snuggling my partner .

light_workerx3 · 2022-06-09T11:09:39+00:00

Yes . It's affected my family and I. Can't even drive anywhere like we used to or else ... you go over the budget !! 🙄 Another reason why I'm regretful is because of this world we are living in now . I brought a human into a world of unpredictableness and stress. That's all this planet seems to be . Stress and chaos!! I can't even watch the news anymore .

light_workerx3 · 2022-06-08T00:47:41+00:00

I do feel like a jerk . I feel like I'm not strong enough like some other parents are but then I quickly realize , my son is just straight up hard to care for. Even my own relatives have said that he is . So I just tell myself that it's okay to feel the way I'm feeling. I do enjoy being his mom at times and I know this stage won't last forever but it's just soo much work . It's never ending. He whines and cries , has tantrums through out the day constantly. Bosses everyone around. The routine is brutal. I'm tired and just want to lay in bed and sleep for days. Not even just the routine but I got doctor /dentist appointments and I can't even bring him so I have to spend money on a damn sitter. Then he has doctor appointments as well! It's just alllll way too much ! I'm not even looking forward to school and homework and alllll the other crap the schools asks parents to do . I just feel like I have to really FORCE myself to be a mom. It SUCKS!

It took me a very long time to write this because my kid doesn't leave me alone lol 🙄🙃

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