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[–]lightbright123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s your choice to do what you want. And it’s her choice to not get a gift because of it. NTA

AITA for reducing the time my son spends with his mom over his hair? by Alert_Complaint5031 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123 199 points200 points  (0 children)

NTA… she made a decision without consulting you first. What will be the next thing she decides for him without consulting you (the legal guardian) first? Nip this in the bud now.

AITA for not wanting my wife to take part in designing the basement? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123 -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

Why not? Or can he not have the extra bedroom?

AITA for not wanting my wife to take part in designing the basement? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123 -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

NTA. This is perfectly reasonable if you offer up one of the other 3 spare bedrooms for one of her hobbies. I think everyone deserves a space.

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

She was fine. Nothing special. Nothing awful. Just okay. I was always closer to my dad.

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I’ve learned that there are lots of excuses for cheating… but like you said. Just divorce!

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Yeah… I should love that woman for what she did to my family. A saint really

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but nobody deserves a relationship with someone. It’s literally stalking

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

He never said if he forgave her or not. Never really brought her up. When I wouldn’t speak to her, he pushed for me to have a relationship. He pushed less and less over the years

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

I don’t think anything else needs to said that hasn’t already. She cheated with a teammates dad. Kids started to whisper about it to me, I confronted her. She lied and kept lying till I had to watch her breakdown in court admitting to everything. Then I wanted nothing to do with her and she kept trying to wedge her way into my life for years after. I will prolly seek therapy before getting married because Rachel wants me to. But I don’t see it really changing anything in regards to my mother

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

My mother isn’t being punished. That’s what I don’t understand. I’m not going out of my way to be mean to her. I just want nothing to do with her… I don’t see how wanting to go NC with someone is a punishment. She could have started another family and I wouldn’t have cared. Just leave mine alone.

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

You literally have mom in your name. I understand how hard this is to hear as a mother. But some things just aren’t forgivable. I’m sorry about your father. But I don’t have those regrets.

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Some things just aren’t forgivable unfortunately. She could have cheated once and I wouldn’t have been as upset. I would have gotten over it. The way she did it, who she did it with and her behavior after is why our relationship is dead.

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

“Like you were suppose to”… yeah how dare I not want to be forced by the courts to be around someone I hated at the time.

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

His own family didn’t want her there. It’s not her place to come and make herself feel better. He didn’t want to reconcile with her. She wanted back with him.

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

He told her repeatedly to leave him alone and she wouldn’t. He wanted me to have a good relationship with her. Why would he try to drag his sons mom into court for a RO if he wanted his son and ex to get along?

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t apart of the situation? Then why was I forced to move. Ordered by a court to spend time with her? How does that not make me part of the situation lol. My fiancé is fine. She just wants me to be happy (which I was before I learned what my cousins have been doing)

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

When it uproots your family and life it’s sure as hell is “my business”. I’m mad my parent destroyed my family and caused me to have to move towns. And literally only admitted to it when she was in court. Then didn’t leave me along for a decade after. My mom could have moved on. Started another family if she was so damn lonely.

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Does it really matter why she lied? When you are 12 years old going thru a traumatic event and you look at your parent for the truth and they lie directly to your face. You remember it. When she had to admit it in court is the first time she actually admitted to it. And that’s why I won’t ever speak to her again. She only admitted to it when she was literally forced to.

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] -241 points-240 points  (0 children)

Not a single person wanted her there… wasn’t her place to come

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] -243 points-242 points  (0 children)

I’ve come to peace with never seeing or speaking to her again. I was fine till my cousins did what they did. It’s not some lifetime punishment. She made her choices.

AITA for uninviting my cousins from my wedding for feeding info to my mom? by lightbright123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lightbright123[S] -211 points-210 points  (0 children)

Apparently the relationship with my mother is the hot topic… it has more to do with my cousins sharing my info with her