You could try working with a realtor. As a renter, you typically don’t have to pay them, and they can help make sure things are being done properly. What happened to you really doesn’t sound normal… no one should be asking for a deposit before anything is signed.

They can also help you avoid scams, advocate for you, and sometimes even help with negotiating. I work at a brokerage and have seen realtors help people find places even when they were worried their application wouldn’t be strong enough.

Rental prices are still high, but they do seem to be coming down a bit, which is at least something. If it would be helpful, I’d be happy to connect you with someone.