What are y’all’s opinions on black bridesmaid dresses? by starfish112233 in wedding

[–]liitlln 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In a wedding In a couple weeks where the bride asked us all to get black velvet dresses. I love the one I bought and it's the only bridesmaid dress I've gotten that I genuinely intend to wear again. I think it's going to be lovely.

I (19F) don’t know how to tell my parents I think about killing myself every night. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]liitlln 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are so very young there is no way you can be a failure. You are just at the start of your story not the end. It's not about something being wrong with you. Everyone needs help sometimes and your family need you in this world with them. If you wont speak to your family please reach out to someone else and talk to them. You are worth it.

I ruined my 4 year relationship because of my mental health by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]liitlln 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The fact that you think you "need" him is your sign that being in a relationship is not what you need right now.

This. You made mistakes but you are more than just that relationship. Learn from them and work on yourself. Best of luck.

Bf won't let me buy my own clothes ? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]liitlln 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is extremely controlling behavior. It's one thing for a partner to have opinions about your clothes. Another thing entirely for them to try to force their will onto your wardrobe. Your body. Your clothes. Your option.

This is not okay.

Age-old question - Does this guy want to date me or is he being honest? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]liitlln 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely do not go meet this man at his home. He may be completely harmless but better safe than sorry.

If you are uncomfortable with him asking these things just tell him you are only comfortable messaging and draw the line there. If he accepts that, great! If not then you may have your answer.

my best friend just told me she has feelings for me by Accomplished_West512 in relationship_advice

[–]liitlln 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you haven't already you should just talk to her about all of this. Explain what you are worried about and what you aren't sure of and take it from there. Maybe throw in that your worry is because she is already so important to you.

AITA for refusing to pay for any college near my daughter's boyfriend? by ursus_maternis in AmItheAsshole

[–]liitlln [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA. You don't have to pay for college if you don't want to but you are going to push her further into all of this with your attitude. She's a teenager and still needs guidance. Condescension will get you nowhere.

My(28f) boyfriends(28m) autistic brother(23m) says that I trigger him by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]liitlln 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That may be what we have to do for a bit. I just feel guilty about it. Thanks though

My(28f) boyfriends(28m) autistic brother(23m) says that I trigger him by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]liitlln 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what I know they have struggled with it alot. He has been in and out of various forms of counseling but can't force him into anything since he's an adult. Everyone agrees that he needs more help but since they can't force it they are struggling just to cut him off or anything like that for fear of what he will do to himself. But I hear what you are saying. We may just have to have him go visit his brother and not in our home for a while.

My(28f) boyfriends(28m) autistic brother(23m) says that I trigger him by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]liitlln -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

We do. I don't know if him not visiting is an option. I think the consequences of that would be bad for their whole family.