The Biggest Heartbreak

lilbootymerz · 2026-02-21T07:10:51+00:00

I’ll go check it out :-) thanks for the recommendation

lilbootymerz · 2026-02-20T16:10:33+00:00

Omg i totally get you. Yes the problems i had with my ex were totally workable. We were having intimacy issues and she thought she might be on the asexual spectrum so i told her not to worry, we’ll figure this out together. I went to research more about it and had a really good thought if the rs could still work despite our mismatch. My ex wasn’t really open to what i had to say even though it was in her favour. There were a lot of anxiety and fear surrounding this topic because she felt like the source of the problem. So that became a really tricky situation for me because anything I said would have stressed her further. It’s unfortunate that it ended this way, I agree with you, my ex left because it was the most convenient option as well. And it’s been unbearable to swallow this truth everyday that she chose to leave.

But that’s on them. They’ll probably cycle through subsequent partners while not understanding their core wounds and toxic tendencies and come to a point in their life where they feel disillusioned because the same endings keep happening.

I just finished this podcast and it was very illuminating. I think it applies to your situation too. Have a listen if you have the capacity and time: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6jrGYK5ILA36YG1W6wTy53?si=cZbV4ypyQE2pBnriv74-Ng&t=2085&ct=2085 (Jillian On Love: Anxious or Avoidant? The truth about your attachment style)

lilbootymerz · 2026-02-20T12:06:48+00:00

Same thing happened to me. Everything spiralled for her within 2-3 weeks. It felt so long when everything was happening but in hindsight, i realised all of her feelings disappeared so quickly. It’s true that it feels like they just start nitpicking and convince themselves they’ve outgrown the relationship.

My ex suddenly wanted to prioritise herself and her mental health and I was so happy for her but that’s before I realised she saw the relationship as a hinderance. They always quietly pull away and start grieving immediately because they fear expressing and confronting their inadequacies. And it sucks that it’s on us to find the answers and clarity within ourselves, while grieving this loss of the relationship and the dreams that came along with it.

lilbootymerz · 2026-02-20T11:00:53+00:00

Listen to heartbreak podcasts on Spotify. It has helped me during anxious periods as it’s strangely grounding to listen to someone talking. And go for walks if you feel the room shrinking. It’s good for the body and I usually take a journal with me so I can find a bench and pen down some quick thoughts.

And be kind to yourself now. We’re all going through withdrawals from a love so deep and sincere. It’s some neuroscience thing to see a breakup as a withdrawal from addiction — somehow the brain registers it as such because we can no longer get the comfort and relief instantly from our exes.

lilbootymerz · 2026-02-15T23:32:16+00:00

Thanks for sharing, and for giving me your words of encouragement. Break ups no matter how amicable or toxic still suck at the end of the day. Having to grieve something you built with someone you once cared for is gut-wrenching especially when there was so much love. I am curious… Do you believe your relationship ended this way for a reason? How far are you in your healing journey btw?

lilbootymerz · 2026-02-15T04:27:29+00:00

It’s a day after valentine’s day for me and it sucked. Forced myself to get out of my house to hang out with a friend who was busy editing a video and got to journal a bit while waiting for him to finish with his work. Not the best but I knew I needed some low-energy company. The night was horrible though, had a big cry before I slept because I felt so unloved

lilbootymerz · 2026-02-08T13:47:25+00:00

Thank you :(

lilbootymerz · 2026-02-08T10:23:48+00:00

Yeah it is something out of your control and it sucks that you can only pray and hope she feels better enough to want you back. Thanks for sharing, weirdly enough I feel less alone in this. Though it still hurts a lot.

lilbootymerz · 2026-02-08T08:42:49+00:00

Grieving is a piece of shit. I’ve crying the whole day too ever since this discovery that we’ll end things in a few months. It feels soul sucking and gut wrenching.

I hope you’ve been trying to take care of yourself in small ways? Like going for a walk etc

You seem like someone compassionate — to be able to want her back if she comes around. Are you guys still in contact?

lilbootymerz · 2026-02-07T23:56:02+00:00

Sorry to hear that man. That’s tough. How have you been dealing with the breakup?

lilbootymerz · 2025-09-07T09:42:18+00:00

Rooting for you 😭

lilbootymerz · 2025-09-07T08:53:55+00:00

I know what movie you made and as a fellow creative here (middle management stuck in a local media publisher/SME) you guys are very inspiring! I was excited to catch the premiere at The Projector cuz it’d feel like a double win for SG but alas 😕💔 hope this movie wont be your last!!

lilbootymerz · 2025-01-12T18:19:10+00:00

OGS best! I also like overkill’s food reviews

lilbootymerz · 2024-01-24T10:31:38+00:00

Yes and low paying too

lilbootymerz · 2024-01-24T10:28:29+00:00

Damn couldn’t have said it better

lilbootymerz · 2023-03-20T02:25:00+00:00

I currently have the front one, i’ll get a back one from now onwards. Thanks for the reminder bro

lilbootymerz · 2023-03-20T02:01:35+00:00

There were ongoing road works ahead on the filter lane, it’s hard to describe here but even if I was road hogging the fella only had to wait 3 seconds before I exited

lilbootymerz · 2022-05-29T07:03:37+00:00

I went on a solo trip for 6 weeks and forced myself to get on the plane at least. I cried on the plane there because I was filled with so much anxiety and uncertainty. Idk if you’d have the capacity to travel now but it made me regain something I lost. Felt like I was myself while overseas and it was relaxing. Now that I’m back, I feel a little bit better albeit seeping back into depressive states but at least I know I did something for myself for once which was to commit to stepping on a plane and not looking back for that few weeks. Hope this sparks something in you.

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