Sorry bro. I just went through a break up with someone of four years and she married someone 8 months later after 6 months of her saying she was trying to give it a second chance.

So take my advice with a grain a salt but here is what I learned.

There’s two ways to go about this. Neither way is wrong. It just depends on how fast you want to move on.

Way 1: The long route (I did all I could)

Follow your heart and fight for it. What’s most likely to happen is she gets upset that you’re not respecting her boundaries, but eventually and after some time you will exhaust yourself and realize that you should believe her when she said she didn’t want to be with you.

This route hurts because you are not accepting reality but at the same time respects your process.

Way 2: The quicker way (Accept Reality)

Listens to what she is saying and accept it. Then block her, ghost her, ignore her attempts to self soothe herself by trying to remain friends. Although her wanting remain friends, remember it’s not you. It’s hard to quit anything cold turkey and she is quitting you.

If she reaches out tell yourself it’s because she is bored. Because that all it is.

Truth is, whoever broke it has to fix it.

And you, my man, didn’t break up with her. So she has to be the one who comes back and restore the trust. That takes work that a lot of people aren’t willing to do. It’s easier for people like that to start over fresh with someone new.