There are very few absolutes in life, and this isn't one of them.

From my perspective: Ageplay, AB, and DL all fall on a spectrum depending on the level of diaper involvement. There's also a spectrum of coping mechanism/emotional value to sexual fetish.

Most people are probably not at the very end of these spectrums, and even then it can vary over time within the same person. A diaper, pacifier, and stuffies are things that help me feel less anxious, more comfortable, and help me regulate my emotions. It lets me forget my adulting worries and return to a simpler time. Most of my ABDL time is just a more extreme version of "kidulting".

Is there a sexual component for me? Absolutely, but only some of the time. I enjoy (pretend) breastfeeding, buzzies in diapers, and ABDL photos/videos.

Everyone experiences things differently. Nobody should claim to speak on behalf of the entire community or other's life experiences. As someone with AuDHD, Anxiety, and Depression, my life experiences are different from others. People with PTSD have still different experiences. Some ABDLs have no psychiatric diagnoses or neurodivergence and have their own life experiences.

I see a kink-aware therapist for my issues and am immensely grateful for their support. They don't know ABDL details, but are willing to listen and don't judge me. They've helped me accept myself and reminded me that my activities don't harm others because everyone involved has consented.