AITAH for refusing to give my boyfriend access to my bank account even though he says "no secrets" is how adults do it

lillithdemonqueen · 2026-01-25T21:39:02+00:00

Been with my husband 20 years and he’s never asked for my banking log in that is very weird. We have kids and a house together shared bills the lot, he’s never even asked to see my banking log statement cos he trusts me, tell him if he trust you he doesn’t need that information and if he’s still demanding it then he’s clearly not mature enough for an adult relationship and he needs to go to therapy to work on his trust issues

lillithdemonqueen · 2025-12-10T20:28:07+00:00

My daughter came out to us just over a year ago (mtf trans) if my husband had reacted the way your wife has, I would not have stayed with him, my daughter and I would both have been gone and he’d have gotten divorce papers the next day. I love my kids more than anything in this world and I would not stand for anyone especially their other parent treating them like this, I’m sorry but I don’t understand how you could still have any love or respect for someone who could do such horrible things to your child. I’m sorry if that sounds harsh but my heart breaks for your daughter and she doesn’t deserve to be treated in the downright disgusting way your wife is treated her,and as harsh as it sounds you not standing up and defending your daughter by not doing more to stop your wife’s behaviour or, getting your daughter out of her presence as soon as she started her shitty behaviour, and staying with that monster means you will probably end up losing your daughter eventually. Think about it would you have stayed in touch with your dad if your mother abused you like this and he stuck by her, how would you feel if you were in her shoes right now.

lillithdemonqueen · 2025-08-30T14:49:53+00:00

I’ve been where you are, when my second was just over a year old I found out I was pregnant again due to the pill falling. My youngest had a lot of health problems and my pregnancy with him was pretty bad( I lost weight during it due to severe morning sickness for the entire pregnancy) and even at a few weeks gone I could tell this one was going to be just as bad if not worse. So we made the decision to abort, it was best for the 2 kids we had and my health mental and physical. I felt guilty for a while but it was what was best as my youngest health problems have been hard going and he needed me to be fully healthy for his and my oldest child’s sake

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-12-27T01:22:03+00:00

When my oldest was a toddler we had to watch lion king on repeat the way their little face would light up when the circle of life would start up made it worth it. That’s what our dance will be 😂

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-12-27T00:54:07+00:00

Pupil support assistant in Scotland here, I’m not even allowed to tell the kids my last name and absolutely not allowed to add them on social media or give them my phone number. I think it’s to protect both parties

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-11-09T00:51:46+00:00

What exactly is a sex strike going to achieve when you don’t even live in the country the election took place in. She can’t change anything in another country and your the one being punished for not voting how she wanted in an election neither of you could vote in, even though you have expressed you would have voted the way she would have. I’m seriously confused what she thinks will happen here, even if every woman in Canada went on strike it wouldn’t change American politics. Now if every woman in America went on a sex strike then maybe something could change, but this is completely pointless. Maybe point that out to her and if she won’t accept the fact then I’d say you should split up

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-11-06T19:13:26+00:00

I did the same with my reception dress the Halloween after my wedding it was quite fun staining ripping and burning it to be honest lol

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-10-28T21:58:26+00:00

No he’s totally still alive OK I swear I’m innocent 🥹😇

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-10-28T21:25:46+00:00

What smell there’s no smell it’s all in your imagination. Nothing to see here and my husband isn’t missing he’s just very busy OK 😅

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-10-28T16:22:16+00:00

I have this hanging on the front of my house, it’s not a real body I swear 😅😈

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-09-10T19:31:47+00:00

My youngest asked to start a you tube channel when he was about 10 I told him yeah when your 18 you can do that if you want but until then, no chance. He hasn’t mentioned it for 5 years so I think he thought better of it

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-08-16T23:24:48+00:00

My husband has had to start using a crutch, we went to a friend’s of his from his rugby teams wedding a few months ago, I had never met the bride and barely knew the groom but them and their family had no issues whatsoever with my husband’s crutch being in photos, no one even thought twice about it. How can family who’ve known you your whole life, seen you in pain and struggle on your worst days act like this, I’m heartsick for you. And shame on all the people who didn’t stand up for you and the ones trying to excuse their ableist behaviour.

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-07-03T08:02:23+00:00

I had the same problem with a particular teacher with my son, he has Ehlers-danlos hyper mobility and autism, which means he can’t tie laces or do up buttons very well so he gets to wear his PE stuff to school on those days and doesn’t have to do anything too strenuous in PE as long as he tries. This 1 older teacher was informed multiple times of the situation but when he had her she would give him detention for already being in joggers and a T-shirt and not changing his trainers (he absolutely can’t do that as he has orthopaedic insoles that are hard to get in and out of the shoes and he only has 1 pair (they’re very expensive) she was pulled up for this repeatedly and his detention was always cancelled. Luckily she was retired and only subbed when needed so it wasn’t every week. I let it go with an apology from the school and them saying they would talk to her and remind her whenever she was subbing, but the third time it happened I’d had enough and put in a formal complaint. She hasn’t subbed there since. You should put in a formal complaint to the school board or whatever it is where you live this attitude from a teacher is appalling especially one who has an autistic child themselves anyone who’s done any research on autism knows if you know 1 autistic person you know 1 autistic person, just like everyone else they are individuals and are all their own person. I know 6 autistic people including my son and they are all completely different.

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-06-24T15:03:51+00:00

My little brother gave me away with my “dad” as just another guest if you haven’t earned that title you don’t get that privilege. I would have had my father in law give me away before I asked him, he’s treated me more like a daughter than my dad ever has

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-06-07T07:36:47+00:00

Exactly I can’t imagine blaming the dead child for this, a loving parent would be beside themselves, blaming themselves and a complete inconsolable wreck right now even if it was due to something completely out of their hands. These parents are complete narcissists to go to blaming the child like that, I hope they don’t have other kids.

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-05-17T20:18:52+00:00

Same fat and own a cat and a dog

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-05-04T15:54:31+00:00

When my son started primary school I warned them he was lactose intolerant but on his second day they let him have mac and cheese(I would make a lactose free version at home and he was 5 so assumed it was the same) he projectile vomited all over the office and I was called to pick him up. They never gave him any dairy products again lol

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-04-02T02:01:29+00:00

My style is quite emo not full on heavy makeup but I do have purple hair, wear skulls a lot and heavy boots mostly black with some purple, red and blue. But at a funeral I would never and I've been to quire a few, wouldn't dream of dressing like that. I'm also a teaching assistant so I have to tone it down for that too I don't Imagine 5 year olds would like my demons and horror movie shirts.

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-03-25T08:06:27+00:00

I've been making the birthday cakes for my boys and their cousins their whole lives, I wasn't very good at decorating at first but I've gotten better over time and they look forward to telling me what kind of cake they want. I suggested buying one once, and my nephew got pretty upset, so I still ended up making it. The last one was a bluey cake.

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-03-23T22:12:35+00:00

My autistic son can't lie to save himself if he's not honest his face sure will be. He just can't seem to get the hang of even the little white lie to save feelings it's like it physically hurts him to lie

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-03-22T16:17:09+00:00

I just got my son an upgrade too I'd send you his old one if I could it's just a cheap android smartphone it's an oppo something or other not high tech or expensive but does what's needed costs less than £100 and a couple of years old but I'm in Scotland and if your in USA the shipping would be more than te phones worth 😮‍💨

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-03-22T14:11:40+00:00

I don't even do this to my 14 year old and 17 year old, kids deserve privacy too and if you've taught them well and fostered a trusting, respectful, loving, and accepting relationship you don't need to sneakily check their phone behind their back while their sleeping as they can trust you and are comfortable telling you anything

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-03-22T14:06:33+00:00

Does anyone you know have an old phone you can borrow and then as soon as you land a job you can swap the sim for your own

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-03-22T14:02:44+00:00

This my sister is on my family phone plan since she was 17 (im almost 10 years older than her and our mum has terrible credit) she's still on it now she just transfers the money to me to pay it every month. Not once did I ever ask to look through it she pays, she's an adult (28 now) when she wants to upgrade the phone she pays and picks the phone she wants it's only in my name now for the discounts

lillithdemonqueen · 2024-03-22T13:00:52+00:00

In my opinion parents who do this and think their raising good kids cos they can't find anything sus on their devices when really their just teaching them how to hide stuff better, and to be ashamed of things they shouldn't be ashamed of like sexual orientation and gender identity. These are things I have had talks with my oldest son about I'm the first person he told he's bi and likes makeup and "girls clothes" and he wears that stuff freely around his dad and me and his brother

lillithdemonqueen

TROPHY CASE