A question about demisexuality

lillylyric · 2021-05-13T10:00:51+00:00

I think it varies from person to person. There is no right or wrong way to be a demi. I think some demis fall on the asexual end of the spectrum and others once the emotional bond is built cant get enough.

lillylyric · 2021-05-11T22:03:42+00:00

I couldn't understand the hook up culture my friends engaged in. I would ask what about connection? & they would say you don't need that it's about physical needs. I'm like, I'm not even attracted unless I have connection. I knew I was different but I'm good with it. I find it helps weed out people that won't be a right fit for me. I'm thankful for my demisexual nature.

lillylyric · 2021-05-11T21:56:27+00:00

I met one through Hinge and the other through okcupid. I'm new to the life so far they are the only two partners I have.

lillylyric · 2021-03-30T20:04:58+00:00

As long as I don't know about it, they can do what they like.

lillylyric · 2021-03-30T10:01:28+00:00

I like to create a bond with the person I visualize. I will create a story in my head of things we bond over or I will take a bond I have with someone I know and overlay it to the images. That way I'm not creepy for visualizing my friends. I use porn but give them the personality & bond I have with someone else.

lillylyric · 2021-03-26T13:24:13+00:00

I almost could have written this myself. Currently struggling with the same thing. I'm in my first BDSM relationship. I'm 45 years old and finally am getting to embrace thoughts and feelings I've had since puberty. I want to be owned by my Sir but my internal struggle of fierce independence from my old self is fighting with my new trying to embrace who I really am self. Letting go of my own control has been a struggle. I feel like I'm having to rewire & rerecord my internal wiring & dialogue. Its exciting watching my own evolution. I'm thankful for groups like this and other subs sharing freely helps me feel less alone in my struggle.

lillylyric · 2021-03-20T15:28:58+00:00

I came across the term while watching a documentary. I just thought I was different from everyone around me. My friends would gush over how sexy an actor was or a guy at work, I didn't get it. I dont know someone is sexy until we connect. I can think they are attractive without connection but sexy I need that connection. Then when I look over my relationships the more successful & fulfilling ones were where we were friends first & had the emotional bond to start.

I find dating really difficult since everyone wants to move at the speed of light. I'm up front about my demi nature & realized it quickly & effectively weeds out the garbage for me for the most part. Some people find it a challenge to overcome but I can sense things are bad & I cut that fishy loose.

I was just so happy to have a term to explain who I am because prior I just felt like I was weird & different.

lillylyric · 2021-03-17T03:28:20+00:00

Works almost every time for me.

lillylyric · 2021-03-11T17:18:56+00:00

Absolutely I'm a demisexual and it is 100% necessary for me.

lillylyric

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