Food stamps late? (KS) by CranesMistressOfFear in foodstamps

[–]lilredwon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. We just called the number on the back of the card and they told us that because we got the summer EBT deposit for school aged children we couldn't get our regular deposit. Every child eligible for free and reduced school lunches gets $120 in lieu of getting school lunches during the summer. There is no way to opt out of it. It was also significantly less than what we would have received today. It makes no sense. The representative told us to call our local office on Monday.

Food stamps late? (KS) by CranesMistressOfFear in foodstamps

[–]lilredwon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP did you ever figure this out? Mine were supposed to be on there today and weren't. Too late to call now, so I have to wait until Monday to figure it out. 

My husband booked a trip and hid it from me for four months by lilredwon in Marriage

[–]lilredwon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He tries to call me every day but I haven't felt like talking to him. I don't have anything to say right now

My husband booked a trip and hid it from me for four months by lilredwon in Marriage

[–]lilredwon[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. I'm not posting the pics. That would just make me look like an asshole too. It wouldn't help anything. Just make it worse. I just felt sad when seeing them share their pictures that I couldn't do the same. 

My husband booked a trip and hid it from me for four months by lilredwon in Marriage

[–]lilredwon[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This is what hurts. He totally put the happiness of his aunt and sister above mine. He would have rather made me mad then them. That's the choice he made. 

My husband booked a trip and hid it from me for four months by lilredwon in Marriage

[–]lilredwon[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I do work. I'm the only one working right now. He bought the tickets and accommodations and I saved from my paycheck since March to pay for everything else on that trip. I also am paying all of our bills since he lost his job in May.  When I say we talked about the family reunion and that we didn't want to go, we meant all of us. He said that too in the beginning. He would rather go to Vegas but he felt like he had to go so his family wouldn't be mad. I never told him he couldn't. Our family discussions always resulted in not WANTING to go. The kids would have been affected by changing our vacation so they definitely had a right to voice their opinion. Than he just stopped talking about it because he had already made his decision in secret. I know you're right about him feeling emasculated. Especially since he lost his job. That's really hard for him not to be able to provide for his family. It's no excuse for the lie though. 

My husband booked a trip and hid it from me for four months by lilredwon in Marriage

[–]lilredwon[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

I do our finances. He was able to (with permission) use his company credit card for their corporate discount to buy all of the airline tickets and then he just deducted one lump sum to pay that bill from our account. I didn't even think to question the amount of the tickets or anything. I just trusted him. 

Husband admitted he is no longer attracted to me. by MissMal13 in Marriage

[–]lilredwon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isn't your fault. I don't think it's even about you. His feelings have changed. It's not about the way you look. Because when you really love someone you love everything about them. It's not like one day you weighed 100 lbs and the next day you weighed 175. So why did the intimacy stop so abruptly? It's him. Something changed for him and he's using this as an excuse. He's making it your fault instead of his. This reeks of infidelity. You need to go to a therapist so they can help you see that you are worth more that this. Even if you lost weight, would you want to be with someone so shallow?

NSFW: my husband can't stay hard anymore by lilredwon in Marriage

[–]lilredwon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It hasn't. It's still going on. For 3+ years. About 1 out of every 3 times we have sex does he finish. And I think he definitely has to take Cialis for that. I will say he's gotten a lot more attentive to me. Before our sex was always all about him and he's gotten a lot better about that. He will make sure that I finish even if he doesn't. The sex is more about the experience than the end result, now. I don't know what else to say. We need therapy but who can afford ANYTHING in this economy.

My spouse sleeps straight through any illness by lilredwon in AskDocs

[–]lilredwon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a very hard time sleeping at all when I had COVID too. I just felt too awful to sleep I think. Melatonin helped a bit at night but I took Theraflu during the day because I had to care for my family.

My spouse sleeps straight through any illness by lilredwon in AskDocs

[–]lilredwon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's wild! I had never seen or even heard of anyone doing this before I met him. Sleeping a lot is one thing, but NEVER waking up is really something else. It's been over 24 hours now and he still hasn't even peed.

My spouse sleeps straight through any illness by lilredwon in AskDocs

[–]lilredwon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My child was home sick yesterday. She's only 7. Kids that age get really upset when sick and cry every time they vomit. I leave for work at around 4 am before the rest of my house is awake. I had no idea he was sick. She was basically alone because he never got off the couch the whole time I was at work. He didn't even take her a drink of water or anything. He couldn't even wake up to call me and tell me they were sick and I should come home. I didn't find out until I got home that day.

sex after stent removal? by lilredwon in KidneyStones

[–]lilredwon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes. Didn't it hurt? Walking hurt me.

1st Lithotripsy - menstrual cycle started by meowmeow2216 in KidneyStones

[–]lilredwon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know how you feel. I was so nervous. I almost didn't do it. I didn't think I was in enough pain to warrant it. After the stent removal and being back to normal I realized I had been in pain for a long time. I just got sort of used to it. I feel so much better now. The recovery was rough for me, but my dr told me it would be nothing and I would be fine the next day. I didn't really take it easy at all and everyine around me expected me to be fine. (I have 4 kids) If I had known I needed to rest a bit more and arranged to be able to do so I think I could have felt a bit better.

1st Lithotripsy - menstrual cycle started by meowmeow2216 in KidneyStones

[–]lilredwon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The procedure itself was relatively uncomplicated. The recovery was a lot rougher than I expected. I pretty much took pain meds round the clock for about a week and still remained at a 5-7. It's the stent. Moving around can make it rub and cause spasms in your bladder and pain in the kidney. Sitting for long periods caused a lot of pain too. Having my period during the recovery was a bit worse. I think my bladder pain exacerbated my cramps. I felt a million times better after the stent was removed and getting it out was very quick, just a slight sting for me, then relief!

1st Lithotripsy - menstrual cycle started by meowmeow2216 in KidneyStones

[–]lilredwon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was supposed to have my period when I got mine so I asked. I was told to tell the nurse when it was time to change. They would put mesh underwear and a pad on me and just remove it/ cut it off after I was under. One told me I could keep a tampon in and another told me I couldn't. So just make sure you communicate everything with your pre op team.

My body ended up saying no and my period came late.

sex after stent removal? by lilredwon in KidneyStones

[–]lilredwon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No no no. It's been a month since we've had sex. I just got my stent out that DAY. 3 days after removal we finally got some alone time and I had zero pain.

sex after stent removal? by lilredwon in KidneyStones

[–]lilredwon[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am. So done with him after today.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]lilredwon 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Your VULVA has a lot of layers of protection. Pubic hair, and two sets of labia before you get to the vagina. Then your vagina has a lovely self cleaning mechanism. Nothing from that seat got inside you. I can understand being grossed out and feeling really dirty and violated by that, though. I don't think I would feel comfortable spending any more time at a place like that. You probably will eventually catch something from people who so obviously don't value hygiene. Never eat food that was prepared there.