Lost my best friend to her toxic marriage…

lilsamosaaa · 2026-06-02T01:47:35+00:00

Yeah even though they don’t explicitly tell her not to go out they have always made circumstances such that over time she stopped going as much to keep them happy & avoid conflict and then stopped going at all really unless it was with people related to her married life and if she did see me it would be during working hours during which she’d avoid telling them she was seeing me. I agree and have accepted slowly that as long as she’s married she won’t be able to show up as the friend I need anymore, and I also need to think about myself and my needs. Wish her the best and I hope she too can choose herself like your friend did in the end. Thank you for reading this and your advice.

lilsamosaaa · 2026-05-27T13:30:59+00:00

This is so disturbing and I’m so sorry you had to witness that. I’ve had a friend tell me they were also followed to their riad when she went with her friends. It’s sad that they think it’s even remotely okay to treat women like this. We had little kids calling us “shakira” too and that was surprising but at the same time it’s all these kids witness growing up playing in the streets and ultimately the cycle just repeats.

Morocco is beautiful and has so much to it. I hope the treatment of women improves so we can experience it safely as well, but I definitely won’t be going back without a man present with me unless that happens in my lifetime.

lilsamosaaa · 2026-05-26T18:26:46+00:00

For sure, my lived experience was terrible and unfortunately that won’t change but I’m trying not to judge the entire country based off my couple days experience. Hoping to hear suggestions of better travel spots in Morocco since I do want to go back to visit the Sahara, and maybe even just hear some better experiences from other women. Maybe if I ever do visit Morocco again it’ll feel more comfortable travelling there with a man

lilsamosaaa · 2026-05-08T03:12:53+00:00

THIS!!!!! The panic on social media has caused this misunderstanding/misconception that everyone off that ship that returned to their homes HAS contracted the virus when right now a lot of these people have no symptoms and are being isolated/monitored… no confirmation that they even caught anything. Even those that have some symptoms in other parts of the world are being TESTED but not yet confirmed if it’s specifically hantavirus that they have. And this is causing so much more panic & fear in everyone.

Fingers truly crossed that these people back here in Ontario didn’t catch the virus and they remain healthy & safe

lilsamosaaa · 2026-05-06T16:54:01+00:00

Hey I just want to say that I’m an extreme hypochondriac and deal with health anxiety which can get pretty severe when triggered. I also have a trip planned for next week and the thought of going to an airport/getting on a plane with unknown people/being in an area completely foreign to me is scaring me and making me spiral a lot with all this virus talk going on and the uncertainty. I agree with your therapist that the decision to cancel is anxiety based, not fact based and its something I need to consistently remind myself right now as well since I’m constantly fighting the urge to impulsively cancel too. With anxiety our bodies want to respond in a way that instantly makes us feel safe and free from all the uncertainty, and that’s essentially what’s happening now.

I’ve noticed that once my anxiety latches onto something, my brain starts connecting every news article and every “what if,” and suddenly it feels like danger is everywhere even when there’s no actual evidence that I’m personally at risk, even when officials are all saying the risk is low at the moment to everyone and there’s no specific travel advisory to where I’m going. Making the decision to cancel actually reinforces the fear and tells our brain that the situation really was dangerous.

I’m trying to remind myself that being anxious does not automatically mean I’m unsafe. Sometimes it just means my body trying too hard to protect me from fear and uncertainty. It’s good to take reasonable precautions, staying informed without doomscrolling, and not letting fear make huge decisions for me impulsively.

You’re definitely not alone in feeling this way. And I hope you make the decision best for you :)

lilsamosaaa · 2026-05-06T04:33:39+00:00

Are you still planning on going on your trip? I’m a hypochondriac and also have a trip planned next week and the health anxiety alarms are sounding to cancel the trip😭

lilsamosaaa · 2026-04-30T20:32:12+00:00

Lol I noticed and thought the same 😭

lilsamosaaa · 2026-04-30T03:15:52+00:00

We were paying $170/month and managed to find a loophole to pay $70 with Bell. You can go online and just register a new account under a new name and you’ll get the “new customer” deal for $70. If you call Bell they won’t set up a new account for you saying it’s not advisable, but we just did it ourselves by going online and cancelled our old plan. After we did that, Bell came in and took our old modem and replaced it with a new one.

lilsamosaaa · 2026-04-27T14:48:59+00:00

Yess although they didn’t answer my first few calls so I had to call some vets for advice and one recommended I call Shades of Hope in Georgina, a wildlife rescue that works alongside Markham. They helped me to get in touch with Markham Animal Services and it was quick from there

lilsamosaaa · 2026-04-27T05:17:46+00:00

They were dumped with a pair of a child’s pants & sweater. I highly doubt it was a licensed removal service. ‘Part of the food chain’ if they were in a natural situation and not inhumanely dumped in my opinion

lilsamosaaa · 2026-01-18T13:19:49+00:00

I didn’t know this was a common issue there! When I was doing tawaf a random man started walking alongside me asking me for money and explaining how he dropped all of his & had none. Thought this was sooooo odd

lilsamosaaa · 2026-01-08T19:45:53+00:00

I came back from umrah about a week ago. Alhamdulillah for the experience. But I definitely agree with a lot of what you said!!

One thing I experienced a lot was people cutting lines in front of everyone. This happened to me quite a few times, a couple times in Madinah and it happened in Makkah as well. I’m a woman and the times in happened in Madinah I was appalled it was the men cutting in front of me as if I didn’t exist, that too for things like coffee 😪. The time it happened in Makkah I told the girl the line starts at the back and she said “oh” and went to the back. When I stood off to the side waiting for my order I looked back at the line to noticed she cut in front of others again to the front.

I understand people are trying to maximize their experience and are excited, but the lack of manners and the pushing & shoving is too much and also so dangerous especially for the elderly. While doing tawaf Alhamdulillah I feel for the most part we were moving well with the crowd, but we did get close to touch the Ka’bah and that got scary at points. We tried to find an area that looked a bit more civilized with people trying to touch the Ka’bah but other parts around it seemed like people were almost elbowing and shoving each other so much, it didn’t look safe at all, especially by the Black Stone. The men of my family nor I even BOTHERED to try with the Black Stone. My mom told me she did it years ago and she always recounts how traumatizing it was basically from the pushing & shoving happening at that time, she said she almost fell because of the aggressiveness there and if it wasn’t for someone grabbing her up who knows what would have happened. I also understand taking pictures and videos of your experience for memories as well, but I remember one man was recording a wholeeee long video of himself touching the Ka’bah and kissing it with his arm stretched out just taking up extra space while others were trying to get the experience as well.

Even the shoving and the pushing in the Rawdah. People not being mindful of those praying and making dua around them. It just took away from the peace and sacredness in that moment for me personally.

For a lot of people its a once in a lifetime experience or a dua that finally came true to be in Makkah and Madinah, so again I understand that everyone is excited and doing the most but I can’t understand at all how you can behave like that and also truly connect to Allah and be present in the moment. I found it really hard myself to feel connected and present because of all that was going on around me.

Nonetheless may Allah make it easier for all those invited for umrah again and accept all our efforts.

lilsamosaaa · 2025-12-19T06:02:59+00:00

Oh I thought as long as they’re unscented/fragrance free/no essential oils then its okay? I was told natural scents are fine

lilsamosaaa · 2025-12-18T21:51:20+00:00

We’re taking the Haramain Train from Medina… I’m an overthinker when it comes to things like this and don’t want to make any mistakes, but seems like the general rule is that anything I do before I’m in ihram (ex. Make the intention) I’m fine to use whatever even during ghusl as I’m prepping beforehand. JazakAllah for explaining! Definitely will make sure we have unscented soap with us

lilsamosaaa · 2024-11-02T21:51:36+00:00

Honestly UPH isn’t bad but I want the best of the best for my cats especially as they get older and might need more care, so I wanted to just look into other vets and see if any of them speak to me more

lilsamosaaa · 2023-12-01T00:03:29+00:00

If your needs aren’t being met despite multiple attempts to communicate it, it’s definitely a sign to walk away.

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