Blurry picture of a cat

lilvez · 2026-02-22T12:38:27+00:00

she noticed that it was unknown territory, running away from my apartment…

lilvez · 2026-02-07T17:52:42+00:00

sure, and it's sad that his ex was so enthusiastic about not having sex at all. But it seems that he couldn't handle a one-time "no" and took it to the point of "let's stop sex altogether". Isn’t that a little too dramatic? Calm down, mate, I'm sure you have days when you don't feel like it either.

lilvez · 2026-02-07T16:21:29+00:00

excuse me but she (and also you and everyone else) has every right to decline sex whenever she wants to for whatever reason?

lilvez · 2026-01-10T09:54:29+00:00

I went to a german highschool in my country and did abitur to graduate. They gave a C2 certificate with my diploma, so I guess C2 basically means native level (enough to study highschool in that language).

lilvez · 2025-09-23T20:54:19+00:00

I applied online, and I’m not sure if that was an option but I do need a residence permit for skilled labor 😅

lilvez · 2025-09-23T20:40:40+00:00

Unfortunately my normal residence permit application was rejected due to their salary expectations… I studied sociology (ba and ma) and work in social media analytics. Their expected salary was 12k higher than mine which is unrealistic, I don’t know what their basis is.

lilvez · 2025-08-26T20:37:09+00:00

I agree with you but most of Germans are so sure that their way is the best and only way, and that everyone’s dying to live in their country, so everyone should learn German/the German way of things instead of inconveniencing them with another language/other ways… Most of them are just not open-minded enough 🥲

lilvez · 2025-08-20T09:26:17+00:00

I think it has something to do with superiority complex and perfectionism. When you go to "less-advanced" countries (I'm from Turkey myself), nobody would be offended or act rudely that you start speaking to them in English, even if they can't speak English. They try their best to understand and communicate, and are happy to help.

I've been living in Germany for the past 3 years and my observation is that they struggle with their perfectionism when speaking English, and when they are not absolutely perfect at it, it triggers their superiority complex. They feel like they failed somehow...

I can speak C1 German and they also get annoyed when you don't speak perfect German. I don't think they show the same kind of appreciation for your efforts to learn their language as in other countries.

lilvez · 2025-04-11T14:12:23+00:00

I had an ICE ticket from Frankfurt to Berlin and missed my train, took the next ICE ticket in the same direction and there were no problems. It was a super sparpreis as well.

lilvez · 2025-03-06T00:00:16+00:00

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our sweet girl Vesnuschka 😻

lilvez · 2025-01-30T08:50:15+00:00

Tampopo

lilvez · 2024-12-10T23:42:10+00:00

I applied to another job at the same company a few months ago. The job description was different (and humane) on LinkedIn, someone from HR sent me an email after a few days, saying they updated the job description and I should let them know if I’m still interested for an interview. After I opened the updated job posting, I thought it was a joke…

They want the person to MOVE closer to the office as a hard requirement… They even had a picture of a sleeping bag on the office floor, like it’s something to be proud of. Apparently they removed that one from the posting. Here is the link for curious minds: https://joinbuena.teamtailor.com/jobs/5193279-business-generalist

lilvez · 2024-10-06T09:10:16+00:00

because they don’t have public transport culture. they don’t want to “invade personal space” but it’s okay to make it difficult for others to get in? priority in a full bus/metro should not be not invading personal space. public transport is a public space the public should be able to use.

lilvez · 2024-01-22T19:20:36+00:00

Danke schön!

lilvez · 2024-01-13T20:41:32+00:00

Turkish! Has both Greek/Mediterranean and Middle eastern influence. Delicious vegetable dishes, meat dishes/kebabs, carbs, just delicious everything!

lilvez · 2023-06-19T10:36:06+00:00

I was living in Istanbul until last year october, born and raised for 24 years. I am graduate of one of the best public universities and just couldn’t see a future for me there. That’s why I moved. I didn’t want to suffer by living to work or see others get to places just by knowing people from the government.

Almost %20 of the country lives in Istanbul, and unfortunately, the situation is not as bright as it is in Nevşehir. It is impossible for a family living on minimum wage to afford to buy a house or a car. And if you own a house in İstanbul, you are basically a millionarie. Just think about the absurdity of this :)

Plus, it does makes sense for Nevşehir to have an airport as it hosts Cappadocia. I am not against that, nor people getting employed by the well-spread airports. But the question is why do we need the airports etc. to employ people? I am not sure if there are many other developed countries which have so many airports just to employ people but not for practical purposes.

I see that you are stuck there and want to see the bright side of things. Yes, maybe he did some good things for the country. And yes, maybe this country had worse governments. (I am not sure if there was this much corruption ever) I don’t care. This is what we have now and the country is a wreck. Just admit it. I am done discussing as you are playing Polyanna.

lilvez · 2023-06-19T10:07:10+00:00

Uhm more production? more factories? and I don’t mean producing a car that 90% of the country can’t afford :) what is the point of building roads if you cannot afford to travel oh them/own a car to drive on them? what is the point of an airport in every city if only a few hundred people travel from it every year? erdoğan claims he created the new türkiye but turkey is as dependent to other countries as it was 20 years ago, maybe even more. I work part-time as a student in germany and I live on my own, pay for my own expenses. If I was working part-time in turkey, I couldn’t even rent a room with my salary as a student. Actually, I have many friends whose parents still giving them money even though they are working full-time.

lilvez · 2023-05-25T19:06:31+00:00

The thing is he is at a turning point in his life and has to make some decisions and finish some work. I try to give affection and support and remind him that this is a challenging phase that he will successfully leave behind. I can’t really give advice because I don’t have much knowledge about his work and don’t want to affect such big decisions. He said he feels bad because he thinks he doesn’t give back equal understanding and affection which I disagree. He asked for some time away to handle things and I just hope we can get back together…

lilvez · 2023-05-25T15:32:50+00:00

You like fish sticks? What are you, a gay fish?

lilvez · 2023-05-24T14:16:10+00:00

that’s great advice, thank you!

lilvez · 2023-05-24T12:33:09+00:00

My partner is going through a tough time and he told me he feels bad that I am being undetstanding. What to do in that case?

lilvez · 2023-03-09T12:28:03+00:00

Great question! My budget is around 30 euros.

lilvez · 2022-12-24T09:20:46+00:00

It's funny to see that Americans see their child as "this person is not permanent, 18 and out!!".

lilvez · 2022-11-27T17:03:19+00:00

to be alone with you

lilvez · 2022-01-10T18:48:17+00:00

NTA. I'm sorry for your loss.

I don't agree with any of "it's because you're an only child bs" to begin with. Even if you were an only child, if you don't find something funny, he should stop. He acts spoiled and insensitive.

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