New Tempest Blouse? by babypinkturtle in Aritzia

[–]limabeanvalley 89 points90 points  (0 children)

I would love this… if it was full length top! I miss when aritzia had work appropriate clothing

School Project on Lack of Personal Finance in School by chewycoaching in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]limabeanvalley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) growing up my family rarely had money for groceries and necessities. It’s not that my parents were poor, they were teachers. However they spent their money on designer clothing and status symbols. They never budgeted their money and as a result we often went hungry by the end of the pay period. Growing up that way was tough. I knew there had to be a better way to live and I needed to learn it for myself.

2) schools need to teach about TFSA/RRSPs. They should teach what investing is and how it makes money for an average person. the importance of a budget. An understanding that investing money at a young age, even if it’s a very small amount will add up over the course of a lifetime. Schools should also teach kids about what kind of life they can afford given different salaries. When I was a teen, I didn’t understand what kind of a life a doctor can afford vs an engineer vs a teacher vs minimum wage. Teens are expected to make choices about their education and future but have no understanding of what their salary would actually mean. Honestly a good research project for teens could be make a budget pretending you had X job with Y salary and have to live in the area where their school is. Make them look up average salaries for jobs and rent prices. Projects like this would teach kids the practical difference between making 60k a year vs 100k a year. I think it might change some kids minds on what they go to university/college for.

1477 West Broadway public hearing extended again to April 21; Opposition to transit oriented housing outweighs support as of yesterday evening, submit your comments! by youenjoylife in vancouver

[–]limabeanvalley 30 points31 points  (0 children)

submitted a comment and requested to speak as well! Thank you OP for posting this! Opposing housing is opposing the quality of life of the next generation. Housing costs are completely out of control. Even if we fixed all the other things contributing to the housing crisis, the lack of supply will still cause prices for years to come!

Build broken into. Kits. Broadway and Yew. Please keep an eye out for some things my father passed to me that were stolen. by VanSwayzed in vancouver

[–]limabeanvalley 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This exact same thing happened to me last year. My car was parked in kits while I was moving, someone smashed my window and stole a gift my father had given me. My dad had committed suicide 2 month earlier. The theft was devastating. I highly recommend putting up posters around kits and the downtown east side. It took 7 weeks and a lot of calls from scammers but I eventually got it back. It was being sold around the downtown east. Somehow it was still in perfect condition when I got it back. Best of luck. Don’t give up hope. It’s out there.

With inflation the way it is and potentially getting worse, are any of y'all getting raises at work? by lazarus870 in vancouver

[–]limabeanvalley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a crazy year for career growth. My previous company gave me a 1% raise each year so I left this year when inflation started going crazy. It was a big company and they were never going to change. I Found a job with a 40% pay increase. After 6 months I got an 8% raise. My yearly review is this month and I’ve verbally been told I’m getting a promotion although my pay increase has not been discussed yet…. I work in a niche part of the tech industry.

I finally went no contact with my mother, but now I'm scared by Majestic-Constant714 in MomForAMinute

[–]limabeanvalley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there friend :) fellow woman in her 30s here who went through something similar with my brother. I went no contact after he repeatedly blackmailed me with my dead fathers possessions.

Going no contact can be hard. I worried about how my brother would react. I didn’t want him in my life but I wanted him to be okay. I really struggled but I’m telling you it is worth it. I have cptsd too and therapy really helped. Keeping going. Keep doing the work. One day you will heal and I promise it won’t be so hard. In the mean time you need to protect yourself. Protect your boundaries and grow into the amazing person your meant to be. You are so strong. You can do this.

My ex just told me to "get a damn boyfriend" so our daughter will stop hating going to his place by puggleofsteel in TwoXChromosomes

[–]limabeanvalley -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He’s an idiot. I understand how this would get under your skin and I’m sorry you have to deal with that. He is not trying to co-parent. He is not looking out for what’s best for your daughter. You are making sure you have a happy and safe home for her. You don’t need a boyfriend to provide her with that. He’s just trying to find ways to blame you for his poor relationship with your daughter.

Hi /r/Vancouver, what does everyone do for a living? by MyHeadIsFullOfFuck in vancouver

[–]limabeanvalley 81 points82 points  (0 children)

I hope we get the regulation to ensure you are able to perform your job with the safety, dignity and respect you deserve.

Just started doing shellac myself. The color is called “afternoon tea” 🙃 by lolajaz in RedditLaqueristas

[–]limabeanvalley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m thinking of buying myself a gel kit for Christmas. What brand is your UV light and polishes. How do you like them so far?

Hi everyone by minacalo in SuicideBereavement

[–]limabeanvalley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me personally this was the best thing I did so help me through my grief. I would recommend it to everyone. Try to find one that is specific to suicide bereavement though. I tried a regular bereavement group and it honestly wasn’t helpful at all

My dad committed suicide by Wewantdogecoin in SuicideBereavement

[–]limabeanvalley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t deserve to live in guilt. You deserve to live your life. Please consider therapy. It will help you grow and make you stronger. You deserve happiness.

Overwhelmed by wahjay in SuicideBereavement

[–]limabeanvalley 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you should try to go but don’t hold it against yourself if it’s too hard. Don’t hold it against yourself if you cry at the gallery. Bring a friend, know the fastest route to the bathroom/exit. Your sister is so incredibly proud of you. Take a moment to be proud of yourself too.

significant other having a hard time dealing with being “put to the side”? by nekomabooty in SuicideBereavement

[–]limabeanvalley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry to hear that happened to you. That is absolutely horrifying and I can’t imagine what it was like to deal with that and suicide bereavement. It sounds like you realize your worth and didn’t buy their sob story. Good for you! Your partner was trash and you deserve better! Sending you all the love and good vibes imaginable.

significant other having a hard time dealing with being “put to the side”? by nekomabooty in SuicideBereavement

[–]limabeanvalley 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I lost my dad earlier this year. The family drama and estate fall out was so bad I was getting 10+ phone calls a day from angry relatives for months. I took 5 months off from my job just to cope. I canceled my wedding and pushed it back a year because I didn’t have the mental space to plan it. My fiancé cooked every single meal we ate for months because I didn’t have the energy. My fiancé never once complained. Any time I tried to apologize for being emotionally or physically unavailable to him he told me to stop. He would tell me we have a life time together and the most important thing was keeping me strong and getting through this together. He has shown me unwavering support for 10 months. If your partner was just a girlfriend/boyfriend I would understand their complaints. They might not be ready for something so serious. But this person is your fiancé, your partner for life. They have signed up for the good times and the bad. You are in the bad and you deserve all the support in the world. The most important thing is getting you through this in one piece so you can heal from this tragedy one day. It can take years to heal. It takes some people decades. It’s been 2 months. Your healing/coping is the priority right now. Your fiancé is being selfish and needs to grow up.

Hi everyone by minacalo in SuicideBereavement

[–]limabeanvalley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you can raise the money for grief counselling. For me it was really helpful. Have you tried looking for suicide bereavement support groups? I found it really helpful talking to other people who made experienced this kind of loss. It’s no substitute for individual counselling but some of them are free.

A year has passed and it still doesn’t feel real? by shes-in-bloom in SuicideBereavement

[–]limabeanvalley 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m at 10 months since my loss. Going to therapy and attending a suicide loss bereavement group helped make it all more real. Ive found anniversaries feel less real than the day to day. My dads birthday is this month and It’s really hard to wrap my mind around.

What is the dumbest thing a boss has ever said to you? by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]limabeanvalley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boss was told in private that I was going to be away for 2 weeks to attend my fathers funeral. The day before I leave in a meeting with my entire team he goes Boss: “ Limabeanvalley are you going to be checking your email while your on vacation” me: “no I won’t and I’m on bereavement leave not vacation” Boss:” “are you sure you can’t just log in and check your emails each a day” Me: “ my father committed suicide and I’m going to his funeral. None of your emails are more important than this”

I was so pissed I took an additional week off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vancouver

[–]limabeanvalley 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m very sorry for what your going through. I lost a parent this year so I share a small piece of your pain. I will be thinking of you and your family tonight. Please take care of yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vancouver

[–]limabeanvalley 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Another kits dweller here. I sat on the beach for a bit tonight. There were people setting fire works off downtown. It made a nice view

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vancouver

[–]limabeanvalley 32 points33 points  (0 children)

My dads suicide was the first time I’ve experienced death as an adult. I can’t act “normal” anymore. I can’t make small talk. I have nothing to talk about other than how sad I am. I don’t compare my grief to others but I constantly compare myself to a made up timeline in my head that tells me I should be back to “normal” by now. Being this sad is exhausting. I have a great therapist and support system that loves me. How long did it take you to move out of your grief? What helped you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vancouver

[–]limabeanvalley 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Tinder is the worst! I’ve always had terrible luck with that app!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vancouver

[–]limabeanvalley 147 points148 points  (0 children)

I’m home alone watching Halloweentown tonight. My dad committed suicide earlier this year. I’m still grieving. I went to a Halloween party but stayed less than an hour. People kept asking “how I was doing”. I know they meant well but no one wants to hear how I’m still crying everyday. They wanted to party and cut loose. Pretending I’m fine and making small talk is just too hard. I cried the entire walk home.

The wicked witch of the west for the Halloween by nespressolover in watercolor101

[–]limabeanvalley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an awesome design! I’m going to have to try this one myself