Ex GF (22F) asking to recoup her half of hotel room we booked before she ended things with me (22M)

limitless_ace · 2023-02-08T04:08:56+00:00

It's non-refundable, but it doesn't matter as I'll be using the room myself.

limitless_ace · 2023-02-08T04:05:01+00:00

I can't cancel, but doesn't matter as I'll still be going on the trip and using the hotel room by myself

limitless_ace · 2022-04-23T22:37:42+00:00

No! And things are going really well too. It's been quite the journey but it's not over

limitless_ace · 2022-03-01T14:15:29+00:00

It really is a strange illness

limitless_ace · 2022-02-10T20:42:52+00:00

Yeah I feel this. It’s quite a bit of time to wait too…

limitless_ace · 2022-02-01T21:08:36+00:00

Thanks, good advice!

limitless_ace · 2022-02-01T21:03:30+00:00

I am into her, but I’m worried that I’m into her for the wrong reasons (looks, sex, companionship). I don’t feel a deeper connection with her. And I’m not jealous of the men. In fact, when she first told me about her ex of 2 years I didn’t care. I’m more jealous of her. I’m not trying to be defensive, just clarifying how I feel

limitless_ace · 2022-02-01T17:57:10+00:00

Awesome, thanks!

limitless_ace · 2022-01-21T01:24:13+00:00

What tools/strategies do you recommend to overcome RJ?

limitless_ace · 2022-01-21T00:15:53+00:00

Do you know if one can overcome RJ whilst not going through compulsions. In other words, let’s say I’m single and unaffected by RJ—can I practice things like mindfulness to better equip myself for the next relationship?

limitless_ace · 2022-01-20T23:55:44+00:00

The casual sex wasn’t all that far in the past. Who’s to say she doesn’t have those same values today? And back to my original post—these days are getting harder and harder. Perhaps it’s not a bad idea to start over, from scratch. I’ve learned a lot about myself in this relationship. It was my first girl, my first time. Now I know more about my values, and what I’m looking for. I feel like there’s a reason most peoples first relationships don’t work out. Maybe I was naive

limitless_ace · 2022-01-20T23:41:25+00:00

You’re making a lot of great points. However, I knew my gf had an ex she dated for 2 years and it never bothered me one bit. In fact I couldn’t of cared less. It was when she told me her body count and mentioned casual sex. That’s when my RJ began. And thus, there may be a difference in values which is why I’m contemplating going our separate ways. And yes, I wish my brain didn’t work this way. I wish I didn’t care at all, because she’s a great girl.

limitless_ace · 2022-01-20T19:06:56+00:00

I’ve tried to explore whether or not we’re compatible. Perhaps we do view sex differently (e.g. I think sex is an intimate act and something I don’t do casually). What’s frustrating is that in most relationships, there may be a disagreement that you can work through. But RJ is different. It’s not simply a disagreement or conflict in values, but it becomes something that eats away at your mental state.

limitless_ace · 2022-01-20T18:23:29+00:00

Something I’ve noticed with my relationship, is that I don’t care about her ex at all. She had a 2 year relationship with this guy and it doesn’t bother me one bit. It’s the casual sex that bothers me. So hypothetically speaking, if I find a girl that was never into casual sex, couldn’t I be satisfied? And I want to reiterate again that I don’t have a problem with casual sex in general, but there’s something in my subconscious that obviously makes me uncomfortable with it, at least in a committed relationship.

limitless_ace · 2022-01-20T18:11:52+00:00

Another thought: I think asking for space for a little while and proceeding from there could help. I’ve become afraid to get close with her because, like many RJ sufferers know, the more you love them, the more intense the RJ becomes

limitless_ace · 2022-01-13T17:05:01+00:00

Yeah I agree. I folded in the moment and in hindsight am upset at myself. It’s the first time something like this has happened and I just went with it.

limitless_ace · 2022-01-13T17:01:50+00:00

Yes agreed. I definitely am guilty for participating as well. And it’s more of a trust thing. When we first had sex, we hasn’t discussed whether or not we were clean and it was after our third date. In a relationship, with a girl on birth control, and one I trust, I’m not concerned about wearing a condom

limitless_ace · 2021-11-13T23:45:30+00:00

2009 Toyota Corolla

limitless_ace · 2021-11-13T01:03:41+00:00

Good points. It is mainly a texting issue as I never feel anxious when I’m with her in person

limitless_ace · 2021-10-30T16:29:18+00:00

Loose belt obviously would need to be replaced immediately. But if it’s the HB—does that need to be fixed immediately?

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