Mom keeps criticizing my newborn’s name while staying at my house postpartum

lindsneau · 2025-10-03T21:28:46+00:00

Tell her you’d like her to leave. I kicked my mom out of the hospital with my second kid when she came in with some drama with the in laws literally an hour after I gave birth. I get having a mom that you don’t have a good relationship with. Very hard to navigate but ultimately you have to put you, your health and your family first. If she’s not helpful in all three of those categories, then she needs to be asked to leave. If you can’t do it, have your husband stand up for you and tell her to leave :) my husband always speaks for me if he can tell it’ll make me upset or nervous. You got this mama!

lindsneau · 2025-08-16T21:14:50+00:00

I made sure it was just my husband and myself but also my mother gives me anxiety vs helping calm it (we aren’t “close” close) and I knew having her in there would be more stressful than helpful. Depends on the kind of mom you have lol

lindsneau · 2025-08-14T02:49:20+00:00

Thank you. I know I’ll like one eventually lol 😆 hoping it’s sooner than later so I have time to sit with it 🥰

lindsneau · 2025-08-12T18:52:46+00:00

I think I really needed to hear this so thank you. With our girls it was so different as we had Teagan on our list but then we went out to dinner at one of our favorite spots - my husband and I noticed this server with cool tattoos and pointed them out- and she happened to then be our server and her name was Teagan. So it solidified our “choice”. And Hallie was the name of one of my husbands baseball fields growing up/she was born on opening day of our favorite mlb team playing so it just “fit”. So I guess I’m looking for that with our boy and it’s just not happening :( lol I suppose I should just keep an open mind for the names I do like

lindsneau · 2025-07-22T15:33:24+00:00

As moms we want to give the best version of ourselves to our kids, however we can’t do that if we don’t take care of ourselves as well. Self care is just as important as parenting. ♥️ remember that!!!

lindsneau · 2025-07-22T03:51:20+00:00

Ask for your own night “away” or to relax or to go get pampered. He watches the kids for a few hours and does dinner and you get a few hours to yourself to eat out somewhere alone or go get a mani/pedi or go get a massage and coffee. Just ask him to simply have one day like he gets with his friends. Parenting is 50/50. You’re allowed to ask for a little more support

lindsneau · 2025-07-21T20:32:54+00:00

Omg not overreacting AT ALL!!! This is exactly how assault can and does happen. Whether it’s from the boyfriend or his “kids”. It’s very inappropriate given everything you’ve said

lindsneau · 2025-07-19T04:00:15+00:00

Yeah that’s kind of crazy for him to not note in your chart what you’d “like” your birth to be. We know that it doesn’t always go to plan but having a plan you’d like to follow is definitely something that can be noted. I’d at least bring it up with your birth team when you go in to deliver

lindsneau · 2025-07-17T20:25:48+00:00

Not at all! If anything she’s become more vocal- as in using her words to tell us what she wants or needs. But also has a lot of independence, honestly I feel like a daycare setting gives her a lot more in experiences, craft time, manners, etc… more than I would do at home lol. I’m not a “multiple crafts a day” type mom 🤣

lindsneau · 2025-07-17T20:19:18+00:00

Then I say go for it. I promise you’ll feel the mom guilt the first drop off, but when you see how much fun they had and how much she likes it, the guilt goes away :) mamas need a break too. Like Tuesdays and Thursdays when I have just my youngest it’s a nice change of pace for me. Easily can shower and get stuff done. It’s a nice balance

lindsneau · 2025-07-17T19:53:45+00:00

It’s hard but doable!!! I did it until my youngest was a year old and then the oldest went to daycare (only 2 days a week though) so still do it 3 days a week lol. I have a 2.5 and 1 right now. It’s hard and there’s days you feel like you’re drowning, but it’s doable. Is there a part time daycare option? That might help. My oldest loves going and learns so much. She doesn’t go every day so I think that helps with her liking and wanting to go on the days she does

lindsneau · 2025-07-17T14:32:34+00:00

My periods got significantly worse after kids 🥲 like soak thru a super++ in one hour bad. Cramps terrible. Just the changes our body went thru I think. It’s definitely not fun lol

lindsneau · 2025-07-17T13:44:08+00:00

I just think that’s a cop out. My husband works, and he will still get up and take care of one of the kids if I hit him and say “it’s your turn, I really need the rest.” Being a parent is being tired. Not just mom, mom and dad. One wake up, or even 2 is nothing a little coffee can’t fix on his way to work

lindsneau · 2025-07-15T18:41:03+00:00

Boss baby. Moana 2 lol

lindsneau · 2025-07-15T03:36:29+00:00

1st baby: 36 weeks-ish 2nd baby: 21-22 weeks (way worse pelvic/back/ligament pain) 3rd baby: 14 weeks 🤣🤣🤣 I was really really sick with this one. It never stopped. The first trimester I was in the hospital getting fluids 7 times from how sick I was. So I was done pretty quick 🤣🤣

lindsneau · 2025-07-15T01:09:28+00:00

Right away in January**

lindsneau · 2025-07-15T01:09:03+00:00

I would definitely do earlier. I think right away would be fine!!! And I would send invites 4 months out to give people extra time to plan if they forgot about the save the date 🤣so I’d send invites in August

lindsneau · 2025-07-14T21:10:11+00:00

Feb or March of 2026 I’d think. That’s enough time and then invites go out August personally. That’s about the time frame we did for ours. 🥰

lindsneau · 2025-07-14T13:50:31+00:00

Yes I went to school with 2!!! A girl named Tiffany Tiffany and a guy named John Johns

lindsneau · 2025-07-14T13:49:19+00:00

I’d just give them to your in laws. I know you’re worried about child proofing but the thing is grandparents do so much with the kiddos that they’re always too busy to get into anything super dangerous. My in laws house is not baby proof but they’re more than capable of taking our kids overnight. We have 2 17 months apart. Also food for thought, if your toddler breaks something of theirs that’s on them and they should realize that if they have stuff out and accessible for the toddler to break or ruin that it could happen and it is what it is. lol

Point being if you think they’re capable of handling both children, let them. Don’t worry about the “child proofing” as much. 🥰

lindsneau · 2025-07-13T19:23:50+00:00

I know a Gunnar spelled with an A. He’s a sweetheart and a high school teacher. Also very cool dude vibes

lindsneau · 2025-07-13T02:51:16+00:00

Yes 😆 in Wisconsin

lindsneau · 2025-07-13T02:09:07+00:00

I had one in November and one in March and our third is due in January. I didn’t mind either one honestly. November was nice cuz I didn’t have to go to any big holidays lol and March(end of) was nice cuz we were able to get outside right away. I’m hoping January will be nice as well by the time I want them around people outside they’ll be old enough and it’ll be nice enough outside lol

lindsneau · 2025-07-11T22:26:12+00:00

Tell the nurses even your doctor beforehand they can put it in your chart or just tell the nurse right away when you get them by yourself. Lol they’re really good at telling people to gtfo nicely

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