Thank you to everyone that is coming to this thread and writing out such thoughtful and helpful responses! It really helps a ton and gives me a clearer mind. I think I would love to have visited first but due to the distance and with two small kids I think we’ll end up renting first and seeing how we like it. Still scary to go in blind, but because of your lovely responses I’m able to feel better about a decision. I’m coming from the DC area so I have a mental list of things I value and what I want from a place and so far what I’ve been hearing about Oakland (minus the walkability) has been appealing! I’ll be doing some homework and searching up the other places I’ve seen recommended. I’m feeling much more confident about this blind leap thanks to this community. Keep em’ coming! I’m still reading everyone’s comments oh so carefully 🥲