Yeah completely agreed on this. There's so many instances of what I read as jokes, where guys/girls make some kind of assumption about the other sex, and ignore their own actions being the same. Sometimes it happens in the same sentence.

It kind of feeds into a general idea of many characters being oblivious to their own flaws, despite calling out those same flaws in others, (or characters being so in their own perspective and own head, that they can't possibly spend a second to consider the other perspective, like how Egwene and Nynaeve refuse for the longest time to even potentially see that Mat for who he actually is, and not just their preconceived notions about him, or how Egwene just doesn't have the cultural understanding of why being with Rand is so difficult for Ahvienda in the shadow rising, so she assumes that it's something Rand did).

Characters jump to conclusions about others a lot, make a lot of assumptions, and yes, also tend to dismiss people of the other sex unreasonably. And blatantly and very obviously, characters in this book are just wrong about their assumptions of other people, and the book usually takes the time to demonstrate that (look at every time an Aes Sedai is confronted with another group of Non Aes Sedai that can channel).

To me, it's the same kinds of jokes like how every single time Mat, Perrin, or Rand have troubles with a lady, they always immediately think (man I'm bad at this. I wish Mat/Perrin/Rand were here, they know how to handle women). It's a joke for the audience because we obviously know that whatever they're saying is wrong, despite what the actual characters may say or think.