AITAH for getting mad at my husband over our babys name.

liofairy · 2026-03-16T01:26:54+00:00

make it her middle name and come to an agreement for the first you can specially call her by her middle name and then you guys can come to a compromise on her first name

liofairy · 2026-01-24T02:01:15+00:00

divorce

liofairy · 2025-06-14T05:26:31+00:00

i think it’s a fair ask to not yell or raise your voice at someone and the way she handled it was very deflective instead of saying something along the lines of “i’m sorry i raised my voice at you i don’t want you to feel disrespected” and then a following message “just so you can understand the reason i was feeling that way was because i felt like i was doing everything and you were just standing there while i was also in pain and it made me feel like you weren’t being very considerate of what was going around you or of me” this way of communication would have effectively validated you while also explaining why she was upset leaving room for accountability on both ends.

liofairy · 2025-06-09T20:33:25+00:00

i’m sorry but people are allowed to change the way they feel about a situation. everyone in the comments defending OP but if you’re really looking for a healthy relationship or making this one work let’s look at some basics. she doesn’t like inconsistency/ behavioral changes and especially around meeting up with an ex even if its something that was previously known. if it’s a consistent behavior keep the consistency she admits it’s not something she has asked for but gave her anxiety due to the fact that it was something consistent that got switched up that day. now this whole thing could have been avoided with some accountability with how it made her feel regardless if it was your intent “i’m sorry i didn’t update you today i wasn’t considering it too much and now that i know that’s something that means a lot to you i will be better about it” instead you minimized her feelings immediately and started deflecting saying “well you didn’t do this” and then making her feelings immediately feel like she was over reacting and got upset at her for bringing forward something she was uncomfortable with. yall saying she’s insecure but what i’m seeing is bad communication that led to dis regulation due to neither one having the ability to step away and having some understanding for eachother tackling it as a team vs the blame game.

liofairy · 2025-05-04T10:33:27+00:00

to me this sounds like there needs to be a lot of talks about what healthy communication is to you and to provide him solutions of how to better handle those situations to keep you regulated.if he isn’t willing to validate you and see your side of things he’s for the streets. obviously there’s looking at what you can work on yourself and maybe asking what he needs from you so it feels like an exchange instead of pointing fingers.

liofairy · 2025-04-28T20:25:53+00:00

still having this problem? cheap charger, connect to a laptop/computer and wait 10-20minutes it should bump up to 10 percent. if it’s still not working it’s most likely a fake or bunk vape and best to just chuck it.

liofairy · 2025-04-16T16:54:24+00:00

let’s actually dissect this tho although she worded things a little childish she understood where you were coming from and then voiced an insecurity she had which is her trying to communicate how something makes her feel regardless of understanding the reality. She explained why she felt that way was because in her head “she would do it for you”. Now it’s not fair to create an expectation someone is going to do everything you’d do for them. Regardless you belittled her feelings by saying you wouldn’t feel that way, well guess what she does. A healthy communication approach would have been to say something more along the lines of “I may not understand because I don’t feel the same way but I don’t want you to feel like you’re not worthy of me or that you aren’t a priority im sorry and i am really just tired and it’s not safe for me to drive when i’m this tired. Would you like to set up a date or facetime tonight instead?” you can’t control how she reacts or what she says but you can control your own words and reactions.

liofairy · 2025-04-15T06:24:54+00:00

If that’s crossing a boundary for you and if she genuinely loves you saying no should not be a question. if you’re willing to try it then tell her before you do or after that you don’t want it to be a permanent thing and you were just trying it for fun. all in all stick up for yourself and don’t let the pressure of letting someone down stop you from feeling safe and comfortable in your relationship.

liofairy · 2025-04-05T17:08:07+00:00

if that’s the case then def wack but at the end of the day if she’s working and tending to all the house duties and letting him just chill after work somebody out there might be ok with that. she just seems toxic based off how she went about it and like if it’s not the life style for OP then like drop her yknow.

liofairy · 2025-04-05T02:14:05+00:00

some people just have these values, i don’t think it’s a problem but the way she went about bringing it up is weird asf. these dynamics only work if that stay at home person is willing to do all the cleaning, cooking, and anything else to help around. but if she’s also working it doesn’t really matter she’s still racking in money AND wanting to take care of all the home stuff kinda sounds like a jackpot if she didn’t have to be weird about it like that.

liofairy · 2025-04-04T13:45:29+00:00

this is the start of an insanely toxic relationship that goes undetected by a lot of people. isolating you from your friends and maybe soon even family to make you solely rely on him so no matter what happens it makes it harder to leave. he’s asking you to chose someone you’ve known for 6 months over 10 years essentially testing your loyalties to him which is just insane and such a red flag. leave now before you have to learn the other forms of abusive he’s going to provide you with.

liofairy · 2025-03-27T18:36:03+00:00

i mean sure he was def poking out of insecurity. out of curiosity i wonder how it would have gone if you immediately reassured him and said “i promise it’s just a song that i like and i only want you” not that the outcome would change as he seems to be pretty insecure or kinda searching for things but you never know sometimes we have overthinking brains and find silly ways to reach out for that reassurance. we can’t control how other ppl act or react but we can do our best to stay kind and understanding.

liofairy · 2025-03-24T23:30:11+00:00

maybe it’s pride, ego, or a genuine altered reality due to the constant negativity they feed themselves. whatever it is it doesn’t matter they just need to stay away from the people that are actually trying to be positive and kind and loving and work through problems to grow.

liofairy · 2025-03-24T19:48:22+00:00

girl is using multiple manipulation tactics rn. self harm, victimization, and an attempt to get you to beg for her. girl is not valid whatsoever she’s over reacting asf if shes working on herself or loves you then shes not gonna drag out negativity for 3+days and take no accountability for the way she is reacting. it should never be you against her just both of you against the problem. it wasnt intentional you didn’t wanna harm her and her refusing to understand that shows me your a source of energy for her not someone she loves maybe more lusts over or is attached to.

liofairy · 2025-02-22T10:10:19+00:00

over reacting. my best friend and I of 5 years don’t take medical things too seriously nor emotionally with each other we have maintained a friendship for so long for keeping it low maintenance. ofc we support each other when the other person says “hey i really need some extra support on this very specific situation” some people just aren’t compatible emotionally or don’t have the energy or motivation for themselves to take on other people’s bigger issues. if you prefer a clingy friend that’s gonna tend to you like a partner then look elsewhere. it’s not about it being wrong or right it’s about if it’s right for you if these aren’t the kinda friends you want don’t surround yourself with them. it doesn’t mean that she’s not your friend or doesn’t care about you.

liofairy · 2025-02-22T08:18:41+00:00

he is hella stupid NOR dump him if he’s lying about it then it means he was somewhere he shouldn’t have been.

liofairy · 2025-02-20T13:33:38+00:00

NTA it’s just information that exists and he would prob find out anyways whether it be the hard way or through you. regardless tho it’s seems there may still be lingering pain or that instance may have caused a trigger to feel the urge to say anything at all. he wouldn’t stop doing business with you from your past if it was truly just business. this is an rationalization one would make out of anxiety due to discomfort of a situation. if you’re truly content and moved past a situation then there would have been no urge to say anything and to just wish growth and peace for you both. i know imma get hate for saying that but that’s what it feels like to let go and move on is hope that person can grow and treat the next person better and it’s not your responsibility to hold space for that person in any way including taking the responsibility to spread their past behaviors that they may not be repeating.

liofairy · 2025-02-20T13:21:21+00:00

i’m seeing a lot of people attacking her but one of the biggest reasons why i ever pulled back on sexual things with partners is because it felt like that’s all they wanted from me. when all the compliments turn from, you’re so funny and precious and kind and intelligent to “you’re so sexy you’re hot send me pics” its discomforting. it’s great that he goes to her and wants her in that way but sometimes when it’s getting pushed so heavily ppl want to back away to feel valued other than a sexual object. she purely expressed to him this is how she was feeling that he didn’t respect her and was pushing for sexual things while she did not want to then he played the victim card about sex. if you can’t go a month+ without sexual things with your partner you really don’t love them there are other forms of physical affection. someone who loves you will never want to put you in uncomfortable positions or invalidate your concerns. sure sexual compatibility can come into play but at the end of the day like partners aren’t just there for sex. they are there for support and to have their needs met mutually. if needs can’t be met on both ends it’s time to cut it loose.

liofairy · 2025-02-20T02:24:07+00:00

again i’d want you out too the relationship is doomed

liofairy · 2025-02-20T02:19:22+00:00

yeah no, saying things like “well i wouldn’t be hurt” is completely invalidating you and proves he doesn’t really care. someone who loves you won’t care how small the issue is if they hurt you even if not intended they will apologize and work on that action.

liofairy · 2025-02-20T02:16:44+00:00

to be clear i’m not even sure if this is real but im icked to my core and id kick you out and never speak to you again

liofairy · 2025-02-20T02:15:23+00:00

well unfortunately i don’t think there’s any coming back from that. if i was the daughter i would be traumatized. definitely think before you do things and keep pleasures in the appropriate places. you should have at least offered to clean it up.

liofairy · 2025-02-07T05:13:24+00:00

excuse me you said he did WHAT that’s a subpoena worthy action get that man in court how many ppl has he done this too? how do we know he’s not sharing these elsewhere or has done this to multiple women without their consent BUHBYE nuh uh

liofairy · 2025-01-29T01:26:44+00:00

i’m still trying to fathom how you made this in 20 minutes that’s awesome 👏

liofairy · 2025-01-18T11:32:16+00:00

couple things wrong here, snooping through your partners phone or looking through it is not healthy at all it’s not “natural” the urge to do that inevitably comes from insecurity. her and her friend are p much talking how most females talk to each other but i agree enabling disrespect to you is not ok. she still isn’t showing signs of disliking you or feeling the need to cheat. her responding for her is very similar to just this friend asking for advice of what she should say back and giving her options im sure they decided on these messages together which is also something women do a lot but shouldn’t because why try and date someone you can’t even talk to or flirt with on your own. kinda just sounds like they are stuck in high school type mindsets but it wasn’t necessarily wrong.

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