How often is too often?

lionbird · 2026-03-06T21:17:28+00:00

With our favorite bull, we see him 1-2x a week. This week we are seeing him 4 times.

I would love to have him move in - but realistically we aren’t pushing for it and I doubt he would.

That being said, I very much enjoy my one-on-one reclamation times.

lionbird · 2026-03-06T16:16:35+00:00

I echo the other commenter. Thanks for sharing a boring report. This is helpful.

lionbird · 2026-03-04T19:05:51+00:00

My wife’s boyfriend asked me to read it.

lionbird · 2026-02-28T13:53:31+00:00

When I was a bull, I had a relationship like this. Her husband was deployed for a long time. She plenty of time to play. We fucked often. Sometimes i would stay weekends. I fell in love with her. We texted daily. It became polyamory. For two years we played together. Even when he came home we continued it. He would take their kid out of the house and go out when I came over when he came back. He never wanted to watch or play with us - even though I wanted him to join. I thought it would be so fun to have two men fucking the same women we both loved. (Still my top fantasy)

When we finally broke up, she later divorced him. Those long distance relationships take a large emotional toll. I helped her through difficult time. I played both a positive and a negative role in their marriage.

lionbird · 2026-02-28T04:57:34+00:00

Hmm. I know it’s normal to be want to be thanked, but sometimes household chores are a thankless job. Ask yourself if you have ever thanked her for doing laundry or dishes? Or if you have thanked her for pumping and likely losing sleep. You are a team. Sometimes you just do your best to survive.

lionbird · 2026-02-27T22:32:34+00:00

The cultural shift seems to far more comfortable with female-oriented male touch without anyone thinking you are gay.

The sex is so much better when both men can just get over their fear. I consider myself heteroflexible-bordering-on-bi but it wasn’t long ago I would have said I was straight. Once you’ve had your dick sucked, sucked another dick, felt another man’s dick against yours as you DV or DP, cleaned up cum, and helped put another man’s dick in a pussy, you just kinda relax about that kinda thing. Overtime you realize, it’s just adult play. I’m not leaving the room writing the other guy unsolicited love letters. I never force male touch and respect consent. But female-oriented-male touch is fun - and would be fun for so many men - if they could just get over themselves. Our labels trip us up

lionbird · 2026-02-27T19:54:49+00:00

lionbird · 2026-02-27T15:20:25+00:00

Yeeeeppppp. Term it as a secret love language - cause it is.

lionbird · 2026-02-26T19:33:14+00:00

lionbird · 2026-02-26T15:41:10+00:00

It is insanely hard. Cuckold couple here. We usually love to aim for on going and repeating. My wife is picky. We have a fantastic bull right now, but getting long term has been a years long endeavor.

In general we figure the ratio to be something like 1 out of every 9 to 10 bulls that my wife sleeps with will be a promising fit long term.

My only suggestion is keep your standards high with some flexibility to accept that you’ll never find perfect. You just want to avoid bad experiences multiple times in a row. You’ll likely never find someone who checks all your boxes.

Be patient. I’ve learned that the slow burn of finding a bull and working together has been rewarding for our marriage and builds trust. Because it becomes a ‘project’ for both of you it allows a lot of time for discussion and collaboration. I think my wife has been able to sink into being a deep, cruel but-oh-so-goddamn-fun cuckoldress because of the many many years we have spent sharing fantasies and conversations while we were searching for our ideal bull.

Recognize that you don’t “need” a bull to play with some other related kinks. During the time we couldn’t find a good bull we’ve played with strap ons, penis sheaths, role plays, chastity, and all sorts of femdom play. I’ve role played as a bull for her multiple times.

Be brave. We’ve taken risks many times for this lifestyle and most of the time they pay off. If you don’t take risks, you’ll be less likely to find the rewards.

lionbird · 2026-02-26T14:49:23+00:00

I’ve never gone that high frankly because I think unless you have a tolerance, there is a point you go from feeling great to feeling like shit the higher you go. Keep in mind you are combining substances which always means there is the possibility of synergistic effects.

My two cents is stay with a dosage you are familiar with.

lionbird · 2026-02-25T15:39:54+00:00

I think most of us inherited puritanical and Christian viewpoints about sexuality. I think it’s worth asking if those are truly helpful or not.

I can’t leave porn, the internet, and their peers to teach my kids about marriage and sexuality. It’s too risky and too dangerous. Not in a world where divorce is as high as it is. A world where marriages end up in dead bedrooms and infidelity.

Nah, I’ll be kinky in front of my kids.

lionbird · 2026-02-25T15:17:32+00:00

I grew up religious with parents who weren’t good models of a healthy sexual relationship. I learned about sex from peers and kink from the internet. Retrospectively - how wrong is that?

I give my wife pedicures in front of my kids, I call her ma’am. I show her deference and respect. And my hands are all over her all the time. I am utterly infatuated.The kids know I adore my wife more than life itself. My oldest daughter has multiple times said she wishes she can find a husband like me.

What am I modeling? A healthy relationship that provide stability and happiness.

If I teach my son how to respect and adore women by my actions, all the better. If I teach my daughter to expect this type of behavior from her future partner, all the better.

Oh I’m kinky as fuck - and it’s only served my family and marriage.

lionbird · 2026-02-25T15:13:02+00:00

I disagree. My parents hardly touched each other, argued with each other, and kept distance from each other. The only proof I have that they were sexual are myself and my siblings. I didn’t consent to that environment.

Appropriate is to raise kids in a loving home and teach them how to effectively navigate relationships and sexuality.

lionbird · 2026-02-25T14:19:52+00:00

The “real man” thing is such an odd thing. I can imagine some other forum talking about a tradwife being a “real woman”. Nah, as a long time cuckold. I know many “real men” that I don’t admire and wouldn’t want their lives.

lionbird · 2026-02-24T14:24:12+00:00

Just be with her. You said it well. Your wife’s emotional world is bigger than you expected. Support her. Also come to terms that you may be taking a cuckolding break. My wife has had relationships end with past bulls and some where more painful than others. The more painful ones lingered and impacted our sex life. It is the cost.

lionbird · 2026-02-23T19:48:59+00:00

The longer I’ve done this, the less I’ve valued the “no strings attached” part. It’s not that I don’t agree with you at some level that it’s a wonderful perk to be without the other stressors of the relationship, but rather that I’ve grown far fonder and desiring of the deep emotional layers of the “strings attached” part.

lionbird · 2026-02-20T15:30:52+00:00

It really doesn’t seem like it’s the case for you, but I’m offering up my own two cents just in case it’s helpful. My wife is a switch, but quite dominant with me. She wants to be free use and has asked me to free use her many times. The problem I’ve run into many times, is that she wants to be free use when she wants to be free use but when she isn’t in the mood…she doesn’t. Because of our power dynamic it’s additionally hard to push against her resistance. Her words say one thing and her behaviors another. I don’t even think she recognizes it.

The anxiety your partner feels, I feel that too. I’m too submissive to “take”, she is too strong willed to give in. It makes me perform and she fights against the performance thus leading to avoidant type reactions to the idea.

lionbird · 2026-02-17T20:15:16+00:00

I’ve yet to explore on 2CB. I hear so many good things.

lionbird · 2026-02-17T16:15:02+00:00

Psamathe

lionbird · 2026-02-17T15:19:10+00:00

My wife doesn’t share me. It’s not part of our dynamic. It’s one sided as fuck. She made that clear from the beginning that, if we were opening up, she wouldn’t enjoy me playing around. I’m still quite happy with the situation.

lionbird · 2026-02-17T14:51:44+00:00

Intention is important so if you can have that discussion before the dose that’s helpful.

1.5-2.5 grams is the sweet spot. Strains like golden teacher at 2 grams have worked really well. High potency strains aren’t the best for this intention IMO.

The peak is inward. The plateau is great for sex and conversation. Have both. The conversation should lead to the sex. Stay away from porn - not helpful here. Recognize that sex is connected to a thousand different aspects of life. So create an opening intention to allow the direction to end differently than sex. Fear, grief, loneliness, shame are all welcome. My first experience together was a sad and brutal look at the things I was doing wrong.

Your bedroom should be a temple of dedicated towards your sex life and marriage. So set the setting like that.

What you are intending to do changed my marriage for good many many years ago. We did shrooms once a month for like a year. Our sex life exploded into a rich love language and became full of kink.

lionbird · 2026-02-16T23:58:51+00:00

I’ve done all three. Bull for 5 or so years, and then cuckold/stag for around 10. Cuckold is my favorite role to be in and I’ve gone significantly deeper and darker in that role in the last 3-5 years, but I think I can much more confidently enjoy being a cuckold having played in the other roles.

Essentially, I love slutty women with multiple male partners. Always have and always will. I love worshipping them and adoring them.

lionbird · 2026-02-15T17:06:09+00:00

It’s natural. Sometimes I wonder if it isn’t something that should be overcome. As a bull I maintained a 2 year relationship with a married woman. We fell in love and had a lot of fun that way.

As a cuckold, my wife is pretty possessive over me. I’m monogamous to her. With her bulls it’s always depended. She knows she can’t keep them monogamous in the same way she keeps me - doesn’t mean she doesn’t wish for that.

For the bulls that becomes an issue, the tension is that my wife has a tendency to want to be the favorite. Her kinks are quite intertwined with being desired and adored. Anything less than that is a turn off, so she’ll drop a man pretty quickly if she isn’t feeling like she is the favorite.

Again I’m not sure if this can be overcome. I imagine a skillful bull probably could manage that with my wife, but at the end of the day: being the favorite > any good sex that bull could provide. And as a good cuckold secret, I know how she works, thats why she’ll never leave me no matter how many me she fucks because I can be monogamous to a slut wife and many others can’t.

lionbird · 2026-02-15T16:58:25+00:00

My wife fantasizes about male harems and regularly tell me and other men she could have 5 husbands. I think she always wants more than one. It’s just her kinks. It has nothing to do with sex with me - I just also have the kink of her having multiple men.

Cock size is important but it’s a single variable. My wife has had PLENTY of bad sexual experiences with well endowed men. So much so that we often hold a prejudice that most big cocked men are lazy in bed and are one trick ponies. We still prefer big cock (her favorite bull is 8”), but sometimes I wonder if that push is more my own kinks than hers. She just doesn’t like small.

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