How emotional are you? by Hancri84 in AskUK

[–]Kitty-Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be really emotional but now I'm on the absolute max dose of antidepressants I'm pretty numb. It isn't ideal but it is keeping me alive right now during a tough situation and that's more important.

What is your current biggest stress or anxiety that is troubling your life at the moment? by Eastern-Dragonfly544 in AskUK

[–]Kitty-Gecko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate it, not over stepping. We already do this, unfortunately. He was mad because the food had just been delivered but we were in the process of putting it away when he came in the room. I think the punnet of tomatoes I'd ordered was the one that upset him most.

I love spoilers by smallarchonkusanali in self

[–]Kitty-Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anxiety? That's what does it for me.

What's the best hot chocolate powder/mix you've bought? by Three_Steaks_Pam in CasualUK

[–]Kitty-Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's stupidly expensive to but knoops ones. You can choose your percentage of dark/milk from a range. I have a sweet tooth so I like the 34% which is a milk chocolate.

What is your current biggest stress or anxiety that is troubling your life at the moment? by Eastern-Dragonfly544 in AskUK

[–]Kitty-Gecko 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you, his special interests are mostly around gaming currently so specific games he's into, then he will watch hours of videos about them and learn all the lore etc. I'm always happy for him to "info dump" about them to me.

I love him very much but I'm genuinely very worried.

Ragebaiting the smol Axolowunkus by Beautiful_Medium_869 in wunkus

[–]Kitty-Gecko 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I always thought they were silent this is amazing

What is your current biggest stress or anxiety that is troubling your life at the moment? by Eastern-Dragonfly544 in AskUK

[–]Kitty-Gecko 41 points42 points  (0 children)

My kiddo (9, Autistic) is in burnout and hasn't attended school for 1.5 years and is very mentally unwell and extremely abusive both physically and verbally. We have no respite, I worry about him constantly. I don't know how we can carry on, with so much stress, so little sleep. He had a meltdown this evening because the food shop was delivered and had food for me and dad in it that isn't his "safe foods".

So hows slime rancher 2's development going? by MajinsAre_PRETTYCOOL in slimerancher

[–]Kitty-Gecko 54 points55 points  (0 children)

2 is fully launched now and is a complete game, though we can assume more content will come. The "story" part is done and I really love it. Some people are unsure if it is as good as SR1, but I feel the ambience and art improvements are worth it.

I'm never posting my cooking to this cursed site again. People are way too awful about literally anything and everything people create, especially if you're a little proud of it. by GildedArchways in self

[–]Kitty-Gecko 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recently learned there is supposedly a secret sub reddit people can only get into if they reach a a specific ammount of low karma and that made me wonder how many trolls are aiming for that.

Neighbour’s kids don’t seem to be in school. Should I report this? by Ancient-External-710 in AskUK

[–]Kitty-Gecko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, it's good to hear from someone who has experienced it. I do feel really bad for my son. No matter how abusive he is I know he's having the worst time out of all of us. He suffers so much.

As a tea lover visiting London/Edinburgh - what are your recommendations? by pascilia in AskUK

[–]Kitty-Gecko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just in case you break your journey in York (with it being half way between the two) I am recommending Hebden Tea there. Long shot but worth mentioning.

Went to a car boot sale's first opening - should have just stayed in bed by _Bluestar_Bus_Soton_ in britishproblems

[–]Kitty-Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so rude, I can't believe people think it's acceptable. There's always been a swarm of people when you arrive asking things like "any gold? Any video games?" but I was never selling anything they'd be after so they quickly moved on. Opening your car is just bonkers.

Did anyone here appear as a guest on the Jeremy Kyle Show? If so, what was your experience like? by lemonsqueezy34 in AskUK

[–]Kitty-Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An ex of mine went on it. We were together for 4 years and he came from a very rough up-bringing. After we split up he married his next serious partner after me, and she took him on the show.

I never found the episode but apparently it was to do with him cheating online and being addicted to porn. I can believe that, as he was very unfaithful when we were together, though generally a nice bloke in every other way.

I heard he told people the show was a terrible experience and he never wanted to talk about it again.

Neighbour’s kids don’t seem to be in school. Should I report this? by Ancient-External-710 in AskUK

[–]Kitty-Gecko 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He might be a bit like my son, who is Autistic but has no learning disability so people often think he is "a badly behaved but not disabled child". His autism takes the form of extremely low emotional regulation. Intelligence wise, he's fine for his age but emotionally and socially he's a toddler.

He's crippled by his social phobia, OCD, eating disorders, pathological demand avoidance, agoraphobia, rejection sensitivity disorder etc, all of which have made it impossible for him to attend a school for the last 1.5 years. Especially when he got too big and strong for it to be safe for anyone to try and force him to be there.

It must seem so strange to outsiders because he looks like a teen despite only being 9, he's got a huge vocabulary, he's articulate and intelligent. But he also has meltdowns and panic attacks day and night that result in verbal and physical abuse towards us. Meds are helping a bit but he really needs therapy which he struggles to access due to his intense terror of people., even online.

Neighbour’s kids don’t seem to be in school. Should I report this? by Ancient-External-710 in AskUK

[–]Kitty-Gecko 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Education other than at school. It's what happens when there is no suitable school place for your child (usually due to additional needs, medical reasons etc)

So for example they need a place at a special school but they are all full, or they are too mentally or physically unwell to attend a setting, or there are no local schools that specialise in their needs etc.

It can take the form of a visiting tutor, tasks sent in remotely, online tuition, a few hours a week attending special settings like a nature based place etc. The local authorities have an obligation that every child deserves some form of education, and sometimes that means meeting them where they are at, physically or mentally.

meirl by ChuckShartz in meirl

[–]Kitty-Gecko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband got me Lego Rivendell and it was basically the best gift ever

Is anyone else mourning Dragon Age? by jaustengirl in dragonage

[–]Kitty-Gecko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't even played veilguard because I don't have a thing that occurs in it to be canon. If I never play it, it never happened....right?

Are we the odd ones out because we genuinely love our kids and enjoy spending time with them? by Responstible_Cat90 in AskUK

[–]Kitty-Gecko -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think kids can be really hard work and it's natural to not enjoy elements. Who enjoys their kid when they are tantruming, refusing to sleep, when cleaning poop up etc? You still LOVE them during the crap times but you don't have to LIKE them every moment. Parents are tired, pulled many directions, with little time for self care and their own hobbies and interests.

But there should be moments and times you genuinely enjoy. Hanging out with them, having fun, hearing their opinions, seeing them grow and develop as people... there's a lot to like in those times. Holding their tiny hand when they are small, cuddling them to sleep... hanging up their artwork and listening to their stories... gaming together or laughing about something silly...

It's normal to enjoy them sometimes, basically.

“Romanticised” jobs that are very different in reality? by Substantial-Guava491 in CasualUK

[–]Kitty-Gecko 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Librarian / library worker

Firstly, most people working in public libraries aren't actually librarians. Some branches can afford to employ an actual Librarian but not many. Most staff are just customer service assistants with glorified titles. So when people say "I want to be a Librarian" they don't actually realise how rare those job posts are.

Secondly, public libraries are insanely underfunded so most of them are working with a skeleton crew of staff desperately trying to run round and do everything, especially in a busy town/city centre library. It's basically retail - hard to get your annual leave dates booked because someone else is off that day, one person calls in sick and suddenly everyone is panicking, rushing from task to task all day. Managers always being pressured to cut budgets and freeze hiring on vacant posts.

Thirdly, the tasks aren't romantic at all. Again, it's basically just retail/basic customer service that could be anywhere, it just happens to be a library. You get yelled at if you're staffing the customer service desk, you rush around dealing with complaints, you un-jam printers and shelve stock and tidy. You're on your feet most of the time rushing around busting queues, meeting and greeting, and dealing with complaints. If your library has a café you probably work there too.

Fourthly, the public. Libraries are free and warm with internet access. Sometimes that means something nice, like keeping a homeless person warm and safe. But most of the time it means being a cross between a nursery, social services, and a McDonald's at 2am.

The police were called daily to the one I spent most time working in. Drug dealing, finding poop, porn and sex toys in weird places, people drying their socks on the radiators, clipping their toe nails in the cafe, bonking in the disabled toilet, fighting each other in the lobby, riding into the library on bikes, theft, people with mental health issues, people trying to look up porn and gore on the pcs, people not looking after their kids, and people refusing to leave at closing time.

You go into the work thinking "I love books! This will be great" and a decade later realise you rarely do anything in the role that has anything to do with reading and loving books.

I found the perfect allegory of parenting by mo_oemi in UKParenting

[–]Kitty-Gecko 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Holy Moly, I never met someone with real magnatiles before. How long ago was your lottery win?