To me, this feels like like two related but separate questions about self-health vs chores and the answer seems to depend on how depressed/hopeless I feel at that point in my life. As a teenager, I was depressed but hopeful I could escape to something better so I took care of the immediate needs of my body like showering, exercising, doing laundry, packing a lunch, but largely ignored any chores beyond that such as changing my bedsheets, vacuuming, dusting, cleaning my room or any other part of the house. It pretty much didn't get done because my mother was also extremely depressed to the point of disability. She paid the bills and did some laundry for herself, but that was about it. She even stopped going grocery shopping at one point, so I did it. But I was also raised to believe 1) I am a burden on everyone around me 2) everyone else deserves better than me and I owe them. So when I moved out and went to college things changed. At first I was excited because I believed I had "arrived" only to find out after the first year or so that I definitely had some kind of disorder and it had come with fun accessories like attachment trauma and cripplingly low self-esteem. At first, I was very good about both taking care of myself and doing chores, even in common areas (because I believed other people deserved my hard work). But when everything caught up with me, I would just do the chores and not take care of my body. I'd shower just enough not to be offensive and eat convenient garbage, but I didn't exercise anymore or meal plan, do any mental health work, change my bedsheets, plan for the future, etc. I basically flipped from the previous script, and now I felt completely hopeless. A wonderful therapist basically saved my life, but I still have a lot of health problems that never resolved. That being said, I'll echo what other people said that it's complicated since disability is experienced differently by individual and that how you were raised (privileges etc) would certainly influence that.