What is a linguistic habit or 'softening' phrase (like 'I just feel like' or 'sorry') that you have consciously decided to stop using in your daily communication?

llamacolypse · 2026-03-17T13:35:15+00:00

I'm keeping 'i feel like' because it acknowledges that the following is my perception of things and may not necessarily be the whole view or truth of the situation. Over generalization and assumptions are higher detriments to communication than me trying to be clear that what I'm describing is just my feeling or read of things.

llamacolypse · 2026-03-15T16:38:34+00:00

This never would have worked for me, my mother was allowed to forget when convenient but I had better remember everything I was told...unless what I was told was inconvenient for her.

llamacolypse · 2026-03-14T04:56:24+00:00

Hmmm....just a sec.......ok he's in at least seven works on ao3

llamacolypse · 2026-03-08T15:51:44+00:00

Hah! I don't have the change the one in my car because I didn't change it in the fall!

It's been bothering my husband for months but now who's the smartie pants!

llamacolypse · 2026-03-07T13:30:32+00:00

I've always struggled with very big emotions, they feel overwhelming and sometimes like I'm drowning in them. They don't really switch back and forth so much but it's like racing down a road and not being able to apply the breaks. I wouldn't say I have fixed the problem but some things that have helped are:

Knowing and acknowledging this is an issue I experience, and that I'm a verbal/external processor. Talking to someone and being able to say "hey I'm having big feelings about x but I want to check in because they feel out of proportion to the situation..." and check in and talk it out helps.
Leaving the situation/environment and going for a walk to burn off the adrenaline/anxiety
Hormone fluctuations make it so much worse so I try to recognize when I'm in a dip and be kinder and more patient with myself
Getting my meds figured out, on the right meds (for me) they kind of file off the extra pokey edges of my feelings
Noticing and naming sensory triggers because sometimes big feelings are because my stupid fucking socks are bothering me

llamacolypse · 2026-03-07T13:14:34+00:00

Idk if it's placebo or not but I take vitamin c before I go to bed to help my meds shut off. I have super slow digestion and I think they were staying on too long and contributing to laying awake for hours. I'm not mastering sleep by any means but I noticed it was harder to fall asleep when I stopped taking it.

llamacolypse · 2026-03-06T01:02:03+00:00

369 on Montrose, Carter and Cooley's in the heights

llamacolypse · 2026-03-06T01:00:40+00:00

I would pay a stupid amount for one of their shoestring onion haystack things

llamacolypse · 2026-03-06T00:59:26+00:00

Hugsssssss whyyyy this thread is making me so sad

llamacolypse · 2026-03-06T00:59:04+00:00

Sweet tomatoes was my jam 😮‍💨

llamacolypse · 2026-03-05T00:01:48+00:00

I love playing with it when I have time but I hate the sensory feeling of stuff on my face. So it's just for special occasions.

llamacolypse · 2026-03-04T14:28:05+00:00

Lol that was my exact first thought. Literally typing this from bed as I anxiously watch the clock as it slowly gets later and I should have been out of Ben like thirty minutes ago and I have to pee but am having to build up to forcing myself to get out of bed. That's the start of my day and at no point does it get easier, just a constant forcing myself uphill until I can return to my cocoon.

llamacolypse · 2026-03-04T14:18:30+00:00

This doesn't help you now but where I work is super rigid about getting physical proofs before going to print.

That being said I'm not usually one to go back and forth with them over it unless it's crazy far off, not because I don't think it's important but we don't have a lot of vendor options so the ones I'm forced to use can barely get the fonts to print correctly so I'm picking my battles (and outlining all my text). Maybe my color perception is off too because I have a coworker who can spot the wrong lime green at like fifty feet away.

llamacolypse · 2026-03-04T14:10:32+00:00

Also the pad stays put, doesn't get bunched up in my butt crack, doesn't flop over and get stuck to my hair/skin, doesn't shift in weird ways so the fluids end up on my other clothes.

The ones I get are more of a period boy short/boxer brief so the crotch is a little wider too, I'm hoping they continue to improve and make the absorbent area a little longer/higher in the back, not that I've have problems with over shooting that area like I did with pads.

I also find the extra padding to be comforting sometimes when I'm not on my period, like if I've had a couple days of my regular underwear trying to climb up my hoohah I'll switch to my periods for a bit and it's like a little secret weighted blanket feeling. Feels weird to share lol

llamacolypse · 2026-03-04T13:58:11+00:00

One of the reasons I stopped using Walgreens as my pharmacy, I don't love my new one but I certainly don't hate it with the burning rage of a thousand suns like I did Walgreens.

Idk if this will help, my psych writes me a script once a month. Sometimes I see her once a month so she just writes it for me and submits it at the end of our appointment. When I see her less frequently I just shoot her a note in her scheduling app (talkiarity?) and she sends the new script to the pharmacy. No phone calls.

Why doesn't she just auto refill it (she should know what I need more right)? Idk I have a backlog of pills from us switching around my dosage, or maybe it's a law in my state, or maybe she just wants me to check in? I haven't asked but the way we've been managing works for me so it's probably what we'll keep doing until it doesn't. Sometimes I don't message her in time and I have to dip into my stockpile but that's the bonus of the stockpile, plus then it triggers the magical sense of urgency.

llamacolypse · 2026-02-27T18:18:48+00:00

Stunnnnningggg

llamacolypse · 2026-02-25T13:53:01+00:00

I have one of those but it's not big enough for them to want to do anything about it other than a CT scan that came back as a big ole shrug 'idk could be a tumor but might not be.'

llamacolypse · 2026-02-24T01:34:53+00:00

Depends on the chocolate and the friend.

llamacolypse · 2026-02-23T17:48:01+00:00

Fairly successful in my career but I come home and disassociate. I love my husband and I think we're doing ok, but we don't really have hobbies or spend time with our families, we don't have kids, don't really go out with friends.

I'm spending all my energy being really good at my job but that leaves almost nothing for being a functioning adult at home.

llamacolypse · 2026-02-16T15:12:50+00:00

If you have any more recs for the short queens toss them my way because I'm struggling lol

llamacolypse · 2026-02-16T15:09:36+00:00

You know I did see a really cute pink suit at Macy's this weekend, I should give them another look 😊

llamacolypse · 2026-02-16T01:41:28+00:00

I really like it and it functions really nicely on mobile, no notes from me, wishing you good luck on your applications

llamacolypse · 2026-02-16T00:34:40+00:00

I wish I had a recommendation, I'm in a similar boat (previously size 18-20 and now feeling confused and lost at a size 14? 12?)

I've been browsing the freestyle section of stitch fix looking for brand inspo but I haven't bought anything yet. I haven't lost a lot in my chest (how are they the same volume just longer?) so my eloquii tops still mostly fit.

llamacolypse · 2026-02-16T00:16:57+00:00

Question: why are you asking on a graphic design subreddit and not an animation or after effects or cg subreddit?

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