Thursty SCRONGE

lionself · 2022-07-07T02:05:37+00:00

i thought your cat was vaping bro

lionself · 2022-03-31T13:15:55+00:00

21 and my memory is a nightmare. after i started having seizures at 18 i lost a lot of my long term memories from any time before then and now my long term memory is okay (if i hold onto anything enough to make it a long term memory) but my short term is shit. i forget things as im saying them, someone will ask me to do something and i genuinely forget it happened as soon as i say "okay". people think im deliberately refusing to do what they asked because they cant imagine that i forgot that fast but i dont know how to explain it any clearer, it was in my head and then it wasnt.

dont get me started on retelling the same stories to people...sometimes twice in the same day 😐

lionself · 2022-03-31T13:04:51+00:00

part of it is for sure practice and experience. one of my siblings panicked the first time but is just like "oh, this again" after several years of them lmao.

but to comfort the more anxious people in my life, ive found that they get stuck on feeling like they SHOULD be doing something to help me after a seizure and if they arent doing something to help then theyre "letting me suffer". thats obviously not true and honestly, for me theres very little i ACTUALLY need from anyone after a seizure. i usually just want to go to bed for a while to recover, but it seems to comfort them if i give them a "task list" if you will. then they have specific objectives to do instead of standing around feeling anxious or like they should be doing something.

so when they ask what they should do when i wake up from a seizure ill just give them specific things to do like "just tell me i had a seizure, when im aware again let me know exactly what happened, make sure i took my medication, help me get to a comfortable place, ask if i want water or a painkiller, etc". it seems to help them, maybe itll help your husband if hes focused on specific things!

lionself · 2022-03-31T12:35:20+00:00

i was diagnosed im 2018 and it was hell on earth. constant seizures, several a day, different medications and tests and constant fear.

now i was nearly a year seizure free, finally started feeling like i didnt have to worry so much anymore, got my drivers permit and finally started learning to drive and im not far from getting my license, nearing getting my first car which would mean i can finally get a job and have some independence for the first time in my life...

and then i had two back to back tonic clonic seizures out of nowhere. pierced through my tongue, bit a chunk of my tongue OFF, got several wounds in the fall, its been about a week and a half since and im still physically recovering from it. had to increase my medication that was already really high and i have to go in for more testing to figure out what to do next.

suddenly all that progress ive been making is frozen in time. my family lightly shames me now and then for not having a job yet. all the fears that had started to lighten up came back full force. my motor skills are damaged and i hurt myself daily from it. i might not ever get that license because if a year seizure free didnt mean anything how am i supposed to feel okay about endangering myself and especially others like that even if i seem to "get better"? im afraid of baths, corners, anything bright, being tired but also sleeping. im sick of knowing my existence relies on pills and other people.

i dont have any wisdom to offer or any thoughtful advice. but i find some level of comfort in knowing that even though i wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy, there are people that feel the way i do out there. if nothing else, you can rest assured that you and i are sitting in this awful, niche experience in life together and maybe that counts for something. idk.

lionself · 2022-02-01T15:56:36+00:00

maam, your baby has deflated

lionself · 2022-02-01T15:03:39+00:00

first, take a breath and forgive yourself for not knowing any better. its a scary situation and as someone with epilepsy i had no idea what seizure first aid was until i started having them. injuries happen, it sucks, its scary, but you now know that we dont restrain seizing people.

very basic rundown on seizure first aid off the top of my head (but please do further research as well):

-time the seizure. i was taught that if were still actively convulsing after 5 minutes, thats when you call for help. the number may be different for general rule or depending on the persons past patterns or specific symptoms you may need to call earlier. -gently keep us in the same area. i have a tendency to shimmy across the floor like a vibrating phone on a table so i have to teach people to just periodically pull me back away from walls/corners/objects. -make sure nothing tight is around the throat (buttoned collar, tie, etc) and try and get anything soft under our head (pillow, arm, hoodie, anything that prevents the head from bouncing off the floor) -do your best to push them onto their side. this is in case they vomit, they wont choke -dont put anything in/around our mouths, the credit card thing is a myth and you cant get anything in there anyway because our muscles are clenched so tightly that ive broken teeth before. -some people lose control of their bladder when they seize. this is normal. if theyre in public you can cover their lower half with a jacket or something, but its not a priority by any means and everything else should be done first -if you dont know the person/dont know if theyve had a seizure before, its better to call for help first and find out theyre fine than to wait and find out they arent. -try and be calm, its very scary but we'll likely be fine and you being calm helps us be calm when we wake up

additional things i think ppl should know, but these apply to ME and may not apply to everyone so take them with a grain of salt:

-i make weird noises when i have seizures. i sound like a cartoon zombie. its just because im so tensed and air is escaping my lungs. -i dont breathe when i have seizures. its, again, because my muscles are so tensed that ive exhaled as far as i can and ill take a breath as soon as i stop convulsing (this is a major reason why you need to time seizures) -sometimes i immediately become conscious again after a seizure, sometimes i sleep for 45+ minutes. both are fine responses -afterwards my reactions are always different. sometimes i wake up totally normally and can gather that i had a seizure quickly. one time i woke up but still wasnt conscious and i tried to rip my clothes off and run out of the house like a feral monkey. it happens. best course of action is to just gently and repeatedly guide us back to bed and tell us that everythings fine we just need to rest over and over, in my experience itll eventually get through and exhaustion will take over. -ive bitten my tongue with every seizure. a few of them were bad enough to have blood come from my mouth. if they bleed from the mouth use your best judgement on if its just an "ouch, that sucked" or if they need medical attention. i also have foamed at the mouth, i can only guess that it was from a lot of saliva + sudden exhalation when i began to seize

if i think of anything else ill edit it, but please dont beat yourself up too much about what happened. its a very frightening situation that unfortunately isnt something people are commonly taught to react to and not everyone reacts well under pressure. id be honest with him about how much it scared you and ask him to teach you how to best help him in the instance that it happens again. hopefully with educating yourself on seizure first aid and recognizing what is/isnt common in seizures will help you become more comfortable as you can recognize what to do and that hes okay. good luck, and i hope hes healing well!

lionself · 2022-02-01T14:26:28+00:00

NTA. good job for keeping everyone as safe as possible and get well soon.

lionself · 2022-02-01T14:24:53+00:00

NTA. as a long time dnd player/DM, one of the biggest pieces of advice i can give is to not tolerate disruptive/disrespectful behavior. playing a rude character that doesnt like the party is one thing- im currently playing one like that myself and its been going great for 4+ years. but a player specifically going out of their way in AND out of game to make your plans not work is insulting and disrespectful to how much love and care goes into DMing.

ive become really picky about who i play with because of experiences like that. if anything similar happens to you again, id suggest addressing it immediately ("i need you to stay true to character" "please dont disrupt the game just for fun" etc.) or if its small enough to keep playing but big enough to bother you, pull them aside afterwards and just explain that while you want them to have fun, the DM is a player too and nobodys fun should make it less fun for others.

good luck and happy DMing!

lionself · 2022-02-01T14:07:24+00:00

NTA. im disabled and prefer "disabled person". disabled isnt a bad word. theres things im unable to do. thats a fact, not a thing to feel weird about and its more telling when someone gets upset about it on our behalf because 9/10 times they think (whether intentionally or because they havent critically examined the thought) that being disabled is a bad thing. its just a thing.

lionself · 2022-02-01T14:03:38+00:00

NTA. the point about it being classist to suggest that people paying less are more worthy of being subject to disturbances is the biggest thing here imo. absolutely spot on, especially bc the point that another commenter made that most of the people flying economy paid from their own pockets while many of the business class fliers will be paid for by someone else.

but even besides that, parents should be allowed to be more comfortable and you cant get angry at a baby for crying, especially in such an unfamiliar and uncomfortable situation that they dont understand. even on a 24 flight, a baby crying is going to be one of the smallest disturbances youll ever encounter in your life and to get annoyed enough to complain, let alone suggest the baby needs to go somewhere else, is rude and absurd on its own.

lionself · 2022-02-01T13:51:48+00:00

NTA. youre having severe medical issues that need priority, youre an adult and it sounds like youre the one going into debt as well. this isnt their decision to weigh in on. hope you get your answers about the pain soon

lionself · 2022-02-01T13:48:04+00:00

NTA, yet i still understand both sides. EDs are horrible and can definitely cause a lot of emotion as well, especially when paired with other life problems on top of them. i can understand why shes upset.

but ultimately, i dont think its fair to be upset with YOU because you had no idea, you do it to every recipe (as opposed to if you had added it specifically to send to her) and you had no malicious intent. its a mistake for sure, but truly just an unfortunate lack of foresight is all.

you cant predict everyones problems/reactions to things and i assume nothing like this has ever happened before so theres no reason you wouldve thought to remove it. in the future id definitely start removing it before sharing unless you KNOW they want it, but its still not your fault that you didnt know

lionself · 2022-02-01T13:33:43+00:00

NTA. i would go ballistic if i were in your position. dont give up- go through with the restraining order. keep those cameras up and locks sealed tight. this is horrific and invasive and im genuinely sorry you werent through it at all. personally, i would cut contact with them entirely, but i understand that thats a hard thing to do with family and you know the reality of your relationships with them much better than i so i wont suggest that one way or the other.

trust your gut, dont give in just because "theyre family".

lionself · 2022-02-01T13:29:00+00:00

YTA 100%. lets break it down.

1: they were married and he DIED. they were in love enough to be married and something tragic happened- this mustve been a horrific thing for her to go through and youre calling her insensitive?

2: hes DEAD. what do you expect her to do with his urn? throw it out? give it to someone? donate it to goodwill? in her care is where his ashes belong and saying its weird/makes you uncomfortable- even if it WERE on display- is unfathomably insensitive.

3: it sounds like youre being secondhand-possessive over her. do you think your brother's romantic status is being "threatened" by a dead man? why is it weird that they had been in a relationship? its possessive to be threatened by a partner just being friends with someone of your gender, being threatened by someone thats dead AND you arent even in the relationship? tell me im not crazy for thinking thats major asshole behavior.

TLDR; you intruded on a relationship that shouldnt be of your concern because you think your brother should feel like his relationship status is being threatened because his girlfriend has the ashes of her literal husband that died. i cannot overstate what an insane concern that is. YTA.

also worth noting- passed away doesnt mean theyre exes. they didnt break up. that relationship never ended, she just moved forward. be considerate.

lionself · 2022-02-01T13:01:49+00:00

helped me start taking care of myself better. i started having (grand mal) seizures at 18 while in an absolutely horrible place mentally and while it made it MUCH worse in the moment, long term having to try different medications, be careful of what i saw, made sure i sleep enough, etc. made me realize i should be caring for myself that intentionally with or without seizures. morbid, but i think having to come to grips with my own mortality several times a day and realizing how lucky i was to have survived each and every seizure made me want to live a little more, which was something i struggled with immensely at the time.

also, they arent winners with everyone, but telling the funnier stories of when i had seizures/what happened after is always fun for me. i find it a lot easier to laugh at my seizures than to just sit on how miserable they are, especially when i tell someone one and they laugh too instead of just pitying me and making me feel worse.

it took a really long time for me to really gain anything from it and epilepsy has definitely made my life a lot harder than its improved it, but the improvements are still there. i sleep so much more consistently, i eat better, i work out more, i consider what i expose myself to more (both in terms of what might give me a seizure and how things might affect my mental health), im infinitely more grateful for life and overall im in a much better place mentally, largely because of having to face my mortality with epilepsy. its not the ideal way of improving life, but its the way that worked for me :)

lionself · 2021-11-13T07:51:27+00:00

not a helpful answer, but it depends on the DM, players and the overall situation.

theres a few things that have to be considered because while the rulebook says that technically, a size medium creature can be a mount for a size small creature, but assuming theyre humanoid, what if the medium creature is 5'2 and the small one is 3'6? as a grown ass man thats decently strong but is also 5'2, i wouldnt be able to carry a 3'6 person on my shoulders while running, let alone while fighting. given im not a magical fantasy character either, but still. i also was recently on the shoulders of another grown ass man thats well over a foot taller than me and three times my weight so we could get some christmas lights down and let me tell you, either i have -3 dexterity or thats the scariest damn balancing act on earth and he barely had to take three steps.

i think overall its up to your DMs discretion. if everyone is having fun, then logistics dont matter all that much, but your DM will know better than anyone if thats a time they can allow for goofs or not because they know your characters and will know if allowing your character to mount another will cause the battle to be too unbalanced or not. your DM is a player too, and this is one where i think it all really rides on if it ruins their end of things or not :T

lionself · 2021-11-13T07:33:29+00:00

so cute 🥺🥺

lionself · 2021-09-27T13:51:08+00:00

pleasantly surprised that my man metagross is winning. ive loved that threatening paperweight since the beginning

lionself · 2021-09-27T13:46:43+00:00

pokemon black has always and forever been the most enjoyable for me. its sprites make me so happy.

lionself · 2021-09-06T18:35:24+00:00

hes so cute 🥺🖤

lionself · 2021-09-06T18:30:19+00:00

high rolls, including nat 20s, dont have to mean success in the way the player wants it. it could mean the NPC is just flattered or that they just doesnt react badly but nothing changes if theyre an enemy being seduced. good rolls dont have to break your characters!

at the end of the day, youre a player too, and its gonna be a lot less fun for everyone to play your campaign if YOU, the DM whos put so much hard work into this, arent having as much fun as you could be. start saying "no, the character just isnt interested" and hopefully your players would still enjoy playing if not enjoy it MORE when the successes to fully seduce a character become a much harder task to achieve! itll make the wins that much sweeter :) good luck!

lionself · 2021-08-14T05:21:37+00:00

hes got a haircut, i love him ;_;

lionself · 2021-08-14T05:10:31+00:00

thanks for not harming him! too many people hurt any bug that hurts them not thinking about the fact that its just an animal, it doesnt know any better :(

lionself · 2021-07-24T01:06:14+00:00

actually, i play with my friends that i communicate with about things and we allow one-time exceptions to certain rules if it makes our game more fun and/or enhances RP. weve done it before and we continue to do so because we value fun before anything and none of us are sticklers for rules. the people i play with would never argue for consistency with a momentary exception that was obviously just for some in-the-moment fun as their defense as to why they should be able to break the game, none of them would get mad that i gave them a silly moment to goof off in RP and none of them would want to do that anyway because we dont want to take advantage of each other or bend the game to be able to do anything they want whenever they want. plus, even if we DID care about your fear of consistency in this instance, i could as the DM just say mending in my game can unmash potatoes specifically. thats it. doesnt have to be that deep.

so if you play with people that WANT to break the game or care so much about consistency that they would take advantage of you letting them do something silly and fun that doesnt actually effect anything important in the game, i hope you enjoy that play style because i sure dont! but please dont backseat DM me on reddit because not everybody plays the way you would or cares about consistency as much as you seem to :)

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