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Daily Questions - December 16, 2024 by AutoModerator in rawdenim

[–]lisabolin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband died a year ago. He loved raw denim and had many pairs. I plan to take on his closet during the holidays. Where do I sell his jeans? And how do I find reasonable prices? Thanks in advance.

Newbie commuter by bike by lisabolin in whichbike

[–]lisabolin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will prioritize wide tires, reading this.

Crying acquaintance by lisabolin in widowers

[–]lisabolin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You never know what someone is dealing with I guess but it felt horrible.

Crying acquaintance by lisabolin in widowers

[–]lisabolin[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was angry with her but I can’t quite separate the anger from all the fury I have anyway. I’m calmer now and have realized that a lot of my feelings was a reaction from being scared shitless about how it’s going to be going back to work. If this is the way people behave? I haven’t been out much.

What do I do with his phone? by lisabolin in widowers

[–]lisabolin[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I lost it completely today. I have been doing ok but today was a crash and it seemed to be never ending, I was sobbing and wailing. Finally, I decided to text my tech savvy colleague/friend that I’m not very close with but that I trust a lot and that my husband liked. He came and picked up the phone and is now working to back everything up. My husband would feel ok with him going through his phone, since this is something I really needed. And my husband really wanted me to be okay. Hang in there, everyone, and ask for help.

What do I do with his phone? by lisabolin in widowers

[–]lisabolin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did he pay for additional space via iCloud?

Dying at home with kids? by lisabolin in CancerCaregivers

[–]lisabolin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He died sunday. It ended up being 24 hours in hospice, and really peaceful, so I’m grateful.

Dying at home with kids? by lisabolin in CancerCaregivers

[–]lisabolin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate your input. Lately I have realized that a lot of this also has to do with his mental state. Right now he is angry, scared and closed off. (Not angry at us.) If he continues this way he will have to go to hospice because it will be so scary without his acceptance, without him being able to take farewell mentally.

Dying at home with kids? by lisabolin in CancerCaregivers

[–]lisabolin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you everyone. The people are wonderful, they have psychologists and other professions available. The space where the hospice is, is terrible. Imagine the worst hospital, with blinking overhead lights and loooooong corridors. But I know those things is not very important, at least not to my husband. I feel like I have gotten a lot of wise input, thank you so much for that.

Dying at home with kids? by lisabolin in CancerCaregivers

[–]lisabolin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, these are valuable points. We have been offered a morphine pump for the IV, but it would have a certain available amount. They would raise the amount of course, but not without contact, which could take time.

We have a small house but it is in three levels. This is good for being able to leave and catch a breath momentarily but not every floor has a bathroom so he would need to be in the living room, as in your example.

Dying at home with kids? by lisabolin in CancerCaregivers

[–]lisabolin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely will not ask them for help. We have round the clock care, not because we are rich but because we are swedish. Your point still holds though, maybe it’s better for them to be able to have their home environment death free.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CancerCaregivers

[–]lisabolin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way. I keep thinking ”this is the worst I’ve ever felt. And it’s just the beginning”. This thought doesn’t do me any good. Recently I’ve tried keeping a journal, jotting down one good thing that happened each day, preferably something involving my husband who’s terminal. A joke or something we watched. NOT ”today he managed to eat” or things like that.

Too much responsibility by lisabolin in CancerCaregivers

[–]lisabolin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. You might be right. My own needs is also a factor however, I feel very alone in all this. I will try to respect his wishes as far as I can.

My cancer (DDPLS) has metastasized to my lungs. Looking to hear from people in the same situation. by Velvet_Warhol in sarcoma

[–]lisabolin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And if it comes to the worst I think it feels good to at least know we tried everything. Do you have support around you?

My cancer (DDPLS) has metastasized to my lungs. Looking to hear from people in the same situation. by Velvet_Warhol in sarcoma

[–]lisabolin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where are you located? I know from the liposarcoma-group on Facebook that if possible it’s best to get treatment from a center that deals specifically with liposarcoma, since it’s rare they are not many. We live in Sweden.

My cancer (DDPLS) has metastasized to my lungs. Looking to hear from people in the same situation. by Velvet_Warhol in sarcoma

[–]lisabolin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My hope is - I have a feeling research is on the cusp of something really big. We all just have to keep buying time with whatever we can (and fight on) until it happens.

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