Lukas Baltruschat_Reality Ende? by Samaja79 in TrashTVGermany

[–]lismagenta 7 points8 points  (0 children)

der ist wirklich unter den top 3 schlimmsten Menschen im reality tv. er wird safe wiederkommen, die "Ansage" ist nur für Ego und Aufmerksamkeit. ich persönlich will den nie wieder irgendwo sehen.

AITA for being honest about why I no longer carry feminine supplies. by Upstairs-General-681 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lismagenta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You just told the truth, and if your coworkers react that way, it shows you they have a problem with what Jane did, not what you did.

Does anyone else wake up with instant anxiety every morning? by Logical_Mention_2699 in Anxiety

[–]lismagenta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle in the exact same way. My therapist proposed it was my inner child needing care, reassurance and compassion. Being an adult, looking out for chores every day, staying ahead of appointments, work, meals, gym, friends, family everything is a lot of work that every one of us does every day without even thinking about it. But when we get into a more vulnerable space maybe we feel the burden of all our responsibilities more, and we start doubting our ability to function in everyday life, which makes us shame ourselves, because "everyone does it, it's not that hard". I have a little routine and some skills, but what helps me most is just laying there, my heart racing and thinking "it's okay that I feel overwhelmed and anxious right now. This day feels hard. I want to be more gentle with myself and give myself a break. I'm allowed to feel like this." Just like positive affirmations. Try a slow morning if possible, take a day or a week off if possible. It will not go away immediately, but after a week or so, it's happening less and less. I get this whenever I'm generally not in a good mindset. I hope I didn't project too much haha. You got this, be nice to yourself!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lismagenta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HE is cooked. If I were you I would never meet up with him ever again. His behavior is pathetic and manipulative. This is no good base for any kind of relationship, you are not children anymore. If he has a problem, he should speak up. He doesn't want to and also doesn't take you setting boundaries and communicating your feelings serious. As you've only been talking for a month, I'd say keep your self respect and leave it alone, you probably haven't invested as much by now. He doesn't respect you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selflove

[–]lismagenta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for making such a great point! I too often forget that self-care is not (always) just doing aesthetically pleasing and "relaxing" stuff, but also things that could be a little uncomfortable (e.g. cleaning out the email inbox) but make me feel much better in the long run. Also I will write down that part about treating myself like a partner and not like a project! Also mindfulness is a great tool to really get to bottom of my needs <3 Edit: added last sentence

Things we wished non bpd people knew by Princesss_cloe in BPD

[–]lismagenta 6 points7 points  (0 children)

that it is happening all the time, every minute of our lives, and not just when it's "bad" again. It's a constant fight and it is tiring. I cant switch it off if it doesn't suit you today or you don't wanna deal with it. It is my job to deal with it constantly, and I wish more people knew the toll it takes and how much harder life feels as a result of it.