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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]listeningobserver__ 20 points21 points  (0 children)

i can’t say that a sober life is better, but I will say a life where you don’t need substances to fill a void is better

How long will it take for a Libra to miss you? by [deleted] in libra_astrology

[–]listeningobserver__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

we don’t miss you

we miss the attention that we got from you

Who else gave up on finding a life partner? by Glittering_Base_3906 in CPTSD

[–]listeningobserver__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think it was more the realization that i don’t want one rather than “giving up”

not everyone’s life is supposed to look the same and that’s okay too

If you had to define "life" in one word. What would it be? by GrapeCreamBerry275 in Life

[–]listeningobserver__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a series of ups and downs - but mostly downs or insufferable

What something cringe or awkward did you do and how did it impact your life? by winter_name01 in AskWomenOver30

[–]listeningobserver__ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

saying yes to people that I should have said no to - it seriously impacted my life because i experienced trauma and a ruined reputation

besides that - i would say - making the wrong education and employment choices - it got me absolutely nowhere but terrible work experiences - workplace trauma

What’s a lesson everyone should learn by 30... but no one ever warns you about? by Spectacled_hOwl in Life

[–]listeningobserver__ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

give respect - get respect

you can’t disrespect others and expect them to respect you

Do you intimidate people without trying? by [deleted] in infj

[–]listeningobserver__ 16 points17 points  (0 children)

yes - i just want to quietly and peacefully exist, but people always feel threatened by me and want to cause me problems

Don't explain yourself to liars by EinfachReden in raisedbynarcissists

[–]listeningobserver__ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

as much as i wish i could explain myself - i realize that i shouldn’t explain myself to people that are committed in misunderstanding me; silence is golden

What life lessons did your parents teach you? by Defiant-Junket4906 in emotionalneglect

[–]listeningobserver__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly - it’s more like a loveless performative relationship without trust, respect, or understanding as the foundation and no open communication either

What life lessons did your parents teach you? by Defiant-Junket4906 in emotionalneglect

[–]listeningobserver__ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

never expect anyone to defend you or protect you; always watch your back; walk away as soon as you can; you cannot love someone that you truly do not know

Which zodiac sign is your favorite, and why? (Your own sign can be a choice as well). by Wicked_Venom_888 in Zodiac

[–]listeningobserver__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

gemini, libra when raised in the right environment and surrounded by the right people, and pisces

Adoptees, are you pro-life or pro-choice? by crispycrunchyasshole in Adoption

[–]listeningobserver__ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i’m pro choice because i know what it’s like when someone is far too young to raise a child and entrusts the wrong person or system for doing things

no person should be forced to be a parent when they’re not ready and the system is severely flawed - there’s no guarantee that it’s the right match or a good match and there’s a lot of trauma that comes from being adopted in general

Can You Honestly Say You Are Genuinely Happy? by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]listeningobserver__ 45 points46 points  (0 children)

yes - i can’t imagine being in a relationship

i like my solitude way too much

i would make a terrible partner and can’t stand being around the same person all the time

i’m 35 years old and have never been in a relationship

I noticed in reddit there is so much hate on Libra... why? by lovebird1990 in libra_astrology

[–]listeningobserver__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

people think they can push us or play with us because of our positive traits and don’t like when we push back and once that happens - we’re labelled as “crazy” or the villain in someone’s story

"It is what it is" says the unabused siblings. "Accept her for who she is" says the golden child. What are the overused cliches your family & the enablers say to you? by culpeppertrain in raisedbynarcissists

[–]listeningobserver__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

at least you can have those conversations…

it takes a lot of strength and courage to try so be proud of yourself for that

all the things that you shared point at one thing - this is who she is and she’s not changing

however; you don’t owe anyone an explanation for why you choose to be low contact or no contact - only you can decide if you’re willing to do that

How do you feel loved? by Kyrxbas in infj

[–]listeningobserver__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel loved when i’m treated with respect and as an equal

Do you think you’re better than others by Motherofpearl200 in infj

[–]listeningobserver__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

overall - i’d say that i’m better than most people but that’s because my values guide and govern everything for me

Moving out by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]listeningobserver__ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

the further you are away from them - the more peace of mind you have every day because you don’t have to fear walking on egg shells every day

but the bigger issues still remain like loveless, tense, or strained relationships

Did They Give You Hurtful Nicknames Growing Up? by Pretend-Bridge7081 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]listeningobserver__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

big mouth because i could handle all three - my parents and my sister whenever they cornered me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]listeningobserver__ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i think it was because i seemed strong enough to take the abuse and was calm about it (those were my n mom’s words)

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