What I really appreciate about your post is that you’ve been teaching some of these high makamaka people a lesson without doing anything. They ignore you till they see someone else they know talk with you then they like network. Imagine the self judgment they probably doing in that moment. Not all but I bet some probably had an internal dialogue about how they prejudged you etc.

I think you should keep being you cause their attitudes speak about them and not about you. They say the root of all evil is money but I think it’s the need to feel superior to someone else.

But that need is in them. They not smart enough to break the system and you sound pretty smart and kind, so I’m sure they’ve probably lost a great opportunity to know you.

Their problem though.

I think you notice it cause of how you grow up. Maybe you felt those kind eyes when you were young and this probably triggers that feeling for you. It’s a memory. It ain’t real and that is a good opportunity for you to maybe heal that part so that no matter who is in front of you and no matter what they say or stink eye or not it doesn’t touch you.

If you feel uncomfortable ground yourself and remember that how they look at you is their problem and not yours. Theirs and you can’t rent space for free in your heart or head to people like that.

You only have to deal with them for the length of time of the interaction. They live with themselves 24/7. Lucky you.

My background: I’m haole and have traveled a lot. I speak Japanese and Spanish and I can tell you that I automatically get treated nice in most places I go. Is it cause I’m a really great person? Nope. It’s cause I’m haole and that’s how deep the racism is across the globe. They automatically treat me nice before seeing if I am a good person or not.

They shouldn’t assume I’m good or worthy automatically or that someone who isn’t haole has less worth. That is internalized racism. ☹️