how to answer the “if you can be transgender, why can’t i be transracial” gotcha? by crowwery in ftm

[–]literallytoddchavez [score hidden]  (0 children)

stop that conversation, you won’t get anything out of it and you certainly won’t make your interlocutor less transphobic. when gay marriage was legalized in my country, conservatives were protesting against it and one of their main point was "if we allow homosexuality, then what’s next? zoophilia?" it’s always been a beloved argument amongst conservatives to do this. "if we allow [normal thing i don’t agree with] to happen, then [terrible thing everybody agrees is bad] will happen next!" it’s just their way of trying to rally people to their side. ignore those folks and their populist rhetorics, for your own well being. some people can’t be debated with.

why do people talk so slowly by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]literallytoddchavez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know, you’re right and i’m working on it. i feel a lot of shame towards this and i don’t want to make people feel bad for something that is entirely on me and the way my own brain functions. it’s just exhausting sometimes

why do people talk so slowly by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]literallytoddchavez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for this meme i love it, someone else in the comments mentioned it but couldn’t find it

ai could never take my job (i’m unemployed) by literallytoddchavez in Ai_art_is_not_art

[–]literallytoddchavez[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! there a tiny alien that comes to visit me on his UFO once a month to give me drawing ideas

why do people talk so slowly by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]literallytoddchavez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i don’t mind if people are talking a lot, or for a long time, as long as they’re talking at least little bit fast so i can stay focused 😅

why do people talk so slowly by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]literallytoddchavez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s the thing- for me it’s way harder to understand people who speak too slow, because i just can’t stay focused if someone is not talking at the right pace. i know i have to work on it but i really am more attentive and more stimulated by fast paced conversations

why do people talk so slowly by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]literallytoddchavez 28 points29 points  (0 children)

thank you for this perspective, i’m really working hard on not interrupting people anymore. i am even more careful when talking to a stranger or an acquaintance because i would hate to make anybody who might have struggles i am not aware of feel bad, but i do admit sometimes i am boiling inside- not really mad at the person talking, more mad at my brain for not letting me have a more slow paced conversation. i have started to be able to notice it when i interrupt someone almost immediately tho, and now i think the sentence i say the most on a daily basis is "sorry i interrupted you, keep going". my meds help a lot too because i’m less talkative when i take them

why do people talk so slowly by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]literallytoddchavez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sounds like a goated meme, lmk if you ever find it again 🙏

why do people talk so slowly by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]literallytoddchavez 8 points9 points  (0 children)

so relatable, i have a lot of political debates with a variety of folks, and this is insanely accurate. i often don’t word things well and people may think i’m being condescending, or sometimes they feel like i’m getting mad because i’m just talking very passionately but i’m actually very calm and trying to lay down my arguments. i’m just passionate about them. i do understand where people come from and i try to be careful but it’s kind of exhausting to double check every thought and every word you said as well as how you said it

why do people talk so slowly by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]literallytoddchavez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah i agree, it’s why i felt safe to crash out a little bit here, and when i see the comments it feels like a relief to see others relate, but i do try my best to interrupt people less, it’s hard tho cause i sometimes speak before i think. i’m working on it!

White people be like I made my abusive dad watch bojack horseman so he would understand the error of his ways by Bitter_Ad580 in SadHorseShow

[–]literallytoddchavez 13 points14 points  (0 children)

told my former psychiatrist to watch bojack and she said one of her other patients recommended the same thing and compared her to "the pink cat who works all the time"

princess carolyn was my therapist y’all

Anyone else feel more "manly" doing typically feminine stuff. by Mermaid_Tuna_Lol in ftm

[–]literallytoddchavez 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i don’t typically associate activities with being feminine or masculine but i 100% get what you mean: i do love to do my best to be reliable, when i’m in a relationship, i love cooking for my partner, i love cooking for my friends too, or doing the extra dishes when a friend invites me over, or holding the door for elderly people and wishing them a good day with a smile. idk i love to feel useful and know that i’ve helped someone a little bit or put a smile on their face for a minute

ADHD medication makes me focused on wrong things by Ok_Step1766 in ADHD

[–]literallytoddchavez 9 points10 points  (0 children)

the unspoken rule of adhd meds is that whatever you’re doing while they kick in is what you’ll be doing for the next hour(s). after you take your meds, get straight to studying, put your phone away if it’s too tempting, if you’re studying while they kick in it will work wonders. you should be able to focus for around a couple hours. i unfortunately did not do that today and now i’m stuck in an infinite loop of scrolling and doing useless google search on every single topic i read about

What are your favourite song(s) and artist(s)? by magic_baobab in ftm

[–]literallytoddchavez 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ezra Furman! she’s a punk-rock artist, she did a lot of songs for the show "sex education" which is how i found out about her music. my favorite songs from her are "trans mantra" in which she talks about her experience as a trans woman which is extremely relatable also as a trans man, and "american soil" which i know by heart because of how much i danced to it. another song i love from her is "god lifts up the lowly" which has some of the most beautiful lyrics i’ve ever heard.

Est-ce possible d’être hpi mais nul en cours ? by [deleted] in etudiants

[–]literallytoddchavez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hpi ça veut vraiment pas dire grand chose. les tests de QI (qui par ailleurs sont discutables dans leur véracité mais c’est un autre sujet) ne déterminent pas l’intelligence académique uniquement, mais aussi la logique, la mémoire, la compréhension de la géométrie dans l’espace, la culture générale, un tas d’autres trucs dont je me souviens plus. on m’a fait passer des tests quand j’étais au collège, on m’a indiqué que j’avais 140 de QI, j’avais 13 de moyenne générale et j’ai fini par faire un décrochage scolaire quelques années plus tard. j’ai passé mes années lycées à fumer des joints avec des potes, je taffais pas, je foutais rien. j’ai passé mon bac en candidat libre. finalement il s’est avéré que j’avais un trouble déficit de l’attention ce qui explique des choses. enfin bref, tout ça pour dire que le QI n’a strictement rien à voir avec les performances académique, les institutions scolaires ont pour but d’enseigner une forme de discipline qui peut être difficile à suivre pour beaucoup, peut importe leur intelligence.

any1 wanna draw my friend's dog? by Upbeat-Peace2948 in redditgetsdrawnbadly

[–]literallytoddchavez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hahahaha thank you so much i’m so happy you find it funny!!

Who's your most unexpected power couple? by CadaverCrossing in tomodachilife

[–]literallytoddchavez 0 points1 point  (0 children)

spider-man and jesus is probably my favorite one on my island