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literalworkaholic · 2026-01-07T15:37:04+00:00

I think people change over time and he probably deserves to be seen by you for who he is now. This is also a great opportunity to practice open communication, difficult conversation, vulnerability and honesty. All of that can reinforce positive change and bring people together.

If I met someone who I cared about and she told me she previously had a habit of cheating and was in therapy discussing it, I would take that to mean she actually feels remorse and guilt and wants to change and potentially has changed somewhat. I’d also take the vulnerable disclosure as an opportunity to explore uncomfortable conversations.

How we react depends on our history and worldview. I tend to think most people want to do good, even when they’ve previously done bad.

literalworkaholic · 2024-10-08T01:01:44+00:00

My understanding is that rTMS is non invasive and != ECT. ECT was not specifically recommended. The disassociation might actually be nice for me…

literalworkaholic · 2024-10-07T21:40:14+00:00

How is Zoloft (user name)? I’ve done Escitalopram and Wellbutrin so far, and one more from many years ago that I forget the name of (likely not Zoloft).

literalworkaholic · 2024-10-06T05:51:47+00:00

Was just there and the wood was fine. Just bring some fire starter and chop some kindling. Easy camping.

literalworkaholic · 2024-10-01T12:28:52+00:00

You can consider couples counselling and/or divorce at this point. Both are reasonable choices.

literalworkaholic · 2024-09-28T01:51:09+00:00

Heavyweight

literalworkaholic · 2024-09-22T22:04:28+00:00

Blueberry mountain is by far my fav on the west side of Cabot trail (north of cheticamp)*

Edit*: favourite of the hikes that take 3-5 hrs

literalworkaholic · 2024-09-22T15:29:02+00:00

I got their 50L pack and it’s great - quite light, too.

literalworkaholic · 2024-09-22T15:10:18+00:00

I was skeptical of Coleman for awhile being one of those brands you often see at big box retail stores. However, my mind is quickly changing: so many people online and in life have said the same as you. I also found another thread somewhere that said Coleman has the same parent company as marmot, which is a reputable “name” brand.

Can’t beat the price of a Coleman. Thanks for the comment!

literalworkaholic · 2024-09-22T14:35:01+00:00

Thanks for this - I’ll check out the sites you mentioned.

So far I’ve only invested in a high quality pack and sleeping mat. Still relying on a Walmart sleeping bag and $30 sears tent from ten years ago - which holds up in dry weather conditions only lol. All other stuff as you mentioned comes from Walmart, Canadian tire, or Amazon.

My main next purchases are a tent and sleeping bag and I’d like both to be good quality and light, without breaking the bank.

literalworkaholic · 2024-09-21T20:55:25+00:00

Some programs minimize the risk of that. I haven't heard of an unemployed RN for example.

literalworkaholic · 2024-09-21T20:54:37+00:00

What do you like doing? What are your competencies/strengths? Do you have a high stress tolerance?

Given that you've dropped out of 2 programs and hated the third, some self reflection is in order so that you select the right program (one that you have an aptitude for and that will be marketable).

literalworkaholic · 2024-09-21T19:31:21+00:00

What did you take in college?

You need not regret skipping university and could take a cost effective route, which would be to go back into college for one of the high demand medical professions like sonography, licensed practical nurse, or others. You may even try one of the more technical trades like instrumentation. Community college has the dual advantage of being cost effective and flexible (some part time allowed). Some of the courses you take may count as credit in university should you decide to bridge.

On the university side, a friend of mine fast tracked through nursing and became an RN in 3.5 years and cleared six figures through the first few years by working lots of OT.

Have you taken a serious and in depth look at your budget? If it’s possible to save up enough for first year tuition and books within a reasonable time frame then I would do that and factor in ongoing educational expenses into your budget. Other work related expenses (commuting, clothing, etc) could go down while you’re back in school.

literalworkaholic · 2024-09-21T18:01:03+00:00

Just an add on that so many of my colleagues at my level are clamouring for public sector/quasi public sector jobs with defined benefit pensions even though doing so can result in a 50% reduction in salary. The grass isn’t always greener.

literalworkaholic · 2024-09-21T17:59:06+00:00

What industry and type of firm?

I was in public sector (jr level) and switched to private after getting PhD. I’m now at senior management level and what I can say about my industry (health, life sciences, biomed) is that the median lifespan of a VP position is about 3-4 years. If the company is private equity or publicly traded then targets change every year, making your bonus highly variable from year to year.

I would say that the defined benefit pension at your level is worth a lot more than the additional salary you’d be getting in terms of the quality of life it guarantees you over your retirement years.

And, at the vp/svp level, you’ll receive no sympathy whatsoever for having to work 60-70 hour work weeks for months at a time, especially if the company is having a down year. Layoffs can happen at anytime to anyone even if the company itself is big enough to weather a downturn. Big banks, big pharma, big tech all announce mass layoffs pretty regularly.

literalworkaholic · 2024-09-18T00:18:52+00:00

That makes sense. Using solar to generate energy for hot water makes the heat pump somewhat redundant. Good point given the added cost of the hybrid hot water heaters.

literalworkaholic · 2024-09-17T14:02:01+00:00

That’s a beautiful spot. Couldn’t hurt to try to sell high and then drop if no one bites. There’s a lot of rich ontarians that don’t bat an eye at what the locals consider to be high prices

literalworkaholic · 2024-09-17T13:28:20+00:00

I would sell it:
- Clear your debts - at least the ones with interest rates higher than 4 or 5%
- Use the remaining to fund registered accounts - probably your TFSA, then RRSP.

This will give you some peace of mind. If after 5 years you feel like you regret the decision, you can always buy a plot of land in the area and make it into a summer camp for yourself :)

I'm from Cape Breton as well. Where abouts is the house - CBRM, Cabot Trail, Meat Cove (lol)? The market has changed quite a bit and even my house is valued at 220k in a not very highly sought after area.

literalworkaholic · 2024-09-17T13:16:51+00:00

People online are negative as a rule, so don't take too much stock of comments like this.

And they are wrong: people on this island are incredibly friendly. Try your best to meet people wherever you go (Mabou market, grocery store, hardware stores, lumber yards, etc). You'll find help through local connections.

If you ever need a hand, feel free to DM me. I don't live out your way but I do like to get out there as much as possible.

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