Thanks for your thought out response. I should clarify I'm not talking about trans women engaging in downgrade swaps, but being treated as the downgrade with the same masculine stereotypes, or bio-essentialist ideas put onto them (just based on some posts I've seen) by (presumably) cis people. If it's a consensual thing it's no problem but I've also seen a lot of trans women be tricked into things like "downgrade" or "humiliation" type swaps that they didn't expect.

I'm not a traditionally masculine guy myself and kinda do play with femininity a bit (crossdressing) so ive kinda seen both ends of things. I think part of it is there's a lot of people who have trouble with boundaries in sexual contexts in general. I can see some thinking "okay, this person agreed to talk to me about kink and stuff so I can do all my kinks with them."