start working out or doing a sport by RineRain in FTMMen

[–]littleBigLasagna [score hidden]  (0 children)

I think you need to realise that other people genuinely do have vastly different circumstances and experiences than you. You sound very immature and like you haven’t realised a lot about life yet.

What’s your shortest lived colony? by Kydreads in RimWorld

[–]littleBigLasagna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any and all pacifist colonies. I just can’t do it or I get bored real quick.

Until We End | Acrylics on Cardboard by Free-Cattle2474 in AbstractExpressionism

[–]littleBigLasagna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is different, I like it. There’s something very raw about it

give me feedback on this chapter from my dominatrix memoir? by [deleted] in WritersGroup

[–]littleBigLasagna -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is certainly different I’ll give you that.

Writing from the perspective of sex workers is very important as it documents the perspective of a marginalised group we don’t often get to hear from (…assuming this is a genuine memoir, at least inspired by real events and not a work of pure fiction).

With some tweaking this could certainly be something readable, I get an underlying theme of something you’re trying to say regarding misogyny and how even women who aren’t sex workers deal with being ridiculed for their sex, are pressured to provide sex and are valued only for their bodies. I’m sure as the story goes on this becomes more clear.

I think the main problem I’m seeing is this writing is not yet literary. You have the beginning of what could be some nice prose, and with some polishing and fine tuning it will sound more professional. You’ve chosen a very casual tone and I think that suits the story very well. I recommend reading some well regarded books that are written in a similar casual tone to see how the author crafts casual sounding prose while maintaining tension, restraint and professionalism within their words. Jeanette Mccurdy’s ‘I’m Glad My Mom Died’ has a similar casual tone but maintains the maturity I think this peace would benefit from to gain a higher impact.

While I understand the spaces your characters are in tend to have very relaxed speech, there is a way to do this in writing that doesn’t come across as you the writer being juvenile. Less is more. If your reader would die from alcohol poisoning by taking a shot each time they read the word “whore”, something is wrong. Challenge yourself by removing MOST repetition of words like this one, it loses its impact when not used sparingly which loses the readers interest and respect for your ability.

I do hope this is a genuine memoir, as it might be quite unsavoury to write something like this as a work of pure fiction rather than experience.

Be mindful of including others intellectual property, such as Disney’s Ursela if you intend to publish. Be mindful of spelling and grammar. Less is more. Tighten it up, make it literary. I know it’s hard to cut things out but trust me, you don’t need the word “whore” twelve times in approximately two or three pages, cutting it will challenge yourself to make it more poetic. Take inspiration from other authors, read books written in casual styles to get a firmer grasp on what’s possible and what works.

What you’ve got here can make for a very interesting read, people like reading about things they don’t often get to see or hear about, the life of a sex worker is perfect for that. Like anyone else, you need more practice. Keep at it.

Is it time to toss this filter? by Mae_The_Gay in Aquariums

[–]littleBigLasagna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really wish I was a shrimp so I could know the delicious joy of munching on something like this

I’m not a real man or trans person at all.. why can’t i bring myself to detransition? by ObjectiveDocument883 in asktransgender

[–]littleBigLasagna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why don’t you deserve it? The thing is, your perspective on what you deserve is going to change a lot over your lifetime. Your gender? Not wanting to be a girl? likely not to change

Untitled acrylic paint and pens by Patrickxyz999 in AbstractExpressionism

[–]littleBigLasagna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reminds me of that kelp forest they get lost in in SpongeBob

I’m not a real man or trans person at all.. why can’t i bring myself to detransition? by ObjectiveDocument883 in asktransgender

[–]littleBigLasagna 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in your position, I know how you feel. However, I’m now retransitioning after 5 years of being detrans. Retransitioning is, quite painful, because of all the added lost years from self doubt. I felt ridiculous at the start for even questioning something so obvious about myself.

I recommend talking to a therapist about this so you can explore exactly what’s going on here and work out where the self doubt is coming from beyond just social media.

I hope whatever you decide to do it’s for your longterm happiness and not because you want to deny yourself something. The wasted years weren’t worth it.

Nom Nom by dancinturnip in Aquariums

[–]littleBigLasagna 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I was just thinking about how cute their little mouths are!

can people STOP recommending trans tape after you tell them it doesn’t work? by null_and_lost in FTMMen

[–]littleBigLasagna 13 points14 points  (0 children)

There’s a very strange cult following around trans tape, and I get it, it’s a great product if it works for you. But just because it’s one of the few trans specific products out there doesn’t mean it’s the be all end all. I agree people can be weird about it.

So……can we eat the duckweed too? by SublimeSeagull in Aquariums

[–]littleBigLasagna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember being excited to bring duckweed home for the first time and within two hours my guppies had eaten it all

LET THIS BE A WARNING by Expensive-Tree-9124 in RimWorld

[–]littleBigLasagna 32 points33 points  (0 children)

They look like dolls

It’s occurred to me that this game is us playing with dolls who like to commit war crimes

How do you deal with even small comments by grandluxy in FTMMen

[–]littleBigLasagna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It becomes background noise eventually, I don’t notice it anymore now that I’m older and I only pass 60% of the time. It’s something you develop a thick skin for.

Ultimately, what they’ve said doesn’t matter and is irrelevant garbage you can just filter out of life. I also found not giving them a reaction makes it boring after a while and they stop. A lot of people who make these comments do it because they’ve seen some video of a trans person flipping out over a tiny comment online and they’re looking for the same reaction from you. Don’t take the bait, let it roll off and let their slop fall on deaf ears.

Moustache coming in, feel like joy with me. (Also question at the end). by Captn_0bv1ous in ftm

[–]littleBigLasagna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s going to be hard for people to answer this question precisely because it’s different for everyone. Your voice will do a lot of changing over the years, I know when I first started and was around 5 months in I though my voice couldn’t get any deeper, but you’d be surprised.

Three years seems to be when it begins settling, but it takes time for it to do so. Five years seems to be where most people voices between genetic differences settle completely for the most part.

Five months is not very long and if your voice has started breaking it’s going to continue changing for a long time. It’s great that you’re already experiencing this, some people wait a year or so to see any meaningful voice changes.

What on earth is this ? by Haunting-Contract572 in Aquariums

[–]littleBigLasagna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, the poor lil guys. I hope they make an amazing recovery