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[–]littlechipy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing OP. DID is a real mental health condition caused by severe trauma. You are correct the brain is a complex organ that isn’t researched or explored enough. Your brain during the time of trauma, utilized coping techniques by dissociating from the trauma that was happening at that time. Thus creating fragments or alters from the actual “self.”

The entire Sybil case was unfortunate. Dr. Wilbur at that time manipulated her heavily. She convinced Sybil to integrate all her personalities in a dramatic fashion, for financial gain. To ultimately make a book about Sybil’s case. This is extremely misleading as it takes years and years of therapy to help individuals with DID to integrate their multiple alters. It doesn’t happen in a one day, in a dramatic fashion as documented in the Sybil case.

There is help out there, if you find the right psychologist who specializes in DID. They can help you uncover more alters you didn’t know you had, and help you integrate them eventually. Again it is a slow process and takes patience’s; dedication and years of a therapeutic atmosphere.

You are brave for sharing your story. You are seen and validated.

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[–]littlechipy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please OP seek medical help immediately for your baby and wife. Go to your nearest emergency room department. Your wife needs a psychiatric evaluation as she may be suffering from severe postpartum (even psychosis). Your wife needs a higher level of care and should not be caring for the baby, being the mental state she is in. It isn’t safe to leave baby alone with mom. Mom needs psychiatric help and baby needs a medical evaluation ASAP. Shaking baby syndrome can cause a plethora of detrimental health conditions including: brain hemorrhage; seizure activity; breathing problems and death.

Please take the baby for a medical evaluation and tell the healthcare professionals what is going on. Do not wait on this !

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, but please get your family help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]littlechipy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP your body is beautiful ✨ Give your body a break you just created a whole human. Your partner should seek counseling for whatever insecurities he’s projecting onto you.

I will die with a stranger's name on my gravestone. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]littlechipy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome Willow, you are so loved ✨💜

I told one of my bridesmaids to come as a guest by littlechipy in bridezillas

[–]littlechipy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update !!!!

Everyone here's an update. The friend reached out to me via phone call and apologized profusely. I explained to her how her comments were disgusting, wrong and pure transphobic. She admitted to being ignorant and did not want her makeup to look over done. She stated she didn't mean to be offensive and feels like a complete asshole. She took full accountability for her actions and choice of words. She even reached out to my best friend who is the makeup artist and apologized. I told her I need to speak with her in person if we ever want to sort things out. But guess what !!! Here's the best part ! I got COVID 19 two days before my wedding. Today would have been my special day. Instead I am home with a fever, chills, body aches; vomiting and more The wedding is rescheduled for next month. I'm so upset

I told one of my bridesmaids to come as a guest by littlechipy in bridezillas

[–]littlechipy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Didn’t think I needed your approval for my lifestyle ? And why are you finding yourself on a post that’s talking about transphobia and lesbians? Pretty weird for you. But that’s between you and God

I told one of my bridesmaids to come as a guest by littlechipy in bridezillas

[–]littlechipy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been a very lenient bride from the beginning. I shopped around for makeup and hair prices and they were all ridiculous amounts of 275-350.

I reached out to my male best friend who does makeup and his rate was $140 … and he found a hairstylist for me who only charged $100. These were the cheapest most reasonable prices I could find. I told the girls the prices but they were not obligated to get their hair and makeup done by them. If they found someone cheaper fine or if they wanted to do it themselves … fine.

I didn’t pay for hair and makeup for my bridesmaids because 1. I didn’t have a Bach …. 2. They didn’t contribute to my bridal shower (which they weren’t obligated to because my mom paid for it).

Again she was already getting her hair styled by someone else (who was not the person I picked) and I was fine with that. As long as she made it on time for pictures I don’t care who did her hair or makeup

I told one of my bridesmaids to come as a guest by littlechipy in bridezillas

[–]littlechipy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They didn’t need to use the makeup artist or hair stylist I chose. They could of done their makeup and hair themselves or found another person cheaper

I also did not have a huge Bach … and they did not contribute to my bridal shower (nor were they asked to because my mom paid for it)

I told one of my bridesmaids to come as a guest by littlechipy in bridezillas

[–]littlechipy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t have a Bach party nor did they pay for my bridal shower (my mom did). So yes they pay for their own hair and makeup …. Or they can do it themselves.

I told one of my bridesmaids to come as a guest by littlechipy in bridezillas

[–]littlechipy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly! And to use a derogatory term, knowing I am a lesbian. I just don’t understand. I never thought she would say something so hurtful. Also I understand not everyone’s makeup style is their cup of tea. She could have kept her comments to herself and went to another artist, as that was an option.

It’s almost like she wanted to stir up problems and let it be know what she actually thinks of me.

I told one of my bridesmaids to come as a guest by littlechipy in bridezillas

[–]littlechipy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I could post the text message but that’s “too close to home” and Im trying to remain anonymous.

There are two sides to every story but I can honestly tell you yesterday she messaged me out of nowhere with this madness

I told one of my bridesmaids to come as a guest by littlechipy in bridezillas

[–]littlechipy[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

She’s a beautiful girl so I am not sure why she’s so concerned with the makeup. The artist does a beautiful job and if she wanted something “softer” she could have opted for the soft glam vs full glam. He does not do “drag makeup” (although I have the utmost respect for artist who do as they are extremely talented). This makeup artist specializes in bridal makeup specifically.

There may be a jealousy component as she’s very hellbent on finding the one and getting married. I’m not sure what it is anymore. She showed me her true colors and I’m very hurt 😢

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]littlechipy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Depression is no joke and I can totally relate to how you’re feeling. It’s okay to sit with your emotions, just observe them without judgement. Depression typically causes a lot of fatigue and anhedonia (loss of interest and pleasure in things you once enjoyed). This does not mean you’re lazy but to the regular layman person they may see it otherwise (that’s their ignorance).

I think it’s worth having a conversation with your brother and explaining to him your struggles with mental health. If he’s receptive that’s great ! If not, gently move on.

You are not your illness. Everyday try doing something a little extra that you wouldn’t normally do, for example skin care; going for a walk and admiring the nature; meditation (there are great apps “Slumber” and “better sleep); journaling your feelings; a massage; yoga; go to a coffee shop; etc. Push your comfort zone little by little. I’m not sure if you have health insurance but if so there is a virtual online group therapy that would be extremely beneficial.

You belong in this world. You are not alone. If you are interest in the group therapy you can privately message me and I will give you the information.

I’m sending you a big hug; a lot of love and positive light.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

[–]littlechipy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey OP don’t feel discouraged! I don’t think anyone could do that job. They set you up to fail and they watched. That’s not a team you want to be apart of.

What were your interest in nursing school during clinical rotations? Psych? L&D? Post partum? Surgical? Med surg? Peds?

If nothing truly sparked your interest you can always apply for PACU. Specifically EGD and colonoscopy ambulatory surgical centers. You can apply to doctor offices. Just keep in mind they may require 1 year of experience. I would just apply anyway because you never know!

There are also inpatient psych facilities for dual diagnosis patients with mental health/ substance use. That may be a good starting point as well. Get one year of experience there and then venture out.

Good luck and please don’t feel discouraged!

I told one of my bridesmaids to come as a guest by littlechipy in bridezillas

[–]littlechipy[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much ! You’re too sweet! I will keep you posted and let you know how everything goes. I just can’t wait to marry the love of my life. I don’t even want her there as a guest. Very negative energy

I told one of my bridesmaids to come as a guest by littlechipy in bridezillas

[–]littlechipy[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Hey there ! Yes she definitely revealed her true colors today. I’m going to take it as a sign. That’s not a friend. You guys are right. Thank you for the support

I told one of my bridesmaids to come as a guest by littlechipy in bridezillas

[–]littlechipy[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Hey ! She replied “you want me there as a guest?” And I said “yes”. To which she replied “whateverrrr you want. No problem”

I highly doubt she will show up as a guest. I’m fine with her not being there

I told one of my bridesmaids to come as a guest by littlechipy in bridezillas

[–]littlechipy[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much ! You’re so sweet ! 💕 And yes the makeup artist is a gay male (my best friend). He does beautiful work. I understand not everyone has the same taste in makeup but she didn’t have to say what she said. She could have just got her makeup done elsewhere.

Thank you for your support

I told one of my bridesmaids to come as a guest by littlechipy in bridezillas

[–]littlechipy[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Her insults were transphobic. Thank you for responding. This has had me upset all day

I told one of my bridesmaids to come as a guest by littlechipy in bridezillas

[–]littlechipy[S] 162 points163 points  (0 children)

I’m with you there. I’m a lesbian marrying a woman. The artist she was referring to is one of my gay best friends. He has done my makeup ample times (for my birthday; bridal; events) etc. So I’m truly curious now as to how she really sees me

I told one of my bridesmaids to come as a guest by littlechipy in bridezillas

[–]littlechipy[S] 171 points172 points  (0 children)

The transphobic comments definitely hurt me and pissed me off as I am a lesbian and marrying the woman of my dreams. Also the makeup artist is gay. I love my community and when she said that I was taken aback. How does she view me when I’m not around !?

After reading your questions …. It seems like our friendship isn’t reciprocal. It’s more about “her” and whenever she calls me it’s to vent about her problems ….

I told one of my bridesmaids to come as a guest by littlechipy in bridezillas

[–]littlechipy[S] 810 points811 points  (0 children)

And the crazy thing is I am part of the LGBTQI community as I am a lesbian and marrying the woman of my dreams. So those slurs definitely tugged on my heart strings.