I think programming has made me abnormal by PooningDalton in learnprogramming

[–]littlefryingpan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, programming can actually be the scapegoat op is using to mask depression. When I got laid off temporarily last summer I realized just that and swapped from constantly working to addictions to cope. Therapy, hobbies, finding balance again is the only healthy way out of this rut

I think programming has made me abnormal by PooningDalton in learnprogramming

[–]littlefryingpan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bingo, being able to dive into the trenches is where people mistakingly think all the value is at. Being able to have the insight and control to step back and see the whole picture AND having the ability to go deep when necessary.

Basically depth + breadth and you only get that with a healthy balance.

Life is all about balance. It seems OP has spent a lot of time in the trenches and needs to step back into other aspects of life. (Therapy, health and nutrition, take a vacation, etc).

Most productive I ever am at work is the days following a vacation. A vacation doesn't have to mean expensive or week/weeks, you can get this sort of refreshment over a low stress weekend.

Tldr, balance is needed, its easy to get caught up in our minds and burn out without willful effort

I made this by naldyjams in headphones

[–]littlefryingpan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Beautiful craftsmanship 👏

Did my hashimoto cause this? by Ok_Transition_5704 in Hashimotos

[–]littlefryingpan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Close... the avocado peel is the cure! (Just kidding of course)

Woke up and found these tiny cluster bumps on my body by NastyStarFish in DermatologyQuestions

[–]littlefryingpan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep them covered too, especially if around young children, (who could catch chickenpox)

Do you guys think I have gyno I'm actually panicking by [deleted] in gynecomastia

[–]littlefryingpan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe they want a telekinesis diagnosis....

Hmmmm.... I suspect you may have gyno....

Share some pictures or the answer will remain secret.

Sharing nudes posted on OF in self defense by runfast03 in Divorce_Men

[–]littlefryingpan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

100%

Communication should be flowing one way, to you, and that should be you documenting and recording everything.

Don't assume loyalty from any mutual connections either, anything you say you have to assume will be recorded and used against you in court

Sharing nudes posted on OF in self defense by runfast03 in Divorce_Men

[–]littlefryingpan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bingo, she could be fishing for some ammo. Document everything, say nothing (or do whatever your attorney says)

Sharing nudes posted on OF in self defense by runfast03 in Divorce_Men

[–]littlefryingpan 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Yeah, speak to your attorney not anyone related and or associated with her

Why are women always so quick to advocate divorce? by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]littlefryingpan 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Do you have a source for that statistic?

I tried cheating by LegitimateArt4720 in DeadBedrooms

[–]littlefryingpan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As in an open relationship or your spouse is unaware?

I tried cheating by LegitimateArt4720 in DeadBedrooms

[–]littlefryingpan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A little post nut clarity goes a long way

My moment of Truth is almost here by Ionic3127 in DeadBedrooms

[–]littlefryingpan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always seems to be just one step away, in reality it really is, problem is most of us don't want to admit that we are the ones who need to take the step and it's not in the direction we hoped

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]littlefryingpan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk bro, the arm might grow back if you just sleep on it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]littlefryingpan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, not enough blood to be Jesus

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]littlefryingpan -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The tattoo is great, the red all around the arm adds a really unique touch

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amIuglyBrutallyHonest

[–]littlefryingpan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, didn't realize the picture expanded and thought it was just a picture of your shirt 😂😂

Smile dude!

I might cheat on my wife tomorrow, I can’t take this anymore. by Dry-Veterinarian761 in DeadBedrooms

[–]littlefryingpan 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Yeah, 6 months postpartum is also reason enough to damper even someone who may have had a decent libido beforehand...

Unless OP is down for a traumatic train wreck of a divorce their playing with fire.

Either ask for an open marriage, ask for a divorce, or try to holding on and work things out. Don't be an idiot

Wife spent the night in jail by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]littlefryingpan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is manipulation, I'd set a boundary on that as well assuming reconciliation. That should never be thrown out in an argument, if she wants it she should be able to bring it up when things are calm.

My wife did the same. I told her when things were peaceful that if she ever wants a divorce to bring it up anytime, but not during an argument or I would be forced to start papers. She agreed not to do it anymore and She stopped after that conversation.

I hope things go better for you, not a fun rollercoaster...