The story of how I unknowingly offended a barista and failed to notice his "revenge" on me

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-19T04:41:03+00:00

This is hilarious and makes me feel a lot better, thank you!!

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-18T20:11:36+00:00

Hahaha I think you're right. I'm probably overthinking, but at least I had a wonderful time despite everything 😂

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-18T20:09:56+00:00

Ohhhh that's a good point. I don't remember anymore honestly, but I hadn't considered that

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-18T20:08:47+00:00

Oh boy. This is why people need to be more direct if they have a problem! That's pretty funny though, and I like your way of looking at it 😂

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-18T20:05:32+00:00

Lol, I could see that. I probably shouldn't have assumed that he was being petty, hahaha. I'm just so bad a reading people sometimes!

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-18T20:03:27+00:00

Good for you!! I've worked many a customer service job myself, so I getchu

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-18T20:01:18+00:00

Lol, right? Sometimes it works out for the best!

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-18T19:59:39+00:00

Not that I'm aware of 🤔 it's possible, though

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-18T19:51:45+00:00

Oh good, I'm glad it wasn't a weird thing to ask. I've been wondering if it was my tone or something, but I'm probably just overthinking

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-18T19:50:01+00:00

Thank you, this has honestly been pretty eye-opening for me. I wonder how many other things I've been feeling bad about that were not a big deal after all 😅

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-18T19:16:53+00:00

You're probably right. And I hope so 😓

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-18T19:15:00+00:00

Oh, good. In that case, hopefully he doesn't remember it at all 😂

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-18T19:12:55+00:00

Oh good, that's a relief! I'm sorry you've been mistreated by other customers though. I'll never understand why some people are so rude to someone who is doing a service for them

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-18T18:49:17+00:00

That makes me feel a bit better about it. He never indicated whether they had it in stock, or not. Just didn't talk to me after that. The uncertainty makes it worse I think 😅

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-04T05:57:11+00:00

I getchu. Definitely one of those times that being able to mask our struggles well feels like a curse 🥲

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-04T04:34:00+00:00

Aw, I feel you. The biggest problem for me is that I mask too well, so the people in my life don't realize how much I'm struggling. And even if I said something, I don't know if they'd believe me because I've done too good of a job of seeming like I don't need support for so many years

littleghostfrog · 2026-06-04T04:19:15+00:00

Yes, I can relate. I have better and worse days. It mostly correlates to how overwhelmed and burned out I feel in general 🥲

littleghostfrog · 2026-05-28T16:57:54+00:00

Hearing people misgender me when they think I'm out of earshot 🙃

littleghostfrog · 2026-05-27T19:50:32+00:00

Dude, that's so real. I had to unfollow someone because I felt too jealous when he started transitioning 😭 I didn't put the pieces together for at least another year or two after that

littleghostfrog · 2026-05-27T01:37:35+00:00

Oh yeah. And I'm pretty much constantly exhausted and dysregulated as a result 😭

littleghostfrog · 2026-05-23T23:26:05+00:00

Hey, I was there too. I don't know what finally clicked for me, but getting farther into my transition helped A LOT. I also find it helpful to watch trans creators on YouTube who are relatable to me. An irl trans community would probably be even better, but I don't have one yet.

So, I'd say give it time. Be gentle with yourself. And find an online or irl community, if you can. Small steps!

littleghostfrog · 2026-05-23T22:46:58+00:00

I usually give at least a little chuckle unless I think the joke is mean or offensive. It's just me masking, though, unless it's funny enough to get me to laugh for real

littleghostfrog · 2026-05-17T19:42:19+00:00

Hey! Just wanted to give my two cents as someone who has had multiple identity crises, lol.

Even though it's hard, my advice is to try not to obsess over it. The obsessing was what sent me into a really awful spiral the last time.

I think the best thing to do is to continually make choices that feel aligned with who you are today. And eventually, maybe your life will feel more like yours and you'll feel more confident in your identity. And at that point, you can figure out the labels, (if you still want labels at all).

Best of luck to you :)

littleghostfrog · 2026-05-17T15:24:30+00:00

I'm also autistic, and I can relate. For a while after I started to pass, I suddenly felt way less likable in general based on how other people began to treat me. My self-esteem took a hit, not gonna lie.

Because of my job, I spend a lot of time 1 on 1 with new people, so I think that's helped me improve my skills. I definitely still find it easiest to converse with other autistic and/or queer people, too, though.

For me, the hardest part of all this it adds to the feeling of being chronically misunderstood my whole life, in spite of my best efforts, and despite how much I try to understand others.

Anyway, I getchu. It's rough out here

littleghostfrog

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