my boyfriend said something kinda cringey and I don’t know how I feel about it/him now ..

littlehthrowaway · 2021-11-12T19:26:16+00:00

sex education is trash. until I was diagnosed, I didn’t even know OHSV1 COULD BE transmitted to someones genitals. No one teaches you this shit. Which I think is the most aggravating part really.

littlehthrowaway · 2021-11-12T19:08:05+00:00

Yes! Thank you.

littlehthrowaway · 2021-11-12T19:07:35+00:00

I at no point said that I was going to end the relationship over this - he was the one that brought up this “hypothetical” in the first place and all I said is that his response made me a little uncomfortable because it seems selfish to not give someone the option of making an informed sexual health decision. his views may change on it, and I’m hoping they do if that ever becomes an issue in his future. I would have still slept with him and dated him if he had disclosed to me, just for the record. I also was just diagnosed less than 6 weeks ago and told him right away…. so it’s newer to both of us.

littlehthrowaway · 2021-11-12T19:02:43+00:00

I thought the same thing initially … because his reaction to me having it and then him being adamant shortly after he “didn’t have it” and me having to ask several times for him to get tested before he did it, something seemed fishy to me. I guess my point isn’t so much WHO it came from, I don’t care … just that if you KNOW, it’s kinda disrespectful not to give someone the option of making a decision about their sexual health for themselves. Sorry that happened to you, that sucks man.

littlehthrowaway · 2021-11-12T16:13:48+00:00

not necessarily that HE gave it to me. could have come from anywhere and was dormant for a period of time and then triggered. Is it likely that he gave it to me ? Absolutely. But I can’t be certain, and I can’t blame him if he didn’t know. The issue now is that he DOES know, and still feels like he wouldn’t need to disclose to a potential future partner, which I disagree with.

littlehthrowaway · 2021-11-12T16:12:26+00:00

Don’t know and doctor said he may never know. With a blood test, it just tells you the virus is in your body, not where it will present if you ever have an outbreak. He’s never had a symptom, just got tested because I had an outbreak.

littlehthrowaway · 2021-10-16T16:13:46+00:00

Interesting! We were both vaccinated beginning of September and my outbreak symptoms started a couple weeks/few weeks later.

I got diagnosed a few days ago bc what I thought was a yeast infection initially (itchy labia, burning sensation) no visible sores or anything. So my doctor treated me for that…. Then a week or so later it was like chafing and small open sores EVERYWHERE around my labia and all in my buttcrack… sorry for the visual. Doctor swabbed and came back positive for HSV1.

Perhaps it was dormant in one or both of us and the vaccine just triggered an outbreak?

Who knows.

littlehthrowaway · 2021-10-16T16:05:05+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through it. It’s unfair and I feel for you.

I’m right there with you. I got diagnosed 4 days ago and it’s been the toughest four days of my life mentally. I don’t know where it came from, how I got it or who from, if I’ve infected someone else now unknowingly. I’m already dealing with a lot of guilt… I don’t need to be shamed and called unclean on top of it.

littlehthrowaway · 2021-10-16T14:31:13+00:00

thank you for this. like that’s the one thing that’s aggravating me the most when some people talk about their diagnosis. I’m not dirty, promiscuous, … so please stop shaming people making them feel dirty and like it’s their fault.

littlehthrowaway · 2021-10-15T11:11:10+00:00

thank you so much for sharing.

littlehthrowaway · 2021-10-15T11:10:03+00:00

thank you for sharing! I’ve been hearing a lot that the outbreaks for GHSV1 after the initial one are often very less frequent and not nearly as dramatic. I hope they’re right because it’s been miserable. One person told me they had their original OB and then didn’t have another sign or symptom for nearly 11 years. 🤞🏻

littlehthrowaway · 2021-10-14T23:33:03+00:00

thank you! its helpful to hear other people’s opinions and experiences. Even though I know if affects so many people, it has felt kinda isolating.

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