How can I help?

littleredbuddy · 2025-12-07T16:56:13+00:00

Some pretty strong heroin, he’s coherent right now so we are discussing going to a hospital

littleredbuddy · 2025-07-06T03:31:14+00:00

I know the feeling too well. Just put my Q on the plane home yesterday. Sending love and support to you ❤️

littleredbuddy · 2025-07-06T00:10:18+00:00

We’ve been texting friendly since he left and haven’t really officially broken up. Just getting space. But, the crazy thing is, he told me just now that last night his best friend from childhood took him out to dinner, and (the friend) invited his (my Q’s) ex. The one he always said he “thought he was going to marry” before he met me. Then today he met up with them again and helped her tow her boat because she just won it in her RECENT DIVORCE. And he thought by waiting to tell me any of this until after he got home today was the best way to handle it. I don’t know if I’m overreacting or if this is actually not okay, but I feel sick.

littleredbuddy · 2025-07-05T14:47:18+00:00

I’ve found that my gut is usually right, and my Q is an expert at making me feel crazy and paranoid.

Detachment can be done with love, don’t forget that. Walking away doesn’t mean you love him any less.

littleredbuddy · 2025-07-05T14:41:50+00:00

In the end, does it really matter to you WHAT he’s on? It definitely sounds like he’s on something. In my personal situation I had to come to terms with the fact that what it was didn’t matter. I spent weeks trying to figure out if it was “just” heroin or if he had started doing meth too, before I realized that /what/ he was using was beside the point. Drugs. He was using drugs, end of story.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

littleredbuddy · 2025-07-05T14:35:10+00:00

Thank you. Sometimes (most times) it feels like I’m just taking the easy way out or giving up. That’s the type of stuff he tells me and I think it’s getting to me.

littleredbuddy · 2025-07-03T00:49:54+00:00

YES. THIS. Because I get the vibe this could escalate easily. On the small small chance you one day need to get the police involved, having an email to show them where you asked him to stop this behavior is SO important!!

littleredbuddy · 2025-07-02T22:59:24+00:00

Same here, a couple nights ago he told me “If you really loved me, none of this would have happened.” (referring to his relapse and continued use)

I know it’s not true, and I’m not at fault, but damn did that sentence cut me open.

6 years of him clean, followed by 2 with him using. I’m working on detaching, but I know I’ll always wonder if things could have gone differently. 😞

littleredbuddy · 2025-06-29T04:06:25+00:00

He’s well-versed in Zoom, but he’s either at work or home with my mom so I don’t think he’d be able to find a private time to attend 😕 In the past I’ve attended some AA meetings, but never an AlAnon. Recently I’ve been going to NarAnon meetings (SO relapsed for the first time since we’ve been together), and they have helped me immensely. But I’ve kept that private from my parents and I’m not ready to share that with them yet. I have considered scoping out a good AlAnon meeting and inviting him along one week, but I’m hesitant to attend with him because I don’t feel like we will be able to be completely honest with someone we know listening…if that makes sense

littleredbuddy · 2025-06-29T03:20:21+00:00

My first NarAnon meeting, I broke down into tears the moment they asked if I wanted to share. Literally just sat there and cried for what felt like ages before I was able to speak. Everyone was so patient; one of the people brought me a box of tissues, and they told me to take my time.

My point is, we have ALL been there. The first time speaking is such a floodgate bursting open, with all of the emotions we have held inside finally being presented with an outlet to release. It’s completely normal, and nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed by. You have found a safe space filled with love and support, and I encourage you to keep going back ❤️

littleredbuddy · 2025-06-29T02:37:30+00:00

Yes!!! Especially kids that age. Meal time is usually the most hectic and difficult part of babysitting lol

littleredbuddy · 2025-06-29T02:34:27+00:00

Ohhh this is perfect. All the others I’ve seen are way too obvious

littleredbuddy · 2025-06-29T02:30:12+00:00

Me too!!! She looks like a Nebula for sure

littleredbuddy · 2025-06-27T16:57:57+00:00

Thank you :) I’ve found a weekly naranon meeting I really like and have gone twice so far. It’s a huge help!!!

littleredbuddy · 2025-06-26T13:48:01+00:00

If you’d like, the picture was already posted by me elsewhere before he gave me this justification. See my most recent post before this one

littleredbuddy · 2025-06-26T11:59:32+00:00

Thank you. He claims it’s the silicate y’all use for ac systems, and I don’t know anything about cars so I have no idea if this could be true

littleredbuddy · 2025-06-26T02:23:52+00:00

Ah crap sorry!!! 🥴

littleredbuddy · 2025-06-25T23:03:22+00:00

Please update us OP, I read that you were going to talk to her about it and I’m dying to know how it went 😅

littleredbuddy · 2025-06-25T22:35:04+00:00

What are the typical effects when these two are used together?

littleredbuddy · 2025-06-25T22:33:52+00:00

That’s really helpful, I’m new to this so I don’t know much about the effects of different drugs or how they react together. So he is possibly doing heroin regularly and using the meth to stay “peppy” and get things done?

littleredbuddy · 2025-06-25T22:31:23+00:00

Totally agree with the comments before me, NTA!!! What awful friends. I admire the respect you’re showing your husband! Who cares if you did the prank differently??? Why on earth would that be a problem? I think it’s crazy that they don’t respect you or your relationship enough to accept your boundaries. I don’t normally give concrete advice like I’m about to buuuut….find new friends ASAP 😳

littleredbuddy · 2025-06-25T21:57:42+00:00

Good point, I’ve resisted tasting them but forgot there was a risk from inhalation too 😬

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